I know this is hard to swallow when bitterness but i am posing the question of unconditional true love of a husband or wife to their spouse.
2007-01-14 14:34:06 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It is never a good idea to live as a martyr. So don't stay married because your the "better one". But don't get divorced either.I have been married for 5 yrs and we've been together for 9. At times neither of us has honered our vows. He was very flirty the first two years and I talked **** about him. So we are both guilty. Sometimes we hurt the ones we love over and over as tests to see how much they really love us and if they will leave. It has taken all 5 years for him to realize that I'm bull headed and not going anywhere. I love him as if he were my own blood and I will never abandon him because like me, he is imperfect. I know in my heart of hearts he does his best and that is all that matters.
2007-01-14 18:28:45 · answer #1 · answered by Kim D 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It relies upon on your definition of fail. Marriage vows in the event that they are Christian vows say in ailment and in well being, richer or poorer, honor and obey, love and cherish til dying do section. Now there is purely one element that excuses a marriage interior the eyes of God and that's adultry. in case your better half fails you in any incorrect way you will desire to talk your thoughts and understand one yet another. Marriage is paintings. many human beings now head into marriage questioning that if issues do not bypass properly they'd merely break up and thats not what marriage is all approximately. in certainty that's a sacred bond between guy and lady below God and via Christ all issues are conceivable and he never delivers better than you could handle.
2016-10-19 23:55:50 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that wedding vows are guidelines to follow but because we are human we fail to always follow the rules--Dang hate that when that happens --but sometimes things happen--so you have to fix the problems LEARN from the problem so it is not repeated--because then its not just a mistake it becomes a habit--and just carry on--that is UNCONDITIONAL LOVE---that is also why persons that have this with one another will be hurtful more so to the spouse than others--they know they can show the ugly side and still be loved and forgiven--we all need to be able to be ourselves to someone--and that is usually ore spouse--
2007-01-14 15:02:40 · answer #3 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unconditional love means, the shortcomings of the other, bad habits, throws dirty soxs on the floor type of stuff. Not infidelity. How did your spouse fail you? Think about it, did you discuss this and find out why? If you have unconditional love for your spouse, then you have the right to understand what and why's.
2007-01-14 14:39:25 · answer #4 · answered by wingedladyk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I will honour my vows...
My husband broke our marriage vows, but I have greater values and did not say my vows to hear myself speak. Just because my husband broke promises, that does not mean I should change my own sense of who I am as an honest person with high morals. This does not mean I accept what he did, nor does it mean we are living happily. I am pursuing a divorce because he is not worthy of me, but until that time when we are no longer married, I recognize the fact that I am still married and I will honour my vows.
2007-01-14 14:44:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people will say if they cheat then good bye. Cheating is a leavable offense, but we are all human and we all can make mistakes. Even if right now you feel like you hate that person, in 3 months you may be able to forgive them. Not saying its OK to just let them treat you like crap and be OK with it, but if you truly love this person another chance and only one chance to try to gain trust and respect back. I truly don't believe that once a cheater always a cheater. People can change. And yes you breaking your vows would be wrong. Already enough to deal with, with out adding to the pile. Good luck.
2007-01-14 14:54:09 · answer #6 · answered by betterwithage 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your question about honoring my marriage vows even if my spouse failed me. you ask? I am a wife of 48 yrs. going into 49 coming in June of this yr. am a mother of seven kids all married with family of their own, grandmother of fourteen Grand kids, minus one, which is deceased, I wished with all my heart I had that grandson who died, alive and well, but The Lord knows, so thy will be done. I also am a great grandmother. Did my spouse failed me , I do not know but, if he did when he dies he will have to account for doing that to me with the Almighty who is always looking at us. Does this answer conforms with your question, I hope it does. I might add that I love my husband with all my heart and I hope we will be together, for at least another 10 yrs.
2007-01-14 14:50:21 · answer #7 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fails you in what way? As long as they haven't abused you or cheated on you, or are a danger to your children. If thats the case you should consider a divorce. You should always honor your vows. But if you are sure that the other person has absolutely no intention of honoring them, its a lost cause.
2007-01-14 14:40:28 · answer #8 · answered by ☺☻☺☻☺☻ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he has broken the vows by sleeping with someone else I could not stay married to the person, no way. Some people can, but that to me spells the end of the relationship, no going back on that one. I do believe that you should work on any "small issues" and resolve them before they become major issues.
2007-01-14 22:49:30 · answer #9 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are fallible. We all fail. But to what degree are we speaking?
No matter what your children do, you always love them. THAT is unconditional love.
But just because you love someone, doesn't mean you have to put up with their BS. If they have broken their marriage vow, such as abuse or infidelity, only you can answer the question as to whether you want to honor that vow or even stay in the marriage.
God loves us. We screw up constantly & He strives with us, over & over & over. But He has His limits as well. Someday He will say, enough is enough.
2007-01-14 14:49:23 · answer #10 · answered by weddrev 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋