my bf and i have been together for over a year; and whenever i go out with my family; he asks me what i did that day and i tell him. then he calls me a liar. he says i'm not telling him something and that i'm hiding something from him, but i'm not. i'm telling him EVERYTHING that happened and yet he always calls me a liar.
yeah; i've lied to him before but it wasnt that big of a deal; plus he knows that i wouldnt do anything wrong..
what do i do? i'm getting tired of feeling low because he keeps bringing me down by calling me a liar. i love him so much but he just ughhhh. idk. help please?
2007-01-14 13:03:53 · 9 answers · asked by BLiNKK 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
by the way; he started doing this about 3/4 of the way into our relationship.
2007-01-14 13:06:52 · update #1
Confront him or this trust issue is only going to get worse.
Tell him, "If you don't trust me then I am not sure if our relationship can continue. I want it to continue, but I can't have you grilling me about everything I do when I am away from you."
He could be paranoid, too possessive, or even a potential abuser looking for an excuse; many spouse abusers start with always questioning the other spouse and calling them a liar.
If he is so worried about what you do with your family then invite him along, and make sure he gets bored quickly. Regardless of what you do I would have second thoughts about this relationship. It doesn't sound like love if he can't trust you enough to be with your family.
2007-01-14 13:13:03 · answer #1 · answered by Dan S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-02 06:44:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd break it off with him. Obviously he has insecurity issues that he needs to adjust. Your just gonna end up suffering throughout the entire relationship if you just stick with this. Tell him that he better change his ways your that you'll find someone that does trust you. Dont let him accuse you and call you things because of his own issues.
2007-01-14 13:08:41 · answer #3 · answered by Kismet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like love you cant make anybody trust you. If you are being honest with him and he still does not trust you there is nothing you can do except take him with you where ever you go at all times. I dont think that is possible so I would have to say he is trying to control you based on his insecurities...
2007-01-14 13:11:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could just do it back to him and let him know how if feels to always not be trusted. Give him a taste of his own medicine. If you dont trust each other there isn't much love there. If he really loves you and you haven't done anything for him to lose trust for you, then he should have no reason not to believe you.
2007-01-14 13:10:28 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thank God I get to answer this question. What you're experiencing is a very strong warning sign. He's manipulating your mind...slowly. Next he'll be calling you names and being verbally abusive. Then he'll want to marry you so he can keep you at home, all for himself, then maybe he'll even start beatings to go along with the verbal abuse.
IT IS A EARLY WARNING SIGN TO RUN. DUMP HIS BUTT NOW, NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU LOVE HIM. LOVE YOURSELF FIRST...signed, a survivor.
2007-01-14 13:14:37 · answer #6 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have learned from experience that when guys do this they are usually cheating and paranoid. I have had this happen to me a few times and later found out that all of their paranoia about me lying was due to the fact that they were cheating. I would be very leery of this behavior from him. Watch your back girl.
2007-01-14 13:08:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would not hesitate to have a cancer removed from your body even if you loved that part - breast removal for cancer for example - so now you must have that part of your life - him - removed for your emotional health. Be glad that you aren't married because it could be even worse then. He is a parasite living only for putting you down
and could even be dangerous in time if you stood up to him after getting married so get rid of him now!!
2007-01-14 13:13:32 · answer #8 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend who was with a guy like that and when they moved in together he started getting worse with the comments about where she was. then eventually it got to where he punched her face in and tried to give her herpes. he even got in my face to beat me up. a man going to beat me up. what a freakin joke. anyway, its bad news with him now. just wait a little longer and see how it gets severe!
2007-01-14 13:14:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋