Am I depressed or just unhappy?

Question

I feel tired all the time, I don't have motivation to do anything. I'm falling behind in college and I feel lonelier than ever. I've always been socially isolated. But I know I'm unhappy because I don't have anyone to talk to and no female contacts for emotional company. Is it just that or am I clinically depressed?

Answer 1

Only a psychologist can diagnose you, not folks on this website. If your college has free counseling I suggest you start there. :-) Good luck

Answer 2

It sounds like you might have depression. The fact that you're tired and lack motivation. I would definetely see a doctor. Depression is a medical condition than can be treated with medication and/or psychotherapy. I would recommend psychotherapy to reveal more about the issues of your social isolation and loneliness. Once your depression becomes more managable (meaning you're doing better in school and feel less tired) I would recommend that you join at least one group on campus. Make sure it is something you enjoy. It will help to build up your social skills. I would also read the book "Never eat lunch alone" I cant remember the author.

i've been there before. its hard. i'll say a prayer for you. Good luck to you.

Answer 3

It doesn't really matter which you are - the bottom line is you aren't happy about the way you feel, and that means you need to take some action. There should be counselling available at your college, and you should take advantage of that. But you should also do something for yourself - I'll bet you aren't physically active either, and physical activity is a great way to generate the endorphins that make you feel good. On a college campus there are lots and lots of opportunities to join a club, learn a sport, find a hobby, and through these actions, to meet people and develop friendships with people of both sexes
It's unlikely you are clinically depressed because you have enough gumption and enough initiative to register your question on Yahoo. If you were clinically depressed, that would be an almost impossible hurdle to handle. So you're on your way to overcoming your unhappiness already.
Good luck to you!.

Answer 4

Sounds like depression to me. Tiredness all the time is a sure sign of depression. I feel the same way and have always been socially isolated as well. If you would like to email me and talk you can. [e-mail]-----also you may want to talk to a dr if possible to see if you could possibly take an anti-depressant medicine, they cannot make your problems go away but can help you deal with everyday life a little easier. Hope this helped you out some :)

Answer 5

It could be caused by a physical problem. You should see a doctor first...is there a clinic on your campus you could go to? If there is nothing physically wrong, you could ask the doctor for a referral for counselling.

About 15 years ago I felt this way too...I was so exhausted it was an effort to even breathe. I thought it was depression, but it turned out I had a thyroid problem. I've also know people to get mono (especially in college), so don't let this pass...go see a doctor!

Hope you're feeling better soon.

Answer 6

Sounds like freshman year in college, lots of people go Thur this, does not make it feel any better. If you want to change you will have to work on it (easy to say, harder to do ). Join clubs, start conversations with classmates, invite some one even more shy to have coffee, talk to the school counselor, do all of the above, and force yourself to be friendlier, it will take practice, and humility, but the alternative is to stay lonely, and unhappy, take a deep breath, and get out there and start to live, if you have enough guts to ask for help, then you have the ablilty to make changes in your life, I know you can do it, now go for it.

Answer 7

You might be depressed, but you are pointing to things that, if remedied, would make a difference to you. Real depression does not have an immediate reason or cure.

A life coach might be more appropriate since there is probably nothing really wrong with you. They will help you set goals and support you in reaching them. This is more effective than dwelling on your problems, and cheaper than the 100+ dollars an hour that a shrink will charge you.

Answer 8

I would say depressed. No one should feel socially isolated.
Go to the doc and get some happy pills. Then take your life in your own hands and do something about your loneliness. Make the appropriate changes neccessary to find true happiness, not the manufactured type.

Answer 9

It sounds like depression. You can measure it by the amount of time these feelings last. Depression will make these feelings last longer, while just being unhappy generally fades away after some time.

Answer 10

It's often natural for someone to take out any internal issues out on those nearest to you. He probably feels comfortable with you and regards his comments as justified means to vent. Although, there is another reason this may happen, which is the direct opposite, insecurity. In either of the two extremes a good solution for you would be to speak with him about the issues, demonstrate the seriousness of such comments, and perhaps even help him get started with his life. The feeling of failure generally increases as time goes on, especially if the affected person is digressing in life. Good luck!

Answer 11

I'm a nurse and a college student too. I think everyone gets depressed. I would write down my feelings on paper. Try to see why you are feeling this way. Things will get better, hang in there. I'm also a Christian and watch this movie, I'll be praying for you. www.mayyoubeblessedmovie.com