Is It Alright To Have Sex Before Marriage???

Question

You know when your a virgin and your like “I’m gonna keep my virginity until I meet the right guy”? But if he is the RIGHT guy then why don't you marry him then have sex with him???
I’m just curious… I not trying to tell anyone what to do…. Just thinking….

I’m not religious… though I want to keep myself for the right guy… so if I wait until I’m married it’s not like I’ll know he’s horrible right???

Answer 1

That is a moral decision you have to make.

personally, I am sad that I had sex too early in my relationship, as it changed the dynamic of the realtionship

Answer 2

Here's the most intellectually honest thing I can say on the subject. Your body doesn't know whether or not you're married. Sex in marriage and premarital sex feel EXACTLY the same.

That being said, there are unintended consequences that are best mitigated by marriage (or at least a very long term committed relationship). Consider...

You don't want to get really comfortable with someone, end up doing some really freaky crap that you wouldn't want your friends knowing about and then breaking up with someone who would then have incentive to tell your friends about it.

There are also the inevitabilities that given enough tests birth control will fail (if a condom is 99% effective, who wants to be that 100th test subject). There are also STD's to consider.

Worse yet, you may feel obligated to marry someone who isn't right for you somewhat on the basis of having an on-going physical relationship.

The bottom line is, sex is great BUT there is nothing more expensive in this life than regret.

Answer 3

What does God have to say on this subject? That's the problem with most women today. They think that since the "sexual revolution" of the drug induced hippie days of the 1960's that they are free to do whatever they please without consequence.

Pop the pill and rock and roll. Not that Cheap Trick doesn't do an awesome job but that's another subject entirely.

When women have sex outside of marriage so easily men just see them as sexual objects. It's like having a candy store that gives out free candy to any kid that walks in. Why would anyone want to buy the stuff if they're giving it away for nothing.

When will women learn? And what does God think?

Answer 4

Well I personally dont think so. Sex changes everything. If the guy truly loves u and u truly love the guy then both should be able to wait. IF u cant wait then u need to reevaluate the relationship. A relationship should never be based on sex it should have a real foundation with mutual and real feeling towards each other. I actually had one guy tell me that I could not be his girlfriend unless i had sex with him but I followed what I thought was right and Im glad I did. People look up to the fact that im waiting till marriage.

Answer 5

My response would be no, but I am an old fashion person with old fashion values. Sex is powerful enough to cause a man to become responsible enough to raise a family. I always tell my friends, why would "he" buy the cow if "he" is getting the milk for free? I think you are correct in assuming that one should wait until marriage to have sex.

Answer 6

I agree with you, if you think someone is the right one, then you should just get married, and then have sex with this person. There are to many people out there that say they thought the person was the right one, and that is why they slept with them. This is a stupid excuse, and they should have just waited until they knew for sure that this person was the right person.

Answer 7

Juliana, I easily have a feeling you have already made up you ideas in this one. permit me supply your some very very own and direct advice. I easily have been married three times. have not got time to describe why three times...believe me in this one...I had intercourse before marriage with the two females who I later divorced....I held out and made particular that i did not repeat the errors a third time. i want you to comprehend as a male, there exchange into something particular by way of fact we waited and that i entered into this marriage very useful approximately being "committed to my spouse" and feeling that I had God's blessing in this marriage...believe me you will not be apologetic approximately conserving out........

Answer 8

In Today's society it seems so many are doing it before Marriage, but I really do not think everyone is.. there are still young men and young women that care to wait for marriage to have sex. I truly believe that when you wait it is special and you will be treated special all your life.. trust me on this.. I know..

Answer 9

Yes. You have to remember that there isn't a choice to be either a slut or a virgin. There is a happy middle where about 99% of people fall. They have sex when it's right for them.

Sex is an important part of a relationship. It's a part of someone that you will have to live with forever marriage.

I think sex before marriage might be considered future Divorce-prevention! lol

Answer 10

Nowadays, no one really sticks to tradition. People live together before even thinking about marriage and don't think twice about it. Even then, the actual marriage vows aren't even important to some people. PERSONALLY, I should've waited until I got married. But I don't like to obsess with woulda-shoulda-coulda's. If you want to (and you find yourself in the circumstances you mentioned in your question) then go ahead. Otherwise, as the saying goes 'Keep your shirt on.' Just stick to your guns and wait it out. You'll probably feel ALOT better.