What is the best way to get over an ex? We were together almost 2 yrs, today would have been our 2 yr anniversary, we just spent the weekend together cause i have been goin thru some ****, i had a miscarriage, was his kid, we split a month ago, i realised how much i still love him, we had a lot of fun together and it really was like old times. I know hes not over us either but he maintains this is how he wants it to be. What can i do to get over him, it really hurts!
2007-01-14 14:32:28 · 7 answers · asked by Onie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I now you still love him but you need to stop torturing yourself. I understand that you two just lost something precious, but if that didn't make him want to get back with you then that means he's moved on, and now you need too. The saying goes " you always want what you can't have", and it sounds like you can have him the way you want him so that's making you want him more. If it's meant to be then it will be, if not you have to got on with your life. Don't let one weekend fool your mind because what ever problem caused the break up, it's still there and getting back together is not going to makit go away, it might make it worst. If you feel you need him you life then just keep it strickly on a friendly level, and don' t interfer with any other relationship he has it might take him away from you forever.
2007-01-14 14:48:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're clearly strong to have come this far through tough times :-)
Knowing that you both maybe secretly want this to still work, is not allowing you have closure. The first thing you need to do, is take a deep breath and say out loud, "It's over. It's finished, and I know it's for the best" and feel that although it hurts, it's final and that deep down, you're strong enough to be okay with that.
... then begin the healing process. Two years is a long time to share yourself with someone, and for then not to be with them. Get used to being back in your own skin again. You now have so much more freedom back. You have no limits. You can sleep in as much as you like, be where you like at any time you like, fancy who you like and love who you like. Of course, you will always love your ex. We always reserve a little love for past kindred spirits, whether they're male/female or a friend/partner. But just because you loved him, it doesn't mean you wont find love again.
Don't think of yourself as half a person because he is no longer your partner. Think of yourself as a whole person- you finally have yourself to yourself!
Treat yourself to some TLC. Pamper yourself. Look after yourself. It sounds corny, but with this being a new year and all, why not start off with a detox, maybe do some yoga- something to mark a new year, a new start.
There are so many people and creatures out there to love. So many people in need of your love and compassion. This isn't time to be sad, this is a time to start anew :-)
2007-01-14 22:44:17 · answer #2 · answered by midsojo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sucks and there's nothing you can do but take time. And stop talking to him, because that only delays the healing process. One day in the future you may be ready to be "friends" but until then..STAY AWAY. You're only subjecting yourself to more pain. It just takes time then you'll realize "why was I even with him?" Until then, grab your best girlfriend and put yourself out there! Go shopping go clubbing and TRY TO HAVE SOME FUN!!
2007-01-14 22:38:49 · answer #3 · answered by HuskersRock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I'm sorry about your sad loss!!
Now if he left you you will just have to move on
go out with friends & keep yourself busy & thats about all you can do
Time is all that will work & later on when you are over him find a new guy but not yet, you have to mourn the loss of your baby & him
2007-01-14 22:54:00 · answer #4 · answered by ausblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been through that to you just need to stop talking to him bcause everytime you talk to him it will most likely make you want him more try to find a new love and things happen for a reason so w.e floats your boat
2007-01-14 22:38:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u have some good friend there can help u get though this so your not alone just find anther guy that likes u and go out with him and or your closes friends
2007-01-14 22:40:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
time.. keep yourself busy.. venting out all your emotions would really help you heal.. and if you believe in God, pray..
2007-01-14 22:37:30 · answer #7 · answered by Angelgirl02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋