I'm 49, feel a little old to be given away. Also been married before - my dad walked me down the aisle when I was 23. I'd like to hear how other people have handled this.
2007-01-14 13:15:53 · 12 answers · asked by sjbluebelle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Most second brides forego this step. Some have their children present the bride.
You can walk the aisle yourself & have your fiance meet you at the halfway mark, or go the distance by yourself.
Getting married this time will have more of your influence than what the books say is proper. Make this wedding truly your own.
2007-01-14 13:39:34 · answer #1 · answered by weddrev 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Weddings these days are pretty much whatever you would like.
If you feel old to be "given away" - he could walk you down the aisle as your escort - you don't have to use the "Who gives this woman" line.
Or, if you have a son, the symbolism of him walking you down the aisle to your groom is that he is accepting of your marriage. Again, no reference to "who gives.."
In actuality, no one has to walk you down the aisle. Especially, being an older bride (sorry, couldn't think of another way to put that) - you could simply walk alone to join your groom - or go for something less traditional - the two of you could walk down the aisle together.
Whatever you decide - have fun. I've been to too many weddings where the stress of the big day showed on the bride, and that's a shame. You should enjoy your day!!
2007-01-14 13:26:41 · answer #2 · answered by kids and cats 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, my father did not attend my second marriage as he did not approve. I am now divorced from my second husband, and I think that if I ever got married again I would just walk myself down the aisle, as I have been living away from home for almost 12 years now, and I am my own person now. My father would do a speech, but I also feel too old to be given away again.
2007-01-14 23:05:46 · answer #3 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Today, so many people are remarrying, it's hardly a novel thing.
Don't base your decision on pressure from anyone else. It's entirely up to you and what you feel comfortable with. The big day is for you and your husband-to-be. As long as the two of you exchange your vows, that's the only thing that really matters.
My dad's walking me down the aisle a second time. I have another friend who opted not to be "given away" at her first wedding.
Congratulations! Have a beautiful wedding.
2007-01-14 16:28:38 · answer #4 · answered by World Traveling Woman 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
as others have said the decision is yours to make.
My b/f & her man walked down the aisle together - she was 40 him 44.They both had HUGE smiles on their faces as they walked into the church
I married at 23 - in a court house & chose not to be ""given away"
one of my sisters married in a church & walked down the aisle alone
you could even have both parents escort you down the aisle & then just step to one side- did this with my older daughter
Decide what you feel most comfortable with & go with that - regardless of what anyone else says
2007-01-14 13:40:51 · answer #5 · answered by fairypelican 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Walk down the aisle by yourself. After all, everyone knows you've already been given away.
2007-01-14 13:26:52 · answer #6 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my friends had her children walk her down the aisle. Otherwise, I think I would personally walk down the aisle alone or with my fiance!
2007-01-14 13:25:06 · answer #7 · answered by Jazzylady 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My dad wasn't at my first wedding. I was 28 when I remarried and had my dad walk me that time. My mom has been married again after 40 and she didn't even have her family show up... so I guess it would be up to you on how to handle it. It may be something your dad wants to do. He may feel honored to give you away again.
2007-01-14 13:21:33 · answer #8 · answered by intewonfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most second time brides choose to walk down the aisle alone, or escorted by one of their children if they have any.
2007-01-14 15:40:52 · answer #9 · answered by Chrys 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother had my grandfather to walk her down to the alter when she got remarried. One of my aunts had her son to walk her down the aisle.
2007-01-14 14:58:31 · answer #10 · answered by pecarican 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋