I had been telling my ex that I would never want her back. I was lying the whole time to safe myself from being hurt again. She has a boyfriend, and we ended up sleeping together last week. I finally told her the truth about how I felt and that I would like her back. She didn't flat out tell me no, but she does have a boyfriend. She said she wanted time to think about it. I know that there is still something between us, but I don't know if this is something I should even do. Should I just quit contact with her? or Go after her? I am just confused right now.
2007-01-14 13:11:19 · 10 answers · asked by john 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wait and see what happens and if she hurt really bad then you may want to forget about it.
2007-01-14 13:15:45 · answer #1 · answered by Ky_bello 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a list of the reasons to let her go and the reasons to try again and consider why you dumped her the first time before you make a decision. she could just come back to get the chance to hurt you again if she already has a new boyfriend.
2007-01-14 21:17:01 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave the ball in her court, so to speak, at this point. I think you absolutely did the right thing by giving her your honest feelings (sometimes leaving yourself vulnerable like that is very difficult to do). She knows how you feel and if she still has feelings in return, she will do something. You've done what you needed to do - if anything is to come of the relationship, it's her turn to make the move...
2007-01-14 21:17:51 · answer #3 · answered by lioness79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to gain some self-confidence and do what's best for yourself! She will walk all over you. You gave her power with the knowledge that you will take her back even though she has a boyfriend. You should respect yourself and be patient, when you aren't looking-the right person does come along, I promise!
2007-01-14 21:16:51 · answer #4 · answered by mandaburch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know if this is something that you should even do??
and she needs time to think about it????
What does that tell you???/
and .......if you take her back would you trust that she wouldn't be sleeping with her then -x- boyfriend??
Think about it.......You might just end up at square one all over again.
Move on... and Good Luck!
2007-01-14 21:23:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well do you love her? Is she worth the risk of getting hurt? If the answer to these 2 questions is Yes, then I would pursue her. Finding love is hard to come by, so if you found someone you truly love, who makes you extremely happy, then you should give it one more try. If not, you will always wonder what if.
2007-01-14 21:38:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
huh.. well if she tells you that she does want to try again, give it a shot, only if she breaks up with her boyfriend first. dont let her string you along. if she doesn't want to be with you maybe you should not see her at all. you don't want what happened before. the other guy doesn't deserve that. keep in mind, if she cheated with you, it's likely she will cheat on you. good luck.
2007-01-14 21:55:13 · answer #7 · answered by Nicki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit while you are ahead...girls who hurt you can hurt you again and its worse than the first time.
2007-01-14 21:17:40 · answer #8 · answered by illest_t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on or risk being hurt badly.
2007-01-14 21:14:15 · answer #9 · answered by NAN G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wanted you back she wouldn't have to 'think about it'.
Move on now and never look back.
2007-01-14 21:17:00 · answer #10 · answered by r s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋