A guy I'm dating was supposed to come down to my house today. We made plans last Wednesday. Well today I still hadn't heard from him about what time to expect him so I called him and he sounded really stressed out and was really apologetic and said it's been a really bad weekend, all kinds of bad things had happened, his car is breaking down, etc. He said he wanted to come down but it was just a bad weekend. And he was going to email me but his computer wasn't working either, and he was busy fixing that and some other things. Should I give him the benefit of the doubt? He sounded stressed out like he was afraid I would be mad. I do live like 2 hours away so it's a long drive. What do you think? Thanks!!!
2007-01-14 12:14:23 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I do happen to know it's true his car is breaking down and he was trying to buy a new one but it didn't work out.
2007-01-14 12:28:13 · update #1
it's easy to sound stressed out on the phone. He should have called you long before his arrival time.
2007-01-14 12:18:18 · answer #1 · answered by blue2blnde 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok, well I don't know some of the details of your situation (like your ages and maturity level), but here is what I would say. From all of the experience I have, I would tell you that if a guy REALLY wants to see you, he will. He will do everything he can to get to you. At a minimum he would have called and said "I'm sorry, I just can't get there". He didn't even do that. Here's how it looks to someone on the outside:
1) he didn't call
2) excuse 1 - his "car broke down"
3) excuse 2 - his "computer didn't work"
4) excuse 3 - it's been a "really bad week"
Yeah, right. I don't believe it. Get on with your life and find somebody who is interested in you. I don't think this guy is. (Sorry)
2007-01-14 20:26:20 · answer #2 · answered by Me 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO! No way does he forget to call and tell you he can't make it. I understand if things happened and he had to change plans. However, his not calling is indicative of how he feels about you. You didn't matter enough for him to call. I know that's harsh, but it's true. I've been there and had to tell myself the same thing. I also told him so. I wasn't going to tolerate being treated that way. Either treat me like I'm important or you won't have to worry about me at all. Trust me, he got the message quickly. Don't let him get away with this; he'll only do it again!
2007-01-14 20:22:03 · answer #3 · answered by Apple21 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he was so stressed about his bad weekend why did he make yours bad also. If you were important to him he could have taken out 5 minutes to call you. There are phone booths around if his phone and computer didn't work. You sound like a nice person so forget him so that you can find the right person, or so the right person can find you.You deserve much more then this guy has to offer.
2007-01-14 20:21:55 · answer #4 · answered by mother of Bridezilla 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would give him a second chance. It does sound fishy though. SO - if anything like that happens again... cut him off. That weird behavior sounds like something better came along..(another girl, a party, etc.) Anway, don't be mad at him, act like it didn't happen.. have fun but keep it in the back of your mind! Good Luck
2007-01-14 20:20:22 · answer #5 · answered by LJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he had your phone number, there is no reason why he couldn't have let you know. But sometimes things really do happen that throw all your plans into disarray. I'd say if this was the first time he had been unreliable, let it slide, but if it happens again, no more second chances.
2007-01-14 20:23:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he should of called you to let you know how things were goin, everyone has problems, i would give him the benefit of the doubt this once but if you think its not true then dont!!!! i mean he could be lyin to you cuz its easy to do it on the phone but its up to you cuz you know him better than us!!!! why dont you go visit him since he's havin so many problems that are stressin him out????
2007-01-14 20:25:56 · answer #7 · answered by GigglesGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe he needs a brake and time to himself. I'd let him do his own stuff for a whille and see what happerns. Don't blame him he could be telling the truth and really streed out because he thinks if he not around you'll brake up with him so maybe that why he all streed out .
2007-01-14 20:25:00 · answer #8 · answered by gamer_12342000 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would try the benefit of the doubt unless he does things like this often and i would maybe try getting it so i could go see him seems how he cant come to you .
2007-01-14 20:20:14 · answer #9 · answered by april_sundae 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this time I would give him the benefit of the doubt, but if he does it again he probably is just not that into you. If I were you I wouldn't make myself so available for him next time. Make him ask you for the next date.
2007-01-14 20:18:59 · answer #10 · answered by apple1212 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋