From a Buddhist perspectives,how do we handle grief when a dear one has died?

Answer 1

You can only realize that grief is an emotion which has arisen in your mind and that it will pass. The grief which most people feel is at their loss rather than at the death of somebody.
I miss them, I want to be with them, what will I do without them? It is all about "I". If somebody close to me dies I feel sad and I feel my loss. I know that my life will go on until someday I die and others will grieve.
Perhaps being glad that you at least had a "dear one" afor some period and then go on to fill your life with other "dear ones" is a constructive answer rather than feeling sorry for yourself.
I am sorry I find it hard to give a positive answer but for me Buddhism is about dealing with reality and grief is an attempt to deny the reality of somebodies death. For me, I am glad that I have had the opportunity to know people close to me but when they are gone I just cannot know them any more. I cannot fix the problem of them dying and leaving a hole in my life so I just have to move on.

Answer 2

knowing that they haven't done much wrong in this life, you hope that they will do better in the next. you would miss them terribly, but you also know that they are somewhere in the world again.. and if they died without pain, and it was a peaceful death, you would wish them all well in their next life.

buddhists would still cry when a dear one as died. buddhists are normal ppl like the rest of us. they would probably do something to cheer themselves up.

Answer 3

http://www.buddhanet.net/psygrief.htm <<< hope this might help