I have been with my girfriend for 9 months(have been friends for 1 year). Before I met her she had just gotten out of a long term relationship(3 years). Now she tells me she is not over it(past relationship). It is killing me inside that she said this but I understand somewhat and am willing to give her time. How long do I give her before I find out if we can get back together or start to call her again or if we call it quits. This was the girl that I thought was the "ONE" for me.
2007-01-14 14:14:42 · 4 answers · asked by mrniceguy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sorry mr. nice guy...sounds like you were a rebound dude. I don't think there is much hope for your relationship with her. Cut your losses and move on.
I am sorry...I know that sucks
2007-01-14 14:20:31 · answer #1 · answered by єЖтяα ¢яιѕρψ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, there is a chance she may have just been using you and has been in love with the other guy all along. It's also possible she may have recently spoke with him and he has convinced her that they should get back together. If you really want to know if she is truly the girl for you, as hard as this may seem, trust me this usually works.... without getting serious, just casually date other people, she will see that there are others out there that enjoy being with you and she will want to have you back if she truly feels the same love you feel for her, if she feels she may lose you completely because she "wasn't over it" in her past relationship, then she most likely will not be able to see you with anyone else and she will "get over it" if she truly loves you...if she decides not to stick around then you are killing two birds with one stone because you are already occupying your time with other people/dates and that helps overcome a broken heart, occupy the rest of your time with other activites if she doesn't come back and keep yourself totally busy so that you don't think about it as much and it will help you not to dwell. It is a tough thing to get through a broken heart and sometimes it feels like you never want to love again, but then when you least expect it, the most wonderful love comes into your life, when you aren't looking for it. God may just have a better love out there for you dear, don't worry, be happy!
2007-01-14 14:37:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no formula, this is a matter of the heart. Unfortunately it sounds like she is not in love with you. Don't play any games or thing you can manipulate the situation. Move on but not to another relationship, move on to a better state of self respect and self confidence. If you can achieve these two things then you will become attractive to good people who will love you for you.
2007-01-14 14:30:38 · answer #3 · answered by cynical jade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to stay in contact and be "Friends" with her i do realize this may be hard but Its better than Nothing and try to be paitent and "Be" there for her
2007-01-14 14:20:42 · answer #4 · answered by Leveler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋