i m 40 years, have a son studying std ix, i have done love marraige
ago 17years. i have a prob. with my husband that he is very angry man.he can not give sufficient money for run the home. i do the job &will expense all my money in to look for home. he have bad habit of drinks also. now i have no any emotional or phisicaly attachment with him. so if i have any other relationship outside so i have to be continue for that or not ? my husband look my son well.so i have to started my life own or whatever going i have to faced with him. some time he is very cruel with me.
2007-01-14 11:16:38 · 20 answers · asked by deepti p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I THINK FINANCIAL PROBLEMS MADE HIM RUDE. AT THIS TIME HAVING RELATION OUTSIDE WILL NOT GOOD FOR THE RESPECT OF YOUR SON. DEAL WITH YOUR HUSBAND IN CLAM WAY. SHOW THAT HE IS THE HEAD OF FAMILY AND UNDERSTAND THE PROBLEMS OF FAMILY AND ALSO THINK ABOUT THE CAREER OF SON.
2007-01-15 23:35:05 · answer #1 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If he is cruel and does not seem to change his ways, get separated or divorced and start a new life but do not initiate a relationship until you get rid of him. This may complicate things further. Your husband seems to be aggressive and oblivious of his responsibilities. Anyway, you don't have to bear with him for your entire life. Talk to your son. Tell him that how you have suffered for so many years and want liberation and a little happiness for yourself now. Give him sometime to get adjusted to the idea and then start the proceedings. He doesn't deserve you.
2007-01-15 01:42:29 · answer #2 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having an affair at the age of 40 will not guarantee you security and peace of mind since the person you may get attached to may most certainly take the benefit of your worsening situation. Besides, money will not flow in. The best way is to consult some women's organisation who will help you with your problems discreetly. Put down your foot to say "NO" to the nonsense given to you. Take the help of police who may warn your husband and monitor him. Talk to your son for he may provide you with sympathy, patient listening and maybe some physical resistance to the nonsense being given to you by your husband. Above all, try and save some finance for the rainy day. Best of Luck !! You are a brave woman and with your determination, I am sure you can bring situation under control.
2007-01-14 11:44:45 · answer #3 · answered by rayjayant 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you feel that u can no longer stay together and it is more pain-full for u too live in the same home as u have said he is very cruel , then u need to do whats best for u at this time , if u have had enough and walking away is for ur own peace of mind then do so ... take care of ur self u cant spend the rest of ur life living in fear and hate , time is short wish u luck in life and hope u find peace and happiness !
2007-01-15 10:51:38 · answer #4 · answered by amal L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your relation out side can be made as long as it satisfy you with out disturbing your family set up. I am a male and have this problem. I have a very good relation out side with out any impact on my family life. But being content i am able to take care of the family better now.
2007-01-14 16:04:18 · answer #5 · answered by lkslalit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a job, you run the house, why do you need your husband ? only to shout at you and treat you cruelly ? Be strict, don't take any nonsense. If the marriage breaks it is for the better.
2007-01-16 00:10:15 · answer #6 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to speak English
2007-01-14 17:30:44 · answer #7 · answered by sheetal501 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have no effection for him he is cruel towards u means there is no need to be in this relationship right
just live him n better get started with ur new life
best of luck
god bless you
2007-01-14 22:10:44 · answer #8 · answered by shabana o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, every adversity gives a oppurnity. men can take all the nos from world but not from his WIFE. don't leave faith in him PRAY for him. things are not in our controll don't worry give to GOD. increase your faith in GOD. HE WILL GIVE YOU STRENTH AND PATIANCE. best life is waiting for you, your husband and most imporantly your SON. your negetive thoughts will lead you to make wrong decisions. never never .. make any important decisions when you are down. people are not interested to help you but to use you TAKE CARE. INSTEAD of bleaming find solution for your family. speck only POSITIVE sentences like,
I HAVE EXCELLENT RELATIONSHIP WITH ---------- (husband name)
WE HAVE NO FINANCIAL SITUTIONS.
I HAVE ALL THE MONEY I NEED FOR MY FAMILY AND FOR MYSELF.
this way make all your -VE words into +VE. THIS NOT EASY BUT NOT NOT IMPOSSIBLE. this is very easy then the situtions you are in today.
GOD BLESS.
friends for ever SK
2007-01-14 19:27:09 · answer #9 · answered by kshitija is a brand new Diamond 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all do you talk to him about your feelings? ask him why he is so angry with you. if in return he says that he is not Happy with you then you both part ways and make sure your son doesn't get affected with your decisions.
2007-01-14 12:12:28 · answer #10 · answered by joey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run!!!!!
They do not change they only get worse. Get an education, get a job and get out!!!!!!! Find support and hide money until you have enough to get out. Have a plan
2007-01-14 14:29:41 · answer #11 · answered by MeggieMae W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋