I have been in an emotionally abusive relationship. I am fool still, I yet like her. I don't even know what I am attracted to. I worry she will find better than me. We are broken up but I still have feelings and crap. She just seems so cool when we are alone but with a whole bunch of people and mainly her friends it is a totally different person. I think she has bi polar too. She tells me all my flaws makes everything my problem. She is controlling and I can't tell you why I am still interested in her. She makes out in front of me with other guys and girls. She strips at parties. She explains her undying love of her ex-boyfriends. She doesn't even respect me. How do I become clean and never think about her??
2007-01-14 15:09:22 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay! You've already broken up! I say HOORAY! You have already taken the first steps to protecting yourself from this neurotic little nymph. Now you just need to get her out of your system.... AND you need to know how to do that. Well, how about finding a another girl....a nice one and asking her out to a movie? Just a movie..... Then go out with another..... and another.... and another... In other words, put some distance between yourself and her emotionally. Dating can help you do that. Goal? Just to have some fun, not to fall in love.
If you have a hobby, now would be a good time to dive into it for little while. Do something to distract yourself whenever you find yourself starting to think about her.
Spend some time with the guy friends....tell them about her..... or not..... They might know how to move on faster.... You deserve better than what you've had.... Don't settle for less this time!
Good luck to you.... And Stay away from the nut!
2007-01-14 17:10:26 · answer #1 · answered by Brenda 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This may be hard to hear but it comes from personal experience. Until you deal with the underlying issue, you may continue to be attracted to the same type of person so I might suggest you seek some therapy or find out why you would put up with someone who would treat you this way. I did for over 2 years. You see the underlying problem has to do with your own insecurities and low self esteem. There are plenty of ways to work that out and get into a healthy relationship. The sooner you start working on that, the sooner this girl will become a bad memory. That I can promise you. Good luck.
2007-01-14 15:18:10 · answer #2 · answered by bella36 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You will continue with this thing until you get tired of it enough to just leave ,,,, If you aren't in a hurry to do so right now then just give it time ,,,, Nature will take it's course ,,,, In the meat time just bide your time and allow her to continue making a fool of you and humiliating you ,,,, Every one else sees this too ,,,, You evidently have no self respect ,,,,, It's for certain she doesn't have any for you either regardless of whether you are alone or in a crowd,,,,
2007-01-14 17:58:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man... that's bad. The girl's a psycho, and you need to move on. What you need to do, is flirt around. Get yourself back into the dating pool. All the better if you can find someone at a party, BETER STILL if she's there to witness it. If she gets jealous and confronts you, tell the b!t
2007-01-14 15:15:01
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If i were you i would just keep distance from her. She sounds like nothing but trouble. Just think of all the people that you are missing out on meeting by still thinking and wasting your time on her... No way should anyone put up with being treated like that.Once you find someone that treats you well i bet you will forget about her and resent the time wasted on trying to put up with her. Hang out with friends not associated with her and move on.
Look elsewhere and in time you will find someone that will make you forget all about her, and don't look back..
I think it's hard to let go of someone you are attached to but it's definitely for the best if they are treating you as described.
2007-01-14 16:41:44 · answer #5 · answered by KB31 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
OK get over her you don't have to find a another. she is the kind of person that cares about what her friends say so she is not good nos a persons if she mean to you one min. then loves you the next
2007-01-14 15:18:58 · answer #6 · answered by cutiepie j 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You feel like you need her to validate your feelings about yourself. Has anyone else important in your life acted like this towards you? You have to realize your too good for her. Then keep busy being too good for her.
2007-01-14 15:15:46 · answer #7 · answered by ☺☻☺☻☺☻ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask yourself what type of woman do you want in your life? Obviously she's not, therefore I suggest that you focus on what you want and the things that make you happy and ignore thoughts of her.
2007-01-14 15:15:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if someone treats you like cr*p...just leave it be...and find someone else...you sound like you don't respect yourself by wanting to be associated with someone like that...i stay away from people that are fake...maybe she is misleading you and talking sh*t about you to her friends...that should get you to think twice...
2007-01-14 15:14:03 · answer #9 · answered by kowalley 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
SORRY TO SAY BUT SHE DON'T LOVE NO ONE BUT HERSELF. SHE IS NOT WORTH. MOVE ONE. YOU CAN FIND SOMEONE ELSE
2007-01-14 15:16:09 · answer #10 · answered by raquel j 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋