Two year old keeps hitting mother?

Question

I am going out with a single mom and her child keeps hitting her. She tells him not to hit but when we are at the mall she can not just sit him down and put him on a time-out. What can she do to get him to stop hitting her while she is out of the house?

Answer 1

maybe she could have you talk to him or leave him with a babysitter

Answer 2

Oh, but she can put him in time out while at the mall. If they are in the store and he hits her she can certainly take him outside and park him on a bench while she stands next to him. She doesn't have to sit him on the floor of the store or in the outside walking area--but she can use a bench--even if she sits next to him---if she calmly says, "It's not nice to hit Mommy. It hurts and you know that. Let's go outside and take a time out (or a "break")." She hands you whatever she is carrying and you stay in the store. They go outside for their 2 minute time out and then when they come back, you act as if nothing ever happened and finish shopping. No one outside will even realize they saw the child getting into trouble.

Once he knows time outs can occur outside of the home, I hope you will see some improvement in the behavior. Good Luck!

Answer 3

This is the terrible twos setting in, he knows that he is not allowed to do it so he is testing his boundaries. Who says you can't put a child in time out at the mall etc....I have a 2 yr old and when he is being like that, we find a bench and he sits while I stand in front of him so he can't see what is going on. It drives him nuts....ps 2 min is how long you put a 2 yr old in time out. When he realized he can't get away with it no matter where he is, he will stop.

Answer 4

Yea, that's unacceptable- it will only escalate as he gets older. I'm not saying he will be abusive, but I've seen crabby 5 year olds hit their mom when they don't get what they want, at that looks absolutely awful! My husband dated me as a single mom and with his input my daughter really understood things better. He would pick her up and simply explain to her how hitting was wrong. Tell her to apologize and give me a kiss. She eventually got the point. Dont be afraid to help out with this situation. Just probably ask the mom for permission to intervene, shouldn't be a problem I'm sure.

Answer 5

She should gently and firmly remind him he's not the boss over mother. She's possibly training a future wife batterer or other self indulgent self destructive behavior addict. Boundaries come with consequences. Learning when to say "Yes" and when to say "No" is for the child's safety. A child without boundaries will not feel loved. They teach us to keep the bad out and the good in. If they get by with it now, trouble is surely on the horizon later on. Apparently the time-outs aren't working nor an effective deterrent that will be remembered.

Answer 6

that is a tough matter. first of all when she is at home you make sure that she is putting him in time out for 5 or more minutes; no toys, no interaction with anyone, should be a blank wall and he should be sitting on the floor. if your out in public she should grab his hand and say no hitting. you might need to threaten him, but that should be the last resort. you should tell him several times that he isnt going to hit. you might need to threaten him if he doesnt listen. take something away that he really likes. or you can spank him. it is legal as long as you use an open hand on his butt. you can tell him that you are going to get a spanking in front of all these people if you dont stop. he might not want to do that so he might behave. if you need more advice dont bother to ask!

Answer 7

Well, she should hit him back of course! He probably doesn't realize that he is hurting her. He needs to learn early. Children do this a lot, but she needs to break him of that before he goes to day care or school.. he will hit the other children and they don't tolerate that. He is too young to understand time-out.. I am 23 and don't understand that load of crap. Proper spanking is not abuse.. it is education. As long as it is not excessive it is perfectly fine and not abusive! Remember also, the child is a part of the package.. so if this hurts your relationship and you can't agree on these issues you may as well end it now, because it will just cause conflict later.

Also, some children are naturally aggressive and yes, hitting is a natural thing and not ALWAYS learned.. babies hit for god sake!

Answer 8

Do a trip. placed him in his room and clarify that "he needs to quiet down, no hitting, hitting is undesirable" and lock him interior the room for no better than 10 minutes. he will cry, that's fantastic. come back and clarify returned in an ordinary way why he have been given a trip. Hug him. bypass play jointly, etc. It worked for my daughter (with biting). She have been given the message. self-discipline him now otherwise that's going to be greater sturdy as they are older. do exactly not hit him.

Answer 9

my son, he's 12 months old, i've been doing this for two months, and this is what i do when he's doing something naughty..

i go down to his level, eye contact, then talk with a firm tone, telling him it's a really bad thing to do, or it's a dangerous thing, or something that can hurt. if he starts crying, i spare one minute without talking, and then i speak to him in calm voice why it's not right.

it really works, and i'm the only person he listens to. He doesn't obey anybody but me.

Answer 10

She needs to give a time-out where ever she is. If she is not consistent about discipline he will not learn as easily. When my 2 year-old son hits I grab his hands and say sternly "NO HITTING" and I tell him that he gave mommy (Or whomever he hit) and ouie ans he has to kiss their ouie...like when he give him a kiss for when he gets one.

Answer 11

i am a mother of two and i see kids act a fool on their parents in the mall ,grocery store where ever my mother always told us where you act up is where you get your *** beat