I mean we can give you 100% and break our backs for you taking care of you yet you don't appreciate any of it. Now, I am not saying all guys are this way but it's very far and few you find a guy that appreciates what you do for him.
2007-01-14 11:13:51 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your absolutely right and its a shame but its true most guys are just stubborn honestly and dont want to show any emotion or feelings or anythnig like that because it makes us look weaker in our minds even though that sounds so stupid its true im sorry
2007-01-14 11:17:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's because guys and girls have different priorties.
Guys for instance are generally much more tuned in when it comes to sex.
Girls however seem to be far more tuned into the love/relationship thing.
Another example:
Girl spends 10 hrs getting made up and hair done. Comes home and the guy says wow, but can't pick out what it is you just did.
Guys and girls just care about different things. If you really want you guy to "notice" you breaking your back to please him, just give him some super hot sex, make him look like he's supa masta pimp in front of his friends, don't ask him to do cleaning or the dishes, etc.
It's not fair I know. Honestly though, sometimes I think girls don't know that we work our asses off to pay the rent, put food ont he table, save up so that she can go out shopping and go to a beauty spa, pay for her porsche and the insurance on it, do WHATEVER she wants all day and not have to worry about fellow co-workers, stress, bad customers, bad vendors, etc. All this, staying COMPLETELY FAITHFUL, and we get nagged at when we get home because we don't notice she got her hair done... go figure...
I wish you the best of luck with this, I guess it all comes down to realizing how different men and women are and giving each other some space when it comes to expectations.
2007-01-14 19:28:47 · answer #2 · answered by MisterO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
speaking as one of the few, a guy who appreciates the hell out of everything the various women in my life do for me, especially my wonderful wife whom I don't deserve, I don't know.
I would like to think, on my sexes behalf, that there are more appreciative guys out there then you indicate, but I could be wrong, and even if I'm right, the percentage is still far too low.
It could be cultural. Misogynistic images are creeping back into mainstream media more and more of late, and was never truly irradicated. And the lack of appreciation stems from there and is a more pleasent symptom of that than all of the violence against women, which is becoming all too frequent, sadly.
I also think that women could be at least partially to blame. They don't expect enough and accept to little.
2007-01-14 19:23:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men do appreciate what you do. Sometimes we're just dense and you have to point it out for us. And sometimes, we're dense and you have to literally let us know that you'd like some appreciation for what you do. And sometimes we're dense and you have to tell us how to best express that appreciation. Most men figure that giving you some good sex is a good enough way to show you some appreciation. And any healthy woman would agree that this is a good start but I know that you women don't think that's enough.
So tell the guy what you do for him, that you would like to be shown some appreciation and what form that should take. For instance, if you'd like him to take you to dinner because you usually do the cooking, you've got to tell him. Guys are smart about some things but not this stuff. Don't sit around waiting for him to appreciate you. Tell him to do it and how to do it.
2007-01-14 19:22:17 · answer #4 · answered by DearAbby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your comment goes for men and women...first off, I'd wonder why someone would give 100% to someone else (it leaves nothing for themselves) and then gripe when it wasn't appreciated...that's a lot like trying to buy someone's love or affection...you should give of yourself because you want to, and not expect anything in return...
Guys don't need taking care of, any more than women need taking care of...many of us simply enjoy having someone to share our lives with...someone to support, who supports us...again, if you are spending your time taking care of some guy who doesn't show his appreciation, perhaps it's because he doesn't feel he needs to be taken care of...he may prefer a partner who behaves as an equal and not a servant or a "mom"...
Any person of conscience and caring will appreciate what others do for them...just make sure you aren't going overboard with it (to where they tire of it) or aren't doing it for the wrong reasons...
2007-01-14 19:21:06 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The ones who are unthankful and unholy were likely spoiled rotten momma's boys and never independent therefore take their women for granted. Wean him a little I say. Teach him some proper manners and communication skills by example just like you do children and that "Please", "Thank you", are still in style and once they say I do doesn't mean they can quit courting you. A good Christian conversion experience goes a long way and a man who will read His Bible and follow Christ's example will not be knowingly guilty of these offenses.
2007-01-14 21:02:23 · answer #6 · answered by Lovin' Mary's Lamb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, that is a really good question. I experience the same problem with my friends...it frustrate me so much. Girls seem to understand and have a higher empathetic ability than these guys do. It seems guys think that you must do it because you want to,.not because you love him. That's the way he operates.
2007-01-14 19:19:22 · answer #7 · answered by dscottc1989 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all guys are this way, but i think what you need to do is limit how you care for a guy. if a guy treats you bad, take it away. if its good, give them more. its hard to not care about someone, but sometimes its for their best interests. there should be a balance.
2007-01-14 19:18:44 · answer #8 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Quit falling for lowlife scumbags that use you as a doormat. Then you won't be forced to make blanket generalizations about 50% of the population based on your own limited experiences.
2007-01-14 19:20:19 · answer #9 · answered by summit_of_human_intellect 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
women get taken for granted, the guy gets used to all these things being done for him first by his mother and later his wife. That he just doesn't notice it anymore, its like when you walk in a room and flick a switch you take for granted that the light will come on until it doesn't.
2007-01-14 19:19:09 · answer #10 · answered by conundrum_dragon 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋