I am interested in a guy from work and I asked him if he would like to hang out on friday.He refused and said his bro is going to be in town.I was also supposed to go to his church group with someone else, but since she wasn't in town, he offered to take me, but I refused.The next day he emailed me and asked if I was up for lunch.I refused beause I had a meeting, and gave another time and date.He accepted and we went out.During lunch he asked me if I was still talking to my ex, what is my fav movie, and other general conversation.He paid for the lunch. We both had a good time and his bro is really coming to visit him for the weekend.So should I assume he likes me?And what should I do next?Should I ask him out or wait for him to ask me for our 'real' first date. I am not sure what the next logical step would be. Please advice and moreover, is it safe for me assume that he is interested?
2007-01-14 15:09:38 · 24 answers · asked by Someone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am a female.
2007-01-14 15:15:02 · update #1
Most dating advice I have read lately says that until you are "official" most dates will be on weekdays. Friday nights and Saturdays are for family, close buddies and exclusive relationships. I wouldn't take the no on the Friday night thing as he doesn't like you. He seems interested...ask him out for lunch again, don't push the weekend thing, make sure you have you own plans for Fri and Sat night, that way you are busy instead of over eager. Good luck!
2007-01-14 15:14:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, just being me, I would wait and let things take their natural course, while just carrying on normally with him.
There's no need to jump into relationships, especially before you really know someone. Everyone seems great while courting, because they put on the "I'm a great, nice guy" mask, but anyone knows how incredibly high the divorce rate is, and how few people really are worth it once the mask comes off. Reason? Jumping into a relationship before you even know someone.
I'd spare myself making some serious mistakes and take my time. Yes, he seems great now, but do your research before jumping into anything you'll regret later. You may look back later (and it's statistically very likely) and say, "If only I had waited a month or so."
Hope it helps :) Just what I would do.
2007-01-14 23:20:55 · answer #2 · answered by Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, from what I read he's interested. You don't even have to formally ask him out on a date. Just keep hanging out with eachother and it's most likely going to progress. Preferably one on one if possible but with friends is ok. There might not be a "real" first date like you see in the movies with all the formal "I really like you, would you like to go out sometime?" "Oh I'd love to pick me up at 7." People can date without admitting it to eachother. It's a weird game us humans have invented. And he already asked you out for lunch after you asked him to hang out....that's a big heads up.
2007-01-14 23:19:36 · answer #3 · answered by treebark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him out? You have to be a teeny bopper. You work with him right, you will see him again...let it play itself out. Believe it or not you already had a first "real" date. Just because you didn't officially dub it as a "date" doesn't mean a real date would be any different. If you really like him and it seem like he is interested too just go with the flow. By the way, he is interested, don't ruin it by getting clingy.
2007-01-14 23:15:25 · answer #4 · answered by El Tigre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that he is definitely interested in you. The only question is how interested. If I was you, I would go ahead and make the first move, atleast then you will know how interested he is in you. If he refuses, then you know that he may be unsure if he likes you in that way or not. I would suggest asking him to go somewhere that would be casual, atleast that way if he is not interested in you in a Girlfriend type of relationship, you will find out without feeling stupid, or looking like you like him. Just ask him to go somewhere like out to dinner or something, maybe try to make it work related, like you have something on your mind about work and wanted to talk about it with him. Chance are that if he is interested in you, he will then make the next move on you. I hope this helps.
2007-01-14 23:16:59 · answer #5 · answered by Berg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sounds has though the guy likes you but I would not start assuming this guy wants a relationship. If his schedules permits, ask him out on a real date and see where it goes. Good Luck.
2007-01-14 23:30:34 · answer #6 · answered by Vivian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is interested. Make a date for the weekend after. Ask him, Good luck
2007-01-14 23:13:36 · answer #7 · answered by ferrisfamily@rogers.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he was seriously busy when you asked him to hang out the first time. Yes he's interested or he would have come up with some thing lame to avoid seeing you.
2007-01-14 23:14:13 · answer #8 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you don't even know if he's gay or bi...so you you need to ask that question first. Because he's not gay or bi you would feel very stupid and hurtful. Once that's out of the way then you can move on to finding out if that person is interested in you.
2007-01-14 23:26:24 · answer #9 · answered by Andrew H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd assume that he's interested. But let him ask you on your first "real" date. Just give it a bit of time.
2007-01-14 23:13:06 · answer #10 · answered by tommygirl86711 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋