What do you think? This guy has been dating his 25 year old girlfriend for 10 months the girlfriend has said in the past to everyone she wants to get married but the boyfriend isnt ready to he was 22 at the time now 23. She is now pregnant. Do you think he should marry her because she is pregnant?
2007-01-14 12:11:34 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
People should never get married unless they want to for the right reasons. Just because she is pregnant is not a "right" reason. That will only end in a divorce and more problems for the child. If he wants to marry her than by all means he should but not just because she is pregnant.
2007-01-14 12:15:41 · answer #1 · answered by Rhonda 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
No he shouldn't marry her JUST because she is pregnant. The child can still have a good relationship with both parents if they are not married. You should only get married if you love each other and want to spend the rest of your lives together, other wise a year or two down the road, if you want a divorce it will hurt the child more. think about it in the long run kind of way. Yes getting married both parents will be around the child all the time, but if you always fight that isn't good for the child to be subjected to either. anyway only get married if you are in love and ready to be with one person for the rest of your life.
2007-01-14 21:01:59 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
getting someone pregnant isnt the only reason to get married maybe back in the day yes but now no way if he is having second thoughts about the relationship or if he is not happy then dont get married. and depending on finances he should be more concerned about being able to provide for the baby than if he should get married. my bro had his first kid out of before marriage and now my neice is 8 and they have been married for 5 years. i guess do what he feels is right
2007-01-15 10:55:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
getting married because of a pregnancy isn't a wise move. marriage isn't about a child, but the love and commitment to people have for one another. my partner and i have 2 children and have been together for 9 years, a lot of people said we should of gotten married when 1 got pregnant - but in all honesty we had only been to gether about a year when i did. there is no way i knew all i needed to know about him then to make that descision, that is why so many marriages fail nowadays, people marry before they actually know each other. and after a year or two they discover that the person they married isn't what they thought and so they split. hope this help.
2007-01-15 13:46:17 · answer #4 · answered by frost7216 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First a question, does he love her? If the answer is yes, they yes. Just because she's pregnant is no reason to get married. Many people have done this in the past, and things never work out.
2007-01-14 22:46:46 · answer #5 · answered by Melissa Breazeale 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. He shouldn't marry if he will resent her and make her life miserable in the future. However, he's got a huge responsibility for the rest of his life and that's not negotiable. The only person who matters in this equation is the unborn child - that baby should have the best parents and they should try to be the best parents whether they are married or not. If they can't live together and provide a safe, mentally healthy environment for the child then they should not be together.
2007-01-14 20:19:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. They should wait that out until they both KNOW in their hearts that they are meant to be together forever. Marriage is supposed to mean something much more than that. It's not something to jump into and hope for the best. They still need time to get to know each other, which I'm sure they will now that they are having a child together. They can decide later whether or not they want to commit themselves to each other forever.
2007-01-14 20:23:22 · answer #7 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
while i would feel he should be responsible for his child... i dont think he should marry just for the sake of the child cause in five or six years time when they are splitting... the child will prob take it bad, whereas if the child knows no different he wont be effected at all.. one can still be a great dad without having to be married to the mother,
2007-01-14 20:18:31 · answer #8 · answered by lollie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that he should only marry her because he loves her. Not because she is pregnant. In the future things may not work out and this could cause great stress on the child. It's not fair to put a child through something like a divorce or anything like that.
2007-01-14 20:16:29 · answer #9 · answered by Shellie 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well, regardless of how most of the world thinks now, it IS the honorable thing to do. There is a child coming into the world, and if she "trapped" him or not, that's kinda beside the point now. Not the best way to start out a marriage, but many of our grandparents started their marriages out that way.
2007-01-14 21:22:51 · answer #10 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋