My daughter has always been smart, but recently, she asked me if she could date an 8th grader. She always walks out of school with him, it's just that, is 12 a bit too young?
2007-01-14 12:27:39 · 29 answers · asked by Lily 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
A few weeks ago, I decided to have my phone provider record all the phone conversations. She's been talking to him on the phone every day, for more than her limited time a day. This has become a problem, since she's only allowed ten minutes and at the end of every phone call they say they love eachother and he usually says, "If your mom won't let you date, I'll wait for you. I promise." She keeps telling me that everyone in her class has a date, but most of them are dating 5th graders or somebody in the 6th grade (like an in school thing). She probably doesn't know what 8th grade guys think, I know they're doing this whole 'keeping it a secret' thing. But this time she asked me. Do you guys think maybe I should swich her schools or what?
2007-01-14 12:51:58 · update #1
You have to ask that question? What kind of parent are you?
2007-01-14 16:05:33 · answer #1 · answered by Flat_out_Bob 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That whole story is the dumbest thing I've ever heard. Is this girl under the perception that all middle schoolers date? Because that's sooo not the case. You might want to go to administrators at the school and discuss the information, including taped phone conversations. It's up to them to give you some advice as to what course of action you should take. Also, contact the boy's parents and give them the same information. Finally, tell your daughter that she's too young for this and she'll meet the right guy when the time is right.
2007-01-14 15:11:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
I think 12 years old is too young to date no matter how old the boy is, I am not permitting my kids to date until they are 16, why do the parents always want to rush their kids into adult hood at such a young age, let them be children because at 12 she is a child
2007-01-14 16:26:44 · answer #3 · answered by Urchin 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to the boy's parents yet? I personally would not let a 12 year old go on unchaperoned dates. I wonder if they know that he's dating a girl who is so young?
Yeah, talk to the boy's parents before you do anything. You don't want a Romeo & Juliet situation, which has happened in real life at various times.
2007-01-14 13:03:46 · answer #4 · answered by mabster60 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, if i was 14 and in 8th grade, i would date a 5th grader.
2016-05-24 02:59:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The BOTH of them are much too young to date period. Your daughter is STILL a child and at this point the "I love you's" are more because they THINK they are supposed to say those things, they are emulating what they see and hear on television. I suggest you find some constructive activities to get your daughter into or she may wind up another statistic on welfare.
2007-01-14 17:49:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
GOOD GRIEF!!!!! What is wrong with you people?A 12 year old dating?That is crazy!A 12 year old girl with a 14 year old boy that is filled with raging hormones and 1 thing on his mind?HM MM,can we spell MOMMY?If you want your daughter to be a mother in JR.high then by all means let her date but don't be all shocked when she comes home and says she is pregnant.
2007-01-15 05:16:49 · answer #7 · answered by kipp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, let them just be friends.
On the other hand, if she wants to date, let her. But she should only be able to date people a grade younger, in her grade, or a grade older (5th-6th-7th). If her friends are doing it, and if she is ready to date, then let her. But make sure they go no farther than 1 minute max makeout for the time being.
8th grade it too old for her. Who knows, he might take advantage of her.
And by the way, don't monitor her phone calls unless something serious happens (i.e. she defy's you, and starts making out and god forbid have sex with him).
Good luck =), and I wish ya'll the best.
2007-01-14 14:40:03 · answer #8 · answered by The_Pink_One 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Completely supervised dates where you or another adult you trust is with them at all times. Unless you're just completely uncomfortable with it, in which case, say no, explain why, and sit down with her to discuss when she should be allowed to date. I wasn't allowed to go out on dates until I was 15, and I survived. I did always have a boyfriend at school though.
This might be a good time to talk to your daughter about sex; limits and respect, if you haven't already.
2007-01-14 12:36:21 · answer #9 · answered by crazyjmommy 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
That's too young and too early for dating. A 12 year old girl can't possibly handle herself in such a relationship, let alone the 14 year old boy who has his hormones wildely spinning in his head.
2007-01-14 12:35:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have a twelve year old daughter too, and I wouldn't let her. Why?? If they are friends he can go over to your house when you are there, so they can watch a movie in your FAMILY room, preferably with other kids there too. But I say the "exclusive" thing is not the ticket, no-way. I wouldn't even let her go to HIS house, because i am just careful that way. They should be encouraged to be platonic by being friends with a WIDE range of PEOPLE.
2007-01-14 12:35:54 · answer #11 · answered by * 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋