Ok my girlfriend thinks that i have changed this past few months, cuz we have been together for about 8 months and she sed i have changed and i use to be the ultimate guy that she loved and she didnt need anyone else and now she feels like she is missing out and that she needs more than me and that she wants me to change back to how i originally was plz help me i love this women?
2007-01-14 12:59:38 · 8 answers · asked by kohl_hutchison 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Men typically do not change and that often irritates women. Most likely, what has changed is the newness of the relationship. She was expecting certain things out of you by now and since you really haven't changed, She thinks things are different because she wanted them to be different. Or she is getting ready to dump you and she is trying to justify her reason by making a reason.
2007-01-14 13:43:02 · answer #1 · answered by Ben B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The "how" is entirely up to you. Only you can know how to change yourself back. But it's probably not a change. You're still the same guy, you love her. My guess, because I've been there before, is that you've become comfortable in your relationship.
We have a tendency to be wonderful, romantic men in the beginning, but then as the relationship progresses, sometimes, we relax a bit and put in less effort. The emotions are still there, but maybe not as much of the actions. You should try asking yourself what it was that you two used to do together earlier on in your relationship. How often did you go out? What things did you do for her, or together? Were you more open about your feelings? Did you talk more? Ask her for specifics even. Communication is key in any relationship.
Chances are, that if you can reconnect with the earlier you, that you may feel happier as well. After all, isn't making her happy what makes you most happy?
2007-01-14 13:08:24 · answer #2 · answered by M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's tough, sometimes the effect of that person on you is everlasting. If you're a better person for that person being in your life, why would you want to go being who you were before. But I'm thinking she wants the relationship to take a step back. Maybe before the two of you devoted all your free time together. It could be that she needs some extras in her life, it's not always a bad thing. Be joined at the heart not the hip. Be independant together.
2007-01-14 13:12:47 · answer #3 · answered by BETH 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That you love her is not at issue but rather that she speaks of change in you that has altered her.
Enquire in what manner you've changed - we all do and don't always notice and so you may alter your self.
Should there be no specifics the change may have been in her in which case, frankly, love her or not there ain't no way of reheating a fire that's turned into ashes.
You'll find someone else to love if she's cooled. BET ON IT!
2007-01-14 13:12:49 · answer #4 · answered by JOE HUEGLIN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody changes and everybody lets their guard down little by little. Are you really that bad of a guy? She must want a lot of attention or something. Maybe she's the one who's not worth it.
2007-01-14 13:03:53 · answer #5 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kinda sounds like you took her for granted. If you got a girl you care about then you should try to spend every waking minute with her no matter where you are.
2007-01-14 13:04:41 · answer #6 · answered by guitarhero213 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her about how you used to act...and see if you can change some things around....
2007-01-14 13:02:53 · answer #7 · answered by Serenity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself and her how and in what ways you have changed.maybe its her and not you that changed
2007-01-14 13:04:18 · answer #8 · answered by starr67 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋