have cheated on my girlfriend (she's now my ex), and I had been trying to get back with her, but at the sametime did not feel like. I asked for a break, but she later ended up breaking up with me, and ending the relationship. She's deeply in love with me, but she recently found out that I had cheated, well not cheated her but lied to her. As I was flirting with her, I became part of this affair with another girl. It was until some days ago taht she found out about this through a person I trusted and considered my friend. She read the messages I had sent to this other girl, and from that time she's been hurt. She does not want to talk to me right now, but I really cared for her, it was more like a close friend's love and I feel guilt for doing what i did. My ex has not found out about the other 6 times I cheated on her after getting together. I am now trying to regain her trust before she finds out about the rest of the affairs i encountered, and I feel the need to have her.
2007-01-14 12:13:03 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sorry honey it is not going to happen... If you cheated and got caught, she is not going to forgive you...
if you really loved her or wanted to stay with her you would not of cheated and hurt her that badly.. that is the meanest thing you could do to someone you loved..
time to move on and learn for your mistakes.. do not cheat on your girlfriend, or wife!
2007-01-14 12:19:17 · answer #1 · answered by purpleyellowroses 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you've got some issues of your own to work on before you start engaging the woman you hurt in your drama all over again. I don't know your relationship history before this current woman who dumped you, but have you cheated before? Is this a pattern for you? Cheating is generally not about wanting sex with someone different. It is a huge red flag that something is wrong with the communication and underlying emotional intimacy in the relationship. Until you start figuring out what issues you have with getting close to your romantic partners, you should just refrain from having any relationships for a while. Seeing a therapist probably wouldn't be a bad idea to get clear on what is going on with you in this regard. You cheated on this woman at least six different times - sorry, but you've got issues to work out without her. Leave her alone and work out your own stuff. Then you'll be ready to engage in a relationship with somebody that will be much healthier emotionally.
2007-01-14 12:20:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you leave the poor girl alone before you hurt her again? How do you intend to gain her trust when you're still trying to hide things from her? Eventually, she'll find out about the other six times you cheated and she'll be hurt even more that you lied and tried to cover it up. If you really care about her, you'll go away and let her find someone who will treat her well. You don't deserve to be with her.
2007-01-14 12:20:11 · answer #3 · answered by la buena bruja 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone and let her move on with her life...I don't even know how to describe what I think without using profanity at this moment...you want her trust back before she finds out about the other 6 times you cheated...WOW you are a real piece of work!!
2007-01-14 12:20:07 · answer #4 · answered by Rhonda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looks like there some trust issues in the relationships. I understand you might care for her but it seems like you havent gave her any reasons to get back with her. It also sounds like you have some issues to. For you to care for someone and cheat on them, you must have never been cheated on. If you want to get back with her, tell her the truth. About all the girls you cheated with.
2007-01-14 12:20:53 · answer #5 · answered by JENNIFER C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you learned your lesson player, and change your name, players dont feel emotions, you are not a player, i hate cheaters and no matter how much i am in love i will NOT tolerate someone wanting to have sex behind my back, now is the time to suck it up, and move along, you did this to yourself, maybe next time you will keep it in your pants, maybe she comes back, if so remember this moment and how you feel, this gives good men bad reputations and women categorize us all that way, when we in fact arent good luck and i hope that your pain teaches you to be a real man and treat ladies with respect
2007-01-14 12:23:26 · answer #6 · answered by waterboy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry,but it sound's like your to late that girl is smart.She should leave you.Once a cheater always a cheater.Why would you do that to her if you care for her so much like you say you do?I don't understand it.If a guy truly care's for his girlfriend he would never cheat on her no matter what.No matter if you kiss another girl,talk to another girl,or have sex with another girl it is just wrong.your ex is smart!!
2007-01-14 12:23:18 · answer #7 · answered by Lacie A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She knows that you are a cheating bastard and she doesn't want you anymore. Leave her alone so she can find someone who can really love her exclusively. Leave her alone to find a better man than you. If you love her, set her free. And grow up, real adults don't treat people like crap like you do.
2007-01-14 12:17:27 · answer #8 · answered by noitall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really care about her like you say you do don't you think she deserves to be with someone that won't cheat on her?
2007-01-14 12:17:12 · answer #9 · answered by apple1212 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her ur VERY VERY SRRy bout the past and youll NEVER EVER do it again. tell her how u feel. And ask her to be wit u again.
2007-01-14 12:15:56 · answer #10 · answered by kitten baby 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋