i am 18 help me?

Question

i know i am sufferingfrom depression i have had a lot to deal with in my life first i lost my mother at age thirteen and i had to help raise my eight year old sister then i got pregnant and i had an abortion cause i was only sixteen and now i believe i am preg again but not for sure and the guy i am seeing now won't talk to me about it or anything so i don't know as to what to do i begin to panic sometimes and i get really dizzy as though i am going through a panic attack or something what should i do besides go to the doc

Answer 1

You have good reasons to be depressed, but you don't have to let depression rule your life. Go to social services or a church to seek support. You don't have to go thru this alone.

Start making smart, responsible choices in your life - like using birth control if you are going to have sex. An unplanned pregnancy on top of your other issues is just unneccesary stress.

If you reach out with a sincere desire to make your life better, I am sure you will find good people in your community to help you.

Answer 2

Well first all you need to quit being so keyed up about what is going on here. Then you need to discide if you are going tokeeTp the baby, even if the father is not coming around yet, which he might later, but you can never tell. You are haveing the panic attacks cause you are stressing on this . You need to try not to stress and take it a bit easier there. The dizzy spells could be from the panic attacks and depression. It could also mean something else. If you are taking medication you need to go to a doctor right away to have it stopped a safe way for the baby sake.
And then you need to go and talk to someone that you trust or a professional about the depression, and all the things that seem to be stressing you out, cause if you are stressed , that does effect the baby that you have inside of you, and the baby gets stressed to, and that can cause some real problems for both of you. So try to relax, and try not to worry about the father, I know that is a hard thing to do, but it is stressing you and the child you are caring inside of you, which is not good for either of you. And you should get to a OB doctor as soon as you can, they can help, to and see if the stress is effecting the baby yet. So please do it right away, not just for you, but for the child that you are caring inside of you.

Answer 3

First off calm down. If the guy wont talk with you he may not be worth keeping. I am sorry to hear about loosing your mom I lost mine at 21 and it was hard I cant imagine 13. You may also just be having panic attacks and that could be messing with your period. If you have depression you need to seek help whether through a counselor or doc. You may also seek out a greif support group. There are many online. I know from growing up writing in a journal helped me alot. Sometimes just writing how you feel then tearing it up and getting rid of it helps immensely.

Answer 4

Hon, you are right where I was when I was 18, pregnant, and unmarried, and in-love with the babies father, but was on such a guilt trip, that I couldn't marry him, and married someone I wasn't in-love with. I, however, did stay married to him for 19 years., and he was abusive, but I went on and had three kids by him.
My advice, keep this baby! Why? I have the most beautiful oldest daughter you have ever seen, and two beautiful grand kids from her! I am so thankful I didn't kill her in the womb!
The man I married accepted her as his own, and was, and still is, his favorite child. She was also the first grand child to my parents and his.
I was pg. and unmarried in the early '60's!!!! Do you know how much derision I got from the older generation? AT least, today. it is more accepted then when I was pregnant. There are so many options out there for you!
First, get help for yourself by going to mental health! Get on a financial support program until you can get on your own feet. Since you are pg. and unmarried, it will be easier for you to get financial help. Once you have established yourself in the system, and doing what you have to do for yourself and your baby, then you will be able to go to parenting classes and get more information on being a good parent. Then set yourself up to get help for some training so you can enter the work force! It will surprize you how much better you will feel when "once you have all your ducks in a row."
The depression will take care of itself once you get some counseling, maybe medication, and a support group for yourself so you can start understanding who you are, and let go of your mother's death.
That (letting go of your mothers death) will probably be the hardest, and the tallest hurdle you will have to jump! Allow yourself the time to grieve for your Mom. You probably never had the time before with raising your sister and school. You will need some serious counseling for this hurdle.
You don't need a GUY to take care of you! YOU CAN TAKE CARE OF YOU! That was the mistake I made, I didn't believe that! I do now, but I'm 50 years older! LOL

Answer 5

Take a home pregnancy test and do what you must do, but then choose a birth control method and stick to it! You must also insist on the guy wearing a condom. THIS IS NON-NEGOTIABLE. Why wouldn't you go to a doc? You can go to a clinic to seek help, whether a mental health clinic or a birth control clinic. You can go to a school counselor if you are a student.

I am so sorry for the loss of your mother. It is hard to handle all these pressures on your own. Please seek the help of someone older whom you trust. Keep putting one foot in front of the other, Sweetie. Call someone when you are feeling your lowest, which is hard, because Depression tells you not to. Don't listen to it! I have trained myself to run a banner message over the Depression Voice that says: "That's Just the Depression Talking. Don't Listen to It!" Believe it or not, this has worked for me, and I have been able to control the depth of each depressive episode, and survive, sometimes not just day-by-day, but minute-by-minute when it is really tough and a day seems too overwhelming to manage. When it is really difficult, I remind myself, "One Breath In, One Breath Out" and make my way through.

Depression is very difficult, but it is survivable. I know, because I am still here. Keep reaching out, even if it is just to us. Find out what you need to know, ask for help until you get it, and hang in there. No one wants to lose you, and you have value in your family and in this world.

Answer 6

Yes depression is tough to deal with, I'm sorry about your mom. Go to a counselor, or psychiatrist for your depression.
Get a pregnancy test. Next time use protection when you have sex, that way you can aviod the fears of being pregnant, if you're not mentally fit right now, then don't bring a child in this world. You need to work through the problems that you have right now, having a baby would be a whole lot more to worry about.

Good luck in the future.

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Answer 7

Try to stay calm and think in terms of solutions.

IMHO, you should get an abortion because you are too young to raise a kid. You should be married first before you do. You have to finish college and get your life in order b4 u do.

Talk to the nurse at your school, or go see your regular dr. You can ask her to refer you to a social worker or shrink for help. You can try antidepressants if they think its appropriate.

The fact that you are looking for help is a positive sign.

Answer 8

Change your attitude towards things. If your mothers death is affecting you deep down inside, find a way to accept it and to feel at peace with it. And if somethings really worrying you like being pregnant, give yourself a break from thinking about it from time to time, and each time you come back to it, you will see it in a fresh light and be able to make better decisions about what you want to do.

Answer 9

why do you have unprotected sex,,,or any sex at all