I am a seventh day adventist girl, and i have been going out with a muslim guy for over three years now. he wants me to convert, but i have a strong faith in jesus christ. and my family would stop talking to me if i do. same with his side of the family, they will not approve. so we are thinking about just getting it done ourselves, is that a good idea?? i dont wanna hurt either side of the family. talking to them is useless they will never accept. what should i do?
2007-01-14 13:46:40 · 21 answers · asked by DesiGirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
im a muslim gurl and if you love him and he loves you too...you dont have to be a muslim to marry him.....and you dont have to be a muslim to make his family likes you...my uncle married a christian girl and she's not muslim til this moment but we all love her and consider her one of us..try to talk to his family !! LOL plz try to answer my last question
2007-01-14 13:54:14 · answer #1 · answered by lillyshamshom 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you have strong faith in Jesus then conversion to Islam is not an option for you. If the guy wants you to convert. obviously he doesn't want to convert to Christianity either. So neither of you will convert. In any case, would a conversion for the sake of marriage rather than for reasons of faith be a real conversion?
This is not always an insurmountable obstacle to mixed marriages, if people can learn to live together and accept their differences, but in this case i think it will be a major problem because of the families. Also any children that you have will most likely have to be Muslims, are you ok with that?
2007-01-17 00:35:16 · answer #2 · answered by Beng T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some good points here. I don't doubt that you love him a lot, or that you want to keep the families happy but the true question here goes beyond that. Every couple has things they must compromise on,both small and large. But is your faith something that you are willing to compromise? Is it something he is willing to compromise? More than any other issue, a person's faith defines who they are and influences EVERY decision they make--from the clothes you wear to the food you eat to the way you vote or spend your money. A marriage is a partnership. Marrying this guy is saying that for the rest of your lives you are going to make those decisions together. Yet with such vastly different basis for your worldviews this will be very very difficult. If one pulls to the left and one pulls to the right, you won't end up in the middle. No, rather the stronger one will pull the weaker to his or her side. This just sets you up for unhappiness, inequality and turmoil. Again I know that you love him dearly, but please reconsider the weight of your differences against the weight of your love. Yes they say love is blind but unguarded, blindmen fall in holes and walk into traffic.
2007-01-15 01:14:17 · answer #3 · answered by Queen<of>Salem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really between the two of you and no-one else's business. If you intend to live in a predominantly Muslim country after marriage whether you personally convert or not, you will have to allow your children to be raised as Moslem. I'm guessing that you will be staying in your present community, so even this may not arise as a problem.
You can compromise and offer to be taught about the teachings of Islam without actually converting. A man in your position would not, however, have that choice.
2007-01-14 21:56:41 · answer #4 · answered by Bart S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What difference does it make what your family thinks? You are supposed to live your life as unto the Lord.
Scriptures says, "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?.....What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols?......Therefore come out form them and be separate." 2 Cor. 6:14-17
If you had followed any Biblical priniciples at all you wouldn't even be in this situation. Don't be a fool!! Or rather, STOP being a fool! Meaning you have already been one but you don't have to continue to be one!!
2007-01-17 09:47:43 · answer #5 · answered by dixiemade 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a reason why America gives us freedom of religion. It's your right & your choice to convert to whatever religion you want. You should watch this movie before you do it though, it's a true story & it's called "Not without daughter" & yes it has something to do with Muslim. WATCH THAT FIRST before you do anything. Good luck!
2007-01-14 22:57:40 · answer #6 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have friends that are muslim and have dated muslim men myself. Honestly? The muslim men were more gentlemen than any "christian" men I had ever dated!!! So, I don't see anything wrong with marrying him, but I wouldn't move to a muslim country with him.
If you are prepared to possibly lose your families over this or if you think they will accept it eventually, then go ahead.
2007-01-14 21:58:35 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa Me 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why would you want to marry (or even date) a man who would ask you to deny your faith in your Savior? Marriage can be challenging when you have much in common and religion is too important to not be in sync with your mate on this. This difference will affect things in the future that you can't imagine yet - like raising kids.
Nothing wrong with keeping him as a friend. Get back to your faith, hang with fellow christians, there's probably a husband for you that is willing to share and support you in your faith journey. Put your relationship with God first.
2007-01-14 21:59:01 · answer #8 · answered by to the best of my knowledge ... 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think you should follow your feelings. Ask yourself Do you really love the guy? This is your life, not anyone else's.. if they disaprove then that's there problem... If you love him and he really loves you, don't worry what others think. The families will eventually reliaze that you both are in love and accept the marriage.
2007-01-14 21:57:11 · answer #9 · answered by surfin_gal007 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this sounds like a disaster waiting to happen.
If you two marry, you will alienate at least one family...which will in turn lead to resentment and anger in your marriage.
I would STRONGLY encourage you to think about all of the repercussions or you two marrying.
How did you two end up together anyway???
2007-01-14 21:53:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋