Okay, well. My boyfriend and I broke up. Yes, he breaks up with me. He said the cause was because his dad told him to and he needed a break from me. But then, I found out, he was secretly going out with MY BEST FRIEND.. It made me so fricken sad. I am so jealous, but I want to date other guys, but I really don't think i have the heart.
2007-01-14 13:45:16 · 33 answers · asked by gabrielle(: 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's a jerk. Your friend's a jerk.
I'm sorry this has happened to you, but people have no sense of commitment when they're young. Maybe they're not bad people, they're just naive. He didn't have the guts to tell you the truth. She didn't have the guts to tell you the truth. She didn't have the loyalty to tell him she wasn't interested. He didn't have the loyalty to tell you as a friend that the relationship was finished before hooking up with her.
But people are like this. People go with their instincts. When they got together, their first thought wasn't going to be "Good! Lets get together! This will hurt her!". I'm sure they feel guilty and when the two of them break up, she is going to feel guilty as hell that she lost a friend to a guy.
Don't take it personally. You weren't right for this guy- but that's cool. You're right for some really awesome guy out there, who you'll get to meet some time soon. Get some closure, let the ex know that you know what really happened, but that you're not angry, just disappointed that he couldn't tell you himself. Tell your friend the same thing.
Don't feel jealous. Don't feel like you have to go out and date some guys to get revenge. Take out some time for yourself- pamper yourself, get yourself a new outfit, bake yourself some choc chip cookies and enjoy this weekend without him and look forward to a new year without him hanging round your neck. Then, Monday morning, look at yourself in the mirror and KNOW what a great girl you are and know that despite the bad situation, you've come out a better person and got the last laugh :-)
2007-01-14 14:04:00 · answer #1 · answered by midsojo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best revenge is to grow beyond hurt and use it as a stepping stone beyond this emotional pain. All men aren't like this, and all best friends aren't like this; don't think each person will be as these two are. They are immature, and into lust. Don't waste time on them, deal with the pain, and then get involved with others. Focus on you, not them. The pain will take awhile to get over, but time truly does heal all wounds, even betrayal.
And what a laugh...his DAD told him to break up! What a little boy he is. Aren't you glad you see this part of him now, rather than when you might have made a more permanent relationship? You missed a bullet, my dear, and this guy isn't worth the time you gave him.
Have fun, get your hair done, do something exciting that you wanted to do before this relationship started, and live, laugh and love...but with someone older than permanent 14!
2007-01-14 13:54:18 · answer #2 · answered by dutchlady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be the strong girl i know you can be and find someone else. Lose the best friend and find a new boyfriend. You are too good, if she was you bestfriend than she would NEVER have done that to you especailly a guy you were dating. And the guy, puh lease not even worth your time. Get away and find a new one, there are plenty of fish in the sea and im sure you can find a keeper.
gl, and im sorry u had to deal with this.
2007-01-14 13:51:48 · answer #3 · answered by aricalyn10<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes..that is really hard to get through and if i were you i would be really mad also..but it's life so move on..plenty of other guysto go around!..well if he broke up with you that it happened so fast then probably HE MIGHT want you back..but that is a really small chance..im sorry for what happened..but moving on in life is the best thing to do..cuz in life you need to explore..lol..
if you dont have the heart for moving on yet..then talk to your bestfriend about it..or you can talk to someone you really know..then take your time if you need to..
It is just life..you understand what im trying to say?...
2007-01-14 13:51:29 · answer #4 · answered by Darius C. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself some time to heal. You're probably feeling really lousy and would date any guy that asked just to feel a little better. But that's not good for you or for the rebound guys. Just take some time to be single and angry. Write poetry, angry letters, talk to parents or another friend, do whatever you need to feel better. Then maybe talk to your "best friend" about what's happened. You need closure before you can move on.
2007-01-14 13:49:39 · answer #5 · answered by Luna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy was just using you .Move on and find someone new and never look back. This guy was a jerk and doesn't deserve you. He couldn't even be honest with you when he broke up. Apperently she wasn't your best friend either or she would have told him to back off or she would tell you that he was hitting on her.She would tell you if she really was your BEST friend. Sounds like she is really a whore and can't be trusted as a friend.
2007-01-14 14:05:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get into another relationship until you're totally sure you're ready to. You can't be any good to someone else until you're ok with yourself. In time, your wounds will heal, and you'll be able to get back in the game, but right now, your emotions are really mixed up so it's not best for you to try and get emotionally involved with anyone else. Solve your personal emotions before you try to manage your emotions for other people. Best wishes to you, hope you feel better soon :)
2007-01-14 13:53:14 · answer #7 · answered by Carolinii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just forget him; instead go forth and make all kinds of friends through social gatherings whether at school or work or church. Have some fun, do some exciting things and get to know people. And when you are ready to date again I bet you will have a choice of truly nice people to choose from.
2007-01-14 13:52:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well going through a break up is really hard. you gave him ur trust and u cared for him and he just turned around and used you like a napkin. the best thing i could say for you is to give it some time and to try and stop thinking about him. you say you want to date other guys. date them. as soon as you date another guy you realize that you're getting over him. give it some time
2007-01-14 13:50:55 · answer #9 · answered by simi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gaby its time to move on. Your friend is not much of a friend if she stole your boyfriend.
Forget about the past and find yourself a new man. Plenty of fish in the sea.
2007-01-14 13:50:30 · answer #10 · answered by t_shirtman2612 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋