im 14 and im now dating a 16 year old boy. we have known each other for 2 years and we dated twice before. weve talked about sex, and i asked him if thats the only reason hes with me and he said no, thats not something he would do. he convinced me and now im probably going to have sex with him. is he maybe just using me?
my boyfriends had sex with a lot of other girls before that were never his girlfriend
2007-01-14 12:32:44 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
all guys want to get into your pants i should know im guy. oh and wait till your 16
2007-01-14 12:40:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's all 16 year old boys care about is sex. The fact that he 'convinced' you to go ahead and do it just proves it right there. If he was really seeking a serious relationship with you he wouldn't be concentrating on sex he would be concentrating on spending time with you, going out and having fun, and giving you space and time to make that decision. My dad always told me that sex is all boys at 16 think about - but is that just dad being dad? I asked my bf what was in his mind at 16 and he said sex, girls, and more sex - although he'd never admit it to girls he was trying to get with. The fact that this boy already has a bad track record with other girls is another indication of his morals and priorities. Don't rush - you'll thank yourself later. If you're not ready, be honest with him, and if he really loves you he will respect your decision. If he doesn't, you're better off anyway and when you're older you'll find a man worthy of your first time.
2007-01-14 12:50:40 · answer #2 · answered by *Photo-op* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You're too young for sex and he's old enough to know better. He may have an STD... like herpes or crabs or worse! He may get you pregnant. He may ruin your life.
Please end this relationship for your safety and longterm happiness. If he was a good boyfriend, he'd wait for you. He wouldn't even mention sex.
Just think- one five minute session of really crappy sex for...
Herpes.
Crabs.
Genital warts.... have you seen these things? They can leave you scarred for life.
Chylamidia
HIV
A pregnancy, possibly a miscarriage as you're so young
The list goes on. It's not worth it. He's not worth it. You're worth more.
Back away now, get yourself some nice friends and have someone to confide in to help you save yourselve from similar situation in the future.
If you were to have sex with this boy, he would be breaking the law. Technically, it would be rape.
... and even if you didn't get pregnant, word would probably get round that you were a 'S L U T'. Your parents would find out. Your teachers would find out.
I'm sure you're a really nice person, and you do have a good head on your shoulders to be asking this question. Listen to yourself. You sound like you know this is wrong, that you don't want to do it, but you feel pressured.
Yes, he is using you.
Leave him.
2007-01-14 12:42:01 · answer #3 · answered by midsojo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True or not, I've often thought that guys who have girlfriends much younger than them are too immature to attract someone their own age.
Oh, and all guys can be very persuasive when it comes to sex, they'll say all the right things to convince you it's ok. If he's really a decent and mature guy, he'll at least wait until your over 16. If he's been with with a lot of other girls it looks doubtful.
2007-01-14 12:49:42 · answer #4 · answered by Bluehat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most boys want it. He probably does. He is playing innocent and thats probably how he got with the other girls. So if you dont want to (and your too young) get a different boyfriend.
Try babysitting an infant before you have sex so you know what you can expect if you get pregnant. Also tell him how much your friends Dad is paying in child support, maybe he will think twice too.
2007-01-14 12:37:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would like to say that he may be different ... but actually the odds are he wants to get in your pants. If he's had sex with a lot of other girls before ... even if they weren't his girlfriend . . . he's not going to change over night. He wants you as a "trophy". Tell him you want to wait until you have been going together for a year. That should tell you a lot how he reacts to that.
2007-01-14 12:50:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know he's not a virgin, then make him get tested for STDs, especially HIV, before he gets anywhere near you! You can't just take his word that he's disease-free, and not taking this one little step can add up to you catching something that could render you unable to have children later on in your life, or something you could even die from. Please, whether you choose to have sex or not is your own business, but whether you decide to be safe or not is the business of every partner you will ever have for the rest of your life.
2007-01-14 12:39:23 · answer #7 · answered by Cat Loves Her Sabres 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he is. He is a 16 year old testosterone filled boy who can't get a girl his age, so he's using you. Do not do anything with him, you will regret it greatly because it wasn't with someone you really care about. Tell him to find someone his own age. You will regret it, I promise you.
2007-01-14 12:38:51 · answer #8 · answered by .:Blair:. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ALL 16 yr. old boys want in your pants. That's a fact but may not be all he is interested in. He may still like you after but he definately wants to plow you. Sorry to be so blunt but it's the truth.
2007-01-14 12:42:02 · answer #9 · answered by qmstr725 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-01-14 12:38:54 · answer #10 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for starters I think you are too young for sex. You should wait until you love the person. Make it special. Do it when you are ready and not rush it for a guy.
2007-01-14 12:38:50 · answer #11 · answered by Jfranc1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋