well,i do,but it doesnt get me very many friends. it's not like one of my friends,she gets so many more friends. i'm very nice and all,but it just doesnt have that spark like my friend.i dont have much self confidence. whats wrong and what should i do? should i just be myself? i dont know where i fit in. very confused! please help!
2007-01-14 15:05:23 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Yes, just be yourself.
That's going to take some hard work, methinks. I bet you haven't really figured out who "yourself" is; but you don't seem to like you.
You notice I'm not giving you advice on how to change your personality to get more friends. I want you to figure out who you are and get to like you.
Don't compare yourself to your friend. She may be blonder or shorter or any number of things, but that doesn't mean you should change to what works for her.
One secret: We're all faking it JUST a little. Some people just hide their nerves better than others; and talk a better game.
2007-01-14 15:12:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I felt the same way you do when I was in school. You may not make as many friends, but I'll bet you have better friends. Several of the friends I made in school are still my friends over 20 years later. There's an old saying about quality being better than quantity. You just keep being yourself, and you'll always know the friends you have truly like you and who you are, not what you pretend to be. These will be the friends you can always count on, no matter what.
2007-01-14 15:13:00 · answer #2 · answered by telaine 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A couple of GOOD friends is so much better than 100 fly by night friends. People you can trust, can talk to, can feel comfortable with.
You should be yourself always. If you'd like to work on your self-confidence, go to the library and look for the self-help books. There are many on the subject of confidence and self-esteem.
Good luck to you, you sound like a nice person.
2007-01-14 16:14:15 · answer #3 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you can ask your family and friends, if any, what you think it is about you that people dont like or why they may not readily become your friend. These are the people that will be likely to tell you the truth about this. Sometimes you may be missing something about yourself that may be putting other people off, so ask your family to be honest with you. When you think that you are ready to work on this ( it may be as simple as you being too shy), join a club or go to a social function and pratice your new skills. Good luck.
2007-01-14 15:37:05 · answer #4 · answered by Mariya F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to pay attention to your behavior and your breathing when you're around people. They shy usually snap into the behaviour they're used to acting when they're around certain people, almost as though they have a behaviour for each person they're around. Try to avoid that, and act how you see yourself acting. Pay no attention to thoughts or fears. Do what you feel you would do in your perfect world. Visualize it first, then just do it. It may or may not take time, but you will be it when you apply that skill.
2007-01-14 15:14:33 · answer #5 · answered by Answerer 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wouldn't it be better to have a few very good friends who like you for who you are personally than to have numerous friends who like you because they think you have something to offer them?
Be yourself. If you are high school age, don't fret about all those other kids. When you get out of school, you will never seen more than half of them again in your life.
Make a few really good friends and don't worry about the rest. You can't be everything to everyone. Be yourself and like who you are and what you have to offer someone else. Kindness, compassion, life long friendship. Not surface friends.
2007-01-14 15:10:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry to much about her "friends" you'll find yours when after many many years, yours are still in touch with you from different countries and who can call you at 3 a.m. just to check if you're ok, and still laugh with your silly jokes. :)
2007-01-14 15:19:26 · answer #7 · answered by howlme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be your self and don't worry about the quantity of your friends, all you need is quality.
2007-01-14 15:52:46 · answer #8 · answered by Urchin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people are shy. Try and develop a good sense of humour and you'll be mostly set.
2007-01-14 15:09:38 · answer #9 · answered by zombie_cecil 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
continue to be nice and just be yourself...you will attract people worth attracting- if you stay true to who you really are!:)
2007-01-14 15:13:45 · answer #10 · answered by ~*common sense*~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋