i dont kno wat to do i'm a month n 11 days. n if i tell the dad i think he'll like say its not his n i'm really goin crazy n i need help like 4 real. i dont kno if to have an abortion or to keep it. i'm only 15 years old n he is 17. wow i love him but i think that if i tell him that it will mess up wat we have n i dont want that to happen plz some one help me plz!!!!!!!!
2007-01-14 14:07:22 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, if you can't tell the father of the baby because he may say its not his, than he is a irresponsible guy and that means that your relation is not that strong, and it doesn't matter how much you love him that won't change the fact that he is irresponsible.
Second, you need to tell your family, you may think that is going to be hard but they are the ones to give you strength in this situation. If you think there is a Strong possibility that they won't support you or go crazy on you, there are many institutions that can help you.
Third, that is a human being inside of you, I would strongly suggest not to have an abortion, if you think you are too young and don't want the baby, you can have it and give it up to adoption, there are so many couples that wants babies and can't have any and will give your child a good home.
I hope you make the right decision.
2007-01-14 14:21:19 · answer #1 · answered by Ix_me 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, Congratulations. Kids are tough and you're never ready - I'm sure at 15 you didn't have that on your radar screen - BUT they are an amazing blessing as well.
If you respect the guy you're with, the one who's your baby's daddy to be, you need to tell him. One of two things will happen:
1. He'll stand up to the responsibility and the two of you will be 100 steps ahead in the game of life.
2. He'll cower like a baby himself and now own up to his responsibility. While this is a real risk, wouldn't you want to know this about him NOW?
I'm not a pro-life person, but I have two kids that forever changed my life and there is no single thing in this world that makes me happier than my little daughter looking me in the eyes and saying "Daddy, I love you."
You need the help and support of those around you. Your boyfriend. Your parents. Your friends. Now, today, you need to sort out those who will help and support you from those who will criticize and ostracise you. Keep the supporters. Abandon the rest. Make your decision now - early - while you still have all your options.
Again, congratulations.
2007-01-14 14:18:36 · answer #2 · answered by Ketel One Up 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no business getting pregnant and having a baby - you're just a child yourself. He can be arrested for rape - you are under 16. You can either have an abortion or give the baby up for adoption. You're immediate hope is that because of your age - your body may automatically abort the fetus.
Please watch the movie on Lifetime called 'mom at 16'. Once you see this - you'll understand more about what the issues you will be facing.
The next time you ask questions - please, please, please use the 'check spelling'..............it's extremely difficult to read what exactly you are trying to say. I'm sure your teachers have taught you better than what you're showing us.
2007-01-14 14:17:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't be able to keep it a secret for long. At 15 I doubt you are ready for the responsibility of raising a child, and neither is he. That's a lifelong responsibility and a full-time one for the next 18 yrs (longer than you've been alive).
This is the time to decide to abort or have it...then if you decide to have it do you keep it or put it up for adoption.
Think seriously about your choices and what they will mean to your life.
2007-01-14 14:13:51 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't kill the child...it's not his or her fault. Abortion really isn't an option not to mention the emotional and physichal side effects the procedure causes. Have the child and put it up for adoption. There are many wonderful couples who can't have children who would love to adopt. Tell your boyfriend, it is his child too. I know I would want to know if I was him.
2007-01-14 14:17:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta be like: "Would you stay with me now matter what?"
If he says: "Yes"
Also make him promise
Then you tell him about the pregnancy.
If he says: "No"
Then get really mad at him and start saying that hes evil and all.
2007-01-14 14:15:30 · answer #6 · answered by Pauer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fifteen???? - Have the baby and give it up for adoption.
2007-01-14 14:14:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anne B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it mess up what u have, then u really never had anything.
2007-01-14 14:12:14 · answer #8 · answered by jesse james 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋