Need some advice. Girls Only. Can you help me?

Question

Ok so I'm a senior in high school and in the past 4 years I have (sad to say) built a reputation of being a player. However, in the last year or so I have changed and I really like this girl. She really liked me sophomore year and told a mutual friend that she still has feelings. However because of my reputation she doesnt think it will work. How can I show her that I've changed?

Answer 1

First, tell her that you have changed, and just ask her to give you a chance. Second, apologize for the way you usedddd to be then maybe she will give you a chance :D if she really likes you, she will accept it and try to make it work, if she doesnt, then its her loss.

Answer 2

Hey man, congratulations on joining the human race again! Just kidding :-)

I think you should be straight with her. Tell her that you were mixed up, and that when you were serial-dating, you were never happy and that you really regret doing that. Promise her you're not like that anymore, and tell her that you really like her, and that you understand why she feels the way she does, but that you really have changed.

Golden rules:

1) No flirting or leering at other girls in front or her or her friends (it'll get back to her)

2) If your friends are acting laddish, just keep cool. You'll earn your reputation back.

It may take time for her to see you're not a heartbreaker. It's clear she really likes you- she's scared you'll break her heart if you get together. Spend more time with her. Ask her out on some casual just-friend dates, maybe go to the cinema or something. It may be worth confiding in her about your past to make her know just how much you regret it, and regret that it is giving her second thoughts about you.

Good luck, and don't screw this one up.

Answer 3

write her a deep touching letter telling her how much you've changed and how much you love her that you will do anything for her.Tell her that she should trust you first and that if you ever, lose her trust, then she can punish you by what ever means. If she still doesn't trust you, then tell the whole school that you love her, and confess to her in front of everybody, because this will make her feel more secured that if everyone knows you said you love her, then you probably won't tell the same thing to any other girl in the same school. okay, good luck. haha, I was a player too. But I'm not you. The more challenging she is, the more you want right? make sure you don't want her just because she's hard to get.

Answer 4

Well, first off ask her out to a dinner an a movie, while at dinner talk to her and tell her what u just told us, that yes u were a player but now u have changed an would like to just see her. And show her that u like her by not seeing other girls, and not showing interest in other girls, make her feel like she is the only girl in the world. I have a senior in high school and I help him out all the time with his girl, so while u are at the movies ask her if u can hold her hand. Dont take things to far so fast (sex) Just let her know that you are into her and not just want to have (sex) with her. But its better if you wait, and when u kiss her kiss her with a soft kiss, like a peck..dont move to fast unless she kisses you back..this is just to let her know that you are not with her for the (sex) ...just enjoy your time with her spend most of your off time on the phone, and together doing teenage stuff.. I hope this helps just a little...If you have anyother question click on my avatar... GOOD LUCK...!!! with your new girl, oh and give her some nice flowers to..

Answer 5

Be her best friend for a year and then see if you are still interested in dating her. Do not be a player or go out with anyone for a year. If not start over when you get to college, but you if you act like that you will ruin your reputation all over again.

Answer 6

Friends first. Show her that you have and changed. Get to know her. Listen to her if she gives you the chance. Give her a gift or some flowers. Just woo her man! Don't give up, we like the chase. Be polite. If you see her, run to open a door for her. Offer an umbrella in the rain. Gestures really work. Good Luck.

Answer 7

First, you need to call her or tell her face to face that you genuinly like her. Than you need to ask if she'll at leat give you one chance and if she says yes than you should take her out on a harmless date. Go see a movie, or take a walk, or go get some food somewhere, but don't make it a extremely late date and don't put her in any position that will make her think you are going to make a move. Just treat her well, and don't try to impress her just be yourself and be real honest with her, if she mentions the fact that you have had a past. Good luck, I hope it works out.

Answer 8

Girls just are that way. Dont worry. im a sophmore this year, and i know how you feel. there's this guy in my school, who is soooo cute, but he's kinda gained the same reputation, dont worry everything will turn out ok. i no 4 a fact, that if she has the same feelings that u do 4 her, she'll crack, you dont have 2 do a thing. just be your self and you'll solve your mystery.Good luck to ya.

Answer 9

Develop a pattern and a new reputation for being a Geek rather than a player and have your friends spread the word.

Answer 10

I would try talking to her about it and telling her that you realize that how you use to be was wrong but you are now a changed man and want to prove it to her if she will give you the chance. I would then show her that you are changed. If you use to go out all the time with different women then only go out with her, talk to her and let her know how you feel, don't brag about things that you have done because she may thing you are just trying to show off for her. Just be yourself and show her who you really are. Talk to her about your thoughts and dreams and really share with her.