I broke up with my ex-fiance and started dating somebody else about a month later and everything is working out perfectly fine with the new guy.But my ex haven't been able to let go and every time he calls me or text me he makes me feel bad and even like I cheated on him sometimes eventhough I didn't.I do feel bad most of the times.What do I do.Do I dump my current bf and take him back or do I keep guy?
2007-01-14 14:47:55 · 9 answers · asked by Alina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
follow your heart
2007-01-14 14:51:42 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You broke up with your ex for a reason, and obviously it was a strong reason since you two were engaged to be married. If we are to assume you did not make this decision lightly I would strongly suggest that you best go on with your life. Taking your fiance back out of guilt will not help either of you, nor will it last. He will get the massage if you stop responding to his calls and if you are not sure, why don't you try to spend some time by yourself, so that you can think about your situation clearly without any interference. That way, you can make the right choice for YOU.
2007-01-14 22:56:09 · answer #2 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, maybe the other guy really loves and needs u.... look at the two.. is the current one just a fling...? Does he honestly care for you? If you found a guy that actually wants u and still chases u after u are going out with someone else.. maybe he is worth keeping... the guys I know, they will cheat on me, run away and leave me in the dirt... none bother to even remain in contact cos they can just get another person...! Look at the situation honestly... and deep down u probably know what you need to do, but fear/lust drives the decision...
2007-01-14 22:53:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's hard for anyone other than yourself to answer. why did you dump the fiance? there had to be a reason... so why would that reason have changed just because he is making you feel bad? it doesn't make sense. YOU broke up with HIM for a REASON. if you want him back, your heart will know. you should know if you can't live without him. if you're asking perfect strangers who you spend the rest of your life with... then were you really even ready to be engaged in the first place?
2007-01-14 22:53:55 · answer #4 · answered by jvcheerio 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well myself, being a guy, i would feel as if you cheated on me too. i mean think about it, you were ENGAGED to me, then broke it off and then one month later you with somebody else... if you don't see anything wrong with that then try putting yourself in his shoes -- i'm not saying you physically cheated on him but the whole situation seems very suspicous -- you should always follow your heart but i'm curious, why do u feel sorry for him? do u feel guilty? or is it truly sympathy? if it were me, it ain't no way in hell i would let you back in my life but thats me -- i don't think you should get back with the ex b/c all you'll do is hurt him again -- i mean damn boo, y'all were engaged and you dropped him for who knows what (anything short of cheating on you, makes you wrong as hell in my book) maybe you're not so much wrong as you should have handled things a little differently- the bottom line is he didn't make you happy and no matter how much pity you have for him you going back to him aint good for you or him -- you need to cut him off -- when he calls or sends a text you need to ignore it, b/c as long as you keep answering and replying he's gonna feel he still has a chance -- or maybe you don't want to see him with anybody else -- hey lady, stop playin' with that man's heart and let him move on, even if u got to make him -- one other thing, how can you have a new bf but contemplate leaving him for the ex-- it almost sounds like you were trying to teach the ex a lesson but you let the **** go too far -- i don't know you and i'm nobody to judge you but you need to stop playing games with these guys hearts and decide what you want and let that be that --- i wish you luck in whatever you decide to do --- but in the mean time play on playa
2007-01-14 23:26:39 · answer #5 · answered by Big Rob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you break up with your ex-fiance in the first place? It seems to me that he can't let go and he is trying to make you feel guilty for dating other men. Well guess what? You are free to do this! Don't feel bad.
2007-01-14 22:53:32 · answer #6 · answered by Shauny B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT break up with the new guy! Tell the old guy he needs to get over you and move on. From the sounds of it if u did go back to the old guy he would be jealous and possesive. He's probabyl angry that you can move on and he cant.
2007-01-14 22:52:37 · answer #7 · answered by fruyazol 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay where you are at. Ignore his calls and/or texts. He is putting you on a guilt trip and obviously it's working. He will keep it up as long as you let him. Change your number if you have to.
2007-01-14 22:53:07 · answer #8 · answered by Deb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your current guy is a keeper. Your ex is not.
2007-01-14 22:52:28 · answer #9 · answered by Joe Prosnick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋