I've broke with my boyfriend that i really love just a couple of days ago, because he is sleeping with someone else.
but he is really perfect, he talk to me, call me always, give me support and encouragement.
Now that i am alone and need someone all i can think is him, and his memories kills me every morning.
i cant stop thinking about him.
he cheated on me but it feels like i still want him.
am i thinking straight? or just confused.
I'm so down now, i don't know if i can make it.
Help...
2007-01-14 12:30:26 · 9 answers · asked by Princess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is perfectly normal for you to feel like that, because you really liked him, but he's a cheater. You feel like it's the end of your world, and everything is spiraling down. You wont be able to go another day without him, you miss everything you loved about him, and even the things that annoyed you... Move on.
Once something like that has happened in a relationship it is hard for you to totally trust that person. You may be thinking, "well, I do trust him still". But, actually even though you might not notice it, their is a part of you that doesn't trust him.
Forget it you are just in a state of denial and confusion. It will take time, but you will find another guy to fill the same place in your heart that he did, and their will be better days.
2007-01-14 12:42:09 · answer #1 · answered by liquidblue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you're hurting right now. I won't lie to you; you will hurt for some time. But it does get better. You will make it. There are so many more guys out there who don't cheat on women. You will find that special guy who will treat you like you deserve.
No one is perfect. This guy who cheated on you is even less.
Think about this. If you give-up, what about that guy out there who is looking for his version of the perfect woman: YOU! Make him a believer in happily-ever-after. I know you can do it.
2007-01-14 20:56:09 · answer #2 · answered by JJK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals and a cheater will cheat again.
Deal with the pain, ask him not to call you any more. You need time to heal and move on.
If you get in the cycle of abuse...going back, breaking up, going back, etc. it will still have the same outcome and you will hurt even more.
If you were your friend what type of advise would you give yourself. Be kind to yourself, your boyfriend is a DOG.
2007-01-14 20:39:00 · answer #3 · answered by chuck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he's so perfect, why did he sleep with someone else?
If he loved you, why would he do that to you?
Easy answer, he's not perfect, he's an a$$hole!
Just think that thought.
HE'S AN A$$HOLE!
Think it over and over.
HE'S AN A$$HOLE!
Now, when that sinks in, get out there and find someone that will love you properly and do the right thing by you.
And cheer up, you're well rid of him and deserve better!
2007-01-14 20:37:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he was so great why did he cheat on you
You can make it
you are in the pj moment you a great girl i can tell and you need to get out of your pj's and go out and enjoy your life he held you back when going out with you so now its your chance to get loose and find yourself....
Live for you and no one else yes you found someone you love now you need to find some one that loves you and you love back ...
love is trust and going through thick and thin which your ex and you would have never had sorry but face it go to the mattresses be tough
so close that door and start opening new doors till you find the right door.......
2007-01-15 03:50:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"he is really perfect,
.....No.
he talk to me,
.....Talks cheap, it's actions that count
call me always,
.....when not calling the someone else.
give me support and encouragement. "
.....Not by his actions.
am i thinking straight? or just confused.
.....uh, thinking crooked
Dear Confused,
Every morning take a cold shower, then go for a run and say "Hello" to everyone you pass by. Some will smile and say "Good-morning" back at you.
You are NOT alone. . . call a friend for dinner . . . get your hair done . . . dress up to dine and talk about old times and aspirations.
2007-01-14 20:43:44 · answer #6 · answered by JOE HUEGLIN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all in your brain.
Your brain has been producing a chemical called, "Oxytocin".
Some people call it the "chemical of love".
What it does is send you on this emotional attachment - you feel like you can't live without him. You have to realize that that this is all normal. And nature will take care of it.
http://www.oxytocin.org/oxytoc/index.htm...
2007-01-14 20:51:34 · answer #7 · answered by Dr. D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't have to read your whole paragraph to know you need to KICK his butt to the curb.I don't understand women who say they Love sombody who disc them like that.You deserve to be treated as a godess and if you let a man treat you like dirt then it's your falt.Get over that love stuff and kick his butt as far to the curb as he can go.And oh yea don't help him up ither..Good Luck.Get over it.Life is to short to keep trippin..
2007-01-14 20:35:21 · answer #8 · answered by gblue52 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is a cheater. Yet he is really perfect.
Get your head examined, will you?
2007-01-14 20:32:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋