...from liking/loving guys?
Anytime I've ever cared for a guy, it's turned out that they haven't felt the same way... I'm a really passionate person, and of course, I get hurt big time... Love takes over my emotions, and makes me act in ways that I normally wouldn't.
I don't want to experience that ever again. I'd much rather be alone than heartbroken. I don't want my one-sided feelings to mess up my life anymore.
How can I prevent myself from ever falling in love (or even like) again?
I'm so scared of caring for anyone else, and I just don't have it in me to feel this kind of pain, anymore.
2007-01-14 14:53:27 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try different guys.........even different ethnicity's.
Stop dating the same bums.
2007-01-14 15:02:22 · answer #1 · answered by Q. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are feeling is quite natural. You are a very passionate person. You easily fall in love and give your everything.
You must control your emotion, do not let it out often.
Treat people as friends and work from there, give it time to mature and untill you are confident that the person is worth it, then take a small step further untill you are very sure of him.
Good Luck
2007-01-14 23:02:59 · answer #2 · answered by sonisunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"We long for moments of expressions of love, closeness and tenderness, but frequently, at the critical point, we often draw back. We are afraid of closeness. We are afraid of love." Later in the same book Hodge states, "The closer you come to somebody, the greater potential there is for pain." It is the fear of pain that often drives us away from finding true intimacy.
I was giving a series of lectures at a university in southern Illinois. After one of the meetings, a woman came up to me and said, "I have to talk to you about my boyfriend problems." We sat down, and she began telling me her troubles.
After a few moments, she made this statement: "I am now taking steps never to get hurt again." I said to her, "In other words, you are taking steps never to love again." She had thought I misunderstood, so she continued. "No, that's not what I am saying. I just don't want to get hurt anymore. I don't want pain in my life." I said, "That's right, you don't want love in your life."
I, of course, did not write the above. It's a little section from an article that I find interesting and the website is listed below. You can't keep yourself from getting hurt, just like you can't keep yourself from falling in love. You have to learn from your mistakes, or learn things from your ex that you may want to avoid in your next relationship. I just got out of a 6 year relationship in the beginning of October. IT HURTS. I realized that I have cried too many times over this guy, and he isn't worth my sadness. You can move on, and you will.
TIME HEALS ALL WOUNDS.
good luck, and please, read the article.
2007-01-14 23:04:58 · answer #3 · answered by jvcheerio 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats crazy! It's called taking a RISK. Don't ever shy away from it!!!!! Yes, you might get heartbroken, we all have and do some point in our life. Think back to who you've dated in the past year or two. Do you think today that you would have been happy with them? Sometimes i think to myself...what the hell was i thinking? I'm SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO glad I'm not with him. Yes, I was sad for a while but right now thanking God he directed me right in my decision. If you honestly don'tt feel comfortable with that person wholy and fully that's not a good sign in itself. Don't ever give up...your soulmate is out wondering the streets thinking when he's going to meet you, thats so exciting to think of.
2007-01-14 23:03:34 · answer #4 · answered by laura k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have been hurt too many times so why don't you try to be alone for a while and hang out with your friends and maybe the right guy will come along soon!
2007-01-14 22:59:12 · answer #5 · answered by Michael C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be in the same situation until someone on Yahoo! gave me this advice:
Just be happy and be who you are and everything will fall into place.
After I read that, I realized how short life really is, and we should be making someothing of it, instead of just being sad all the time.
2007-01-14 22:58:35 · answer #6 · answered by spartamonkey14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok i have the same problem and all you do is just try to focus your love to something else like a sport or a pet...it works big time and it helps to have guy friends that you know you won't like
2007-01-14 22:59:13 · answer #7 · answered by dexalada 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
become a nun
2007-01-14 22:59:03 · answer #8 · answered by jesse james 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
become a lesbian
2007-01-14 22:56:49 · answer #9 · answered by AZN_PRIDE_987654321 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋