family members advice and your pregnancy?

Question

I am half way through my pregnancy and family members and sometimes even close friends of the family. Try to give advice on things they don't have a place give advice in. Things that boyfriend and I have to make a decision about. Things like how I should raise my daughter. I grew up in a city but i spent more of my time in the suburbs(where people in my family have come to say i act white). So i rather raise my daughter in a mixed neighborhood then just raise her in the city. Then people comment on how i discipline my daughter...such as whooping her when she dors something bad. I have never been whooped. My daughter isn't here yet and people already trying to give their two cents. I am more so saying what can i do to stop people from doing this toward me and has this ever happen to you?

Answer 1

of course it happens to everyone.....kind of like everyone touching your stomach.....thank them for their input and do what you want...it's your baby....

Answer 2

I'm sorry but it only gets worse when the baby comes! I just step back and say "this is what works for MY family". People think if you don't do things the way they personally do-then you are wrong. I get criticized about daily with my son-I just keep raising him the way I like and he's doing great! I've been criticized for his name (that's a big one if the child is mixed-sounds not or too much "ethnic" according to people), where he sleeps, what he eats, our health and nutrition lifestyle, damn I could write a novel of what people don't like!

Answer 3

Unfortunatly this is something every mom goes through. And I'm sorry to say it doesn't stop when the baby comes. You just have to learn to be patient when someone offers/insists on giving you advice. Listen to what they have to say, state your reasons for doing it your way and leave it at that. I know it can be hard, but just have confidence in yourself and you'll be fine. Congrats by the way!

Answer 4

~~~I hear what your saying...you want to scream and tell them they had their turn with there own children.....but its really not like their trying to be bossy....they think that they are being helpful. We all think our knowhow is better than the next person....They just want to feel like they are a part of your experience,,,,try to just nod and say "thank you,,I will keep that in mind"...Everyone thinks their gift of knowledge is the right way.....Your the Mom,,,,you raise your child the way you feel is right for you , the baby and your boyfriend...the three of you are a "family" ...

Answer 5

i think of in this project attempting to assert something which will make her experience extra advantageous wont actual help. be sensible, help her face issues, furnish to circulate along with her to appointments and help her make experts and cons for judgements. help her watch for the thrill of motherhood and hear any concerns she might have. she desires help mind-blowing now not telling off or somebody attempting to act like each and every thing is all ok

Answer 6

yes every mother to be gets the ADVICE but that don't mean you have to take it. listen and go on with life. Someday one of those advices might come in handy some day. It will stop.

Answer 7

JUST BE HONEST WITH THEM , TELL THEM THAT YOU APPRICIATE THEIR ADVICE, BUT IT IS YOURS AND YOUR BOYFRIEND TO MAKE THE DECISION ON HOW TO RAISE YOUR CHILD AND NOT THEIRS, TELL THEM WHEN YOU NEED THEIR ADVICE THAT YOU WILL ASK FOR IT AND TELL THEM YOU WOULD APPRICAIATE THEM IF THEY RESPECTED YOUR WISHES. I KNOW WHAT YOUR GOING THRU, BEEN THRU THAT. I USE TO TELL THEM , HAVE ANOTHER ONE AND YOU CAN DO THAT WITH YOURS NOT MINE. GOOD LUCK. AND ONLY DO WHAT YOU WANT AND NO ONE ELSE. REMEMBER YOUR THE PARENT OF YOUR CHILD THEY ARE NOT.

Answer 8

just learn to close your ears, smile and nod your head up and down then walk away

Answer 9

It happens to all of us, just say thank you and do as you intended to do.