So here is my problem, my boyfriend of three years tells me he loves me and he doesnt want to lose me but then the next day he will tell me that he is fed up with me and that he wants me gone but he still loves me, how to i fix this with him? Also he has this friend who calls me a b***h because one day I didnt say hi to him when i saw him a the street one day, and also he thinks i am bithcy all the time how to i make it so his friend doesnt think that of me and with this same friend all he does is call and call and call about the stupid things how do i talk to my boyfriend about him calling all the time and when to tell him to give up on the calling how can i talk to my boyfriend of these things without my boyfriend getting mad at me?
2007-01-14 11:35:04 · 11 answers · asked by unknown 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talking
2007-01-14 11:37:29 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you are hurt and you don't know what to do. The best advice I can give is to try talking to him. If he seems uninterested in talking, just say what you have to say with out getting mad at him and leave it at that.
I have found from experiance that guys stop listening if you start to raise your voice at them or change your tone into an angry tone. Just try to stay calm and remember to say how he made you feel.
Don't let him make you feel like something is your fault, if you haven't done anything. But also , maybe you have done something in HIS eyes. Let him speak if he wants to. Make sure to listen and not interupt. If he starts to yell or get angry at you for no reason, tell him you won't talk to him unless he can show you the same respect you showed him.
On the subject of his friend not liking you. Just ignore him. I know it's hard. But that's really the only thing you can do. Just remember that you are NOT those things he calls you.
You are a good person no matter what he says. Keep up your hopes. If you need help feel free to contact me.
Lifes a ditch. Can you dig it?,
Nire Nella
2007-01-14 19:45:04 · answer #2 · answered by Nire Nella 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing to do is talk to your boyfriend about how you are feeling. If you both love each other, communicate with one another. A relationship is nothing without communication. As for the friend, talk to your boyfriend about him too and tell him that you want things to be cool between you guys. If you boyfriend doesn't understand you....then you should think twice about this guy. Good luck!
2007-01-14 19:41:37 · answer #3 · answered by ChunkyMonkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For now I would take a short break and see where he stands on that situation. If he truly loves you he'll understand. After you think this break has lasted long enough, you'll know if he really is fed up with you or if he is ttyl in love with you.
And if he gets mad at you for little things and really gets mad, then I don't think this relationship is fixable any time soon.
And if you honestly love him and he loves you, you both will know whats the best for one an other.
2007-01-14 19:46:25 · answer #4 · answered by 1 confused chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your BF can get mad at you for small things and change his mind like he changes clothing, Move on honey- Sometimes it is better to keep your sanity and dignity intact than to be treated like a rag doll and be belittled. Goodluck though. What is broken should stay broke unless he is willing to fix it- it is not up to you, it's him who need to see what he's about to lose or have lost already. You are probably just too good for him. There are so many other guys who will appreciate you in the way that you truly deserve. (""") HUGS(""")
2007-01-14 19:41:24 · answer #5 · answered by DRP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't tell him who can, or can't call him. That's his friend and just because he doesn't like you doesn't give you a right to try to keep him out of your bf's life. Maybe you should have been nice to him. Anyways, it sounds like your bf loves you, but the two of you just can't get along. He loves you, but doesn't like you. Does that make sense? If all you do is fight, then maybe it's time to call it quits.
2007-01-14 19:42:27 · answer #6 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to move on...unless you just wanna hang around and be "available" for this guy. It's obvious that he's not that into you any more and is no longer interested in fixing your broken relationship. Take a hint, be smart and move on.
2007-01-14 19:40:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop the guy and find someone more mature who loves you even if your btichy.
2007-01-14 19:39:39 · answer #8 · answered by chuck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your boyfriend is just weirdo. if he sits here and says he loves u and just goes off on you like that's just......whatever.i honestly think you should try and talk to him.
2007-01-14 19:40:08 · answer #9 · answered by xXxbRiTtAnYxXx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um.....you should think about putting more periods in your writing.lol.but anyways, it looks like you should just end it for good.he doesnt deserve you
2007-01-14 19:39:53 · answer #10 · answered by davidsgirlblue 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋