When we have sex he takes everything off except his clothes. I think he's embarrassed because he is a little chubby. I dont care about it and I want him to take it off but I dont want him to be embarrassed about it. How do I talk to him about this? Has this happened to anyone?
2007-01-14 12:16:18 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I meant everything but his shirt!
2007-01-14 12:22:58 · update #1
i had the same problem with my bf and i just told him that if he wasn't going to take his shirt off during sex then neither was i and it worked :)
2007-01-14 12:21:14 · answer #1 · answered by me 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to give his self-esteem a little boost!
Tell him how cute he is all the time. Make him feel desired, and make him feel that he will be pleasing you immensely by doing you this little bitty favour. During sex, tell him how incredibly hot he is. Start telling him you've been thinking about getting him naked all day and can't wait to get his clothes off. Let him know that you feel insecure about bits of your body, but that it's okay because you know he loves you... hint hint! Maybe say to him if he takes off his shirt then you will do absolutely ANYTHING for him. Keep the conversation sweet, fun, kinky and loving and maybe he'll relax enough to listen!
Then make sure when he finally takes his top off, you properly smother his chest and tummy in lots of kisses and tell him how gorgeous he is- so he feels comfortable the next time!
2007-01-14 12:26:05 · answer #2 · answered by midsojo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not make a big deal out of it. Also, giving sincere complements are really good. If you make him take off his shirt and he doesn't really want to, you will have less sex because he will avoid it.
He will eventually get over it. I promise over time, he will be comfortable enough to pass gas, use the toilet, and everything in front of you. Just don't make a big deal out of it, or it will take longer.
2007-01-14 12:24:32 · answer #3 · answered by Jenalyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him leave his shirt on for now and eventually he will become comfortable with you and he will most likely start taking it off himself, but don't make him do something he doesn't want to. If you take it off for him, he will feel VERY uncomfortable and self conscious. Which could lead to him not wanting sex as often.
2007-01-14 12:32:04 · answer #4 · answered by patience032651 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will eventually take it off. It'll just take time for him to accept the fact that you love him no matter how chubby he is. Ask him why he doesn't take off his shirt during sex, then tell him you want him to take it off, don't tell him he's chubby, tell him how hot YOU think he is. It'll all come off with time!
2007-01-14 12:23:18 · answer #5 · answered by lil' miss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him why he doesn't take it off, have you seen him without his shirt before? If so then that may be the reason, but he may be hiding something else, i.e. acne, stretch marks, and so on which can be very difficult for a guy to not be self conscious about. Ask him why he doesn't ask him if it bothers him and tell him it would make it that much better for you if he took it off.
2007-01-14 12:22:55 · answer #6 · answered by JordanDDunn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Withold sex. Say "You either take off that shirt and let me see the sexly little chubby man underneith, or no sex!" Tell him that you want ALL of him. But witholding sex should do the trick.
-Muse-
2007-01-14 13:23:09 · answer #7 · answered by Baby Firefly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let time pass and if you two are still together then he'll most likely be comfortable enough with you to take his shirt off.
2007-01-14 12:21:57 · answer #8 · answered by ladylove79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I smell a third nipple.
Just kidding. What you need to do is let him see you crushing on "chubby" celebs. Rub his belly but not so much as to make him feel self conscious.
BTW, uh... if he takes off everything BUT HIS CLOTHES, what exactly is it that he takes off? Hmmm. Can't seem to get that image here.
2007-01-14 12:20:08 · answer #9 · answered by Sleek 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I will try sex using food ( whip, chocolate syrup ) that will make him take off his shirt. Lick his belly yes you need to do it so he will be comfortable with his body. Tell him how you want to kiss him all over, and tickle him all over.
2007-01-14 12:24:10 · answer #10 · answered by LIZA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋