Should I beg my boyfriend to take me back? Help!!!?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 1/2 years off and on. Last july, we decided to really give it a try and he moved down here from new york so we could be together. Things were fine at first and then in November, we started to fight about small things all the time. Eventually, he told me that he wanted to break up and that we could still be friends but that was that. I said ok but he still wanted to live here at the same place as me but as a roommate cause we both are not in good financial situations and it would be easier that way. I know, big mistake. So, he was staying in the guest room and paying rent. I know because he told me that he was talking to at least two other women but just flirting and going on a couple of dates. I didn't date anyone. He would come home from work eveyr night though and have dinner with me and hold me on the couch and tell me how much he loves me all the time. Last night, I couldn't take it anymore and I told him to give up the other women

or that he had to leave the house. So, he left. He came back today to get all his stuff and told me that if I could have just given him his space and let him explore with his life then we could have been together in the end. He told me that he planned on us being together forever and having kids and everything and that a Good woman in this world would let a man explore out there and know that he comes home to her every night and just relax. It hurt me so bad. I've been crying for 8 hours straight. I feel like I made a huge mistake cause we were broken up and he was only flirting and he even said that going out wiht them made him realize what a good woman I was even more. Now, he's gone and I feel like crap for rocking the boat in this situation. Do you think I am wrong or right here? I was just so hurt and confused and got mad and basically told him to choose.

Answer 1

Never beg. Apologize when you need to, but never beg.

Then again, if this happens after 8.5 years of being off-and-on together, maybe you need to move on and accept that the two of you are wrong for each other. Because, if he needs to date others but still wants to act like he's in an exclusive relationship with you at the same time, maybe he's just a user. Then again, why are the two of you cuddling/holding on the couch when you've broken up and agreed to live as roommates? Seems to me that's your bigger mistake than asking him to choose.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I think he was right to some degree. But you can't turn back time you can only go forward. Now that he's gone, you've given him what he wanted; freedom. So let go and focus on all that is good in your life and pay more attention to what you want. I know you probably feel down right now but if you can squeeze some positive thoughts in your mind and focus on that , things would get a lot better for you. Law of Attraction is a powerful life changing tool if you use it.

Don't contact him anymore. That is the best thing you can do for yourself. Let him be the one to contact you first.

Answer 4

Honestly, you two broke up and decided to live as friends. It was wrong to ask him to give the other girl up. If you are jealous, which is sounds that way then you need to talk to him about it. He was honest with you and you need to be the same way. I would not tell him you want him back. He needs space, so give it to him. IF he really loves you and really wants to be with you then he will come back to you. Let him get this exploring other girls and relationships out of the way, so he won't be so curious when he comes back because he will be done exploring. Make him feel like he needs you. Make him chase you girl!!!

Not only that, but it may seem so wonderful because he is saying he loves you, eats dinner with you, holds you, but in reality he's going out with other girls. He may love you, but as friends, not a girlfriend.

Answer 5

He is the worst kind of jerk who wants his cake and eat it too!! Be thankful that you never married or you could have even been the next laci Peterson. He either cared for you and wouldn't have wanted to go out with the others or he didn't care for either tham or you but just wanted a free ride in life. Think of that as a learning experience and him as spilled milk, and don't cry over spilled milk!!

Answer 6

You're obviously NOT ready for it. Please do not let him pressure you into it you will regret it later, I do. You don't want to lose your virginity to someone who won't even take the time to explain that to you and who is begging you. Talk to your parents about sex and please do not do it until you feel you are 100% ready! You don't need to have sex just because your friends have or because this kid is begging you to! And no, sex is not like porn. Porn is WAY over the top and not realistic at all.

Answer 7

Its his fault not yours. If he does believe that you are the one and he loves you as much as he says then he will be begging you to take him back. However if you feel like you need to beg him to take you back you obivously need some confidence lessons and learn to be self-reliant.
So NO, don't beg him to take you back.

Answer 8

I remember my last breakup... but it was a downhill thing,...

AH! anyways! Cheer up! Just calm down a bit, and gradually work your relationship up again.... I'm sure he is miserable right now, too...he probably misses you a whole bunch!!!

Try talking to him, just as friends....Then, one thing gets to another, and you can ask him on dates, I'm sure you two will be able to start over with eachother and have a happy ending. :)

Answer 9

You need to move on and remember that you never, ever beg a man to take you back. It kills your self-respect, dignity and integrity. Let him go and find yourself a deserving man...

Answer 10

You did not make a mistake. You gave him space and he fooled around on you while you lived under the same roof while at the same time you were loyal to him. He wanted his cake and to eat it to. He was not ready to settle down with you and do the things he said today. He was not ready to commit to you. He still has wild oats to sow. You made the right choice.