your fiance hooked up with a hooker at the bachelor/ette party??
* I won't define hook up
2007-01-14 13:14:44 · 30 answers · asked by Sara 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'd throw one heck of a hissy fit and insist he get checked for STD's pronto, but I don't think I'd call off the wedding. Crude as it is (and immature), it's also this macho thing that guys think they have to have one last fling.
It's helpful to know that guys don't connect heartwise that fast. If it was a fling, for him that really is all it was. If it was a hooker, all the more reason to have your say then move on. A hooker is not someone that has any meaning where a relationship is concerned. In fact, he probably thought that was fairly safe because you'd know he wasn't emotionally attached to her.
Do let him know it was appreciated and insist on that STD check, but take a deep breath afterwards.
2007-01-14 13:24:18 · answer #1 · answered by sonofstar 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes.
But then again I grew out of destructive relationships a long time ago.
You can always do better than someone who sleeps around on you Bachelor party is no excuse. I had a batchlorette party, and dh had a batchlor party..... neither of us hooked up with anyone there..... and we've been married almost 12 years :)
2007-01-14 13:19:26 · answer #2 · answered by Lynne 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If they had sex with them than hell yes. As a matter of fact they shouldn't be hooking up with anyone they are getting married, so I would call off the wedding. How are they going to be through the rest of the marriage?
2007-01-14 21:53:58 · answer #3 · answered by MJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That shows so much about his true character. If he is hooking up with other people before you get married and you let him get away with it, he will think that this is acceptable and unfortunately will be likely to repeat when you are married. It is very possible to go to your bachelor/bachelorette party and not hook up. Cut your losses now.
2007-01-14 13:24:58 · answer #4 · answered by jennifer m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes - it is completely disrespectful and shows what kind of person he really is. Don't waste any more of your time on someone who treats you like that and apparently cares that little about your relationship. There is no excuse for that kind of behavior - sorry, but peer pressure and booze don't cut it... Even if you were to forgive, it is not something that can easily be forgotten and it would always be there hanging over the relationship.
2007-01-14 13:22:14 · answer #5 · answered by lioness79 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. If I thought it was an isolated case, brought on by alcohol and impaired judgement, then I'd probably be more likely to cut the guy some slack. I would at the very least postpone the wedding. It would be a serious breach of trust for me, and I couldn't be married to someone I didn't trust. I wouldn't go through with the wedding unless I knew I could completely and totally forgive him, and he could regain my trust. You are the only one who knows the answer to that question. Best of luck to you.
2007-01-14 13:20:41 · answer #6 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
yes, I would. Sure, it's the las tnight before the wedding - but the last night of freedom was the night before we started dating exclusively - long long before the wedding date. The tradition of celebrating a upcoming wedding by watching other women get naked and/or sleeping with them is just disgusting at best.
2007-01-14 15:42:26 · answer #7 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he had sex with her at the bachelor party, YES!!!!! If they just flirted, no. Honestly, neither one of us had a bachelor/ette party. I had a shower where I had fun with my girls. He just hung out with his friends.
2007-01-14 14:14:49 · answer #8 · answered by Jaedyn=God has heard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well depending on what "hook up" is, if he did it so easily there god only knows what he's done before or what he will do in the future. I mean if you found out that is a good thing..but if you had to find out from someone else or by catching him that is NOT a good thing. Only you know what's right, good luck!
2007-01-14 13:22:38 · answer #9 · answered by amason1226 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's always itimated that this is the "last fling" that either person will have before the commitment. And there's always jokes, winks & nudges in the ribs. Ha ha.
But this man was betrothed to you. He'd asked you to marry him & you said yes. All you were doing was waiting for the actual ceremony to take place.
This man has cheated on you, plain & simple. You have to decide it that's important to you.
Personally, I wouldn't marry him.
2007-01-14 13:34:28 · answer #10 · answered by weddrev 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋