What is going on... (Asking the Women)?

Question

Ok, I'm confused. Very very confused.

I need help.. I dont know what to make of whats going on, I really need a womans help, because all the men i know of would say just leave her, but its more complicated than that.

Well, i began to write this here, but 1000 characters is way too little. So I made a small page to ask this question.
Its long, but if you can read through it.. (I think its all relavent.. Its... complicated) I would greatly value your opinion, whatever it may be.

Please, any help is appreciated, I just dont know what to do..

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Answer 1

Go read your e-mail I couldn't put everything I needed to say to you on here.

Answer 2

Fine..i have read your question. Im a mature woman..so let me tell you what she thinks.
She is using you. And its very obvious. Why in the hell does she stay in ur place in the first place, get the free riding...but still flirting w other blokes, telling you:''im not ur gf!''.
She push you away & then pull you close to her again..its her game. Are you happy? I bet not. You wont be happy w her.
I dont care you said you love her..she is a cunning litlle bit*h allrite.
Your mates can see that, but they just put it in the short words: leave her.
If i WERE you: this is what i do:
1. Kick her out from ur place.
2. Stop contacting/meeting her. All at once!
3. Move on.
There are so many fish on the sea, why should you feel worry? Everyone has experience of broken hearted& getting over someone before. One day..you will find a chick who is hotter, nicer, honest..& so into you. Someone who deserve your love & trust..then ull look back onto ur past & will even think of:'' what am i doing w that girl last time? How come i can ever fall in love w her in the first place?''

Answer 3

Ok I've read the whole thing beginning to end and even the middle, every word. Here is what i gather: You really won't like this but here goes: She is using you not even as a friend. A friendship is more even and friendly than that. You let her do to you what ever she wants and she is abusing it. Your the nice guy but she wants one with a back bone and balls. She knows you like her but she doesn't want you, but she will take all she can from you til she has had enough. You need to put your foot down with her, still be her friend but stand up for yourself, stop letting her walk all over you. How will you ever find someone while spending all this attention on her. You are worth more than what she has already put you through. Open your window of opportunity, you will be much happier. Stop letting her walk over you, make the relationship 50/50 money everything.

I hope this helps you.

Answer 4

Sounds to me like maybe she likes you....but as a brother. Just like a brother, she can count on you to be there when she needs you, talk to you, etc.....she just does't feel "that way" about you.
I don't know if she's consciously using you...or just dependant on you for love and support, like you are with siblings.
I think that deep down you know this, and can see how hopeless your situation is but don't want to face it. This woman could be your best friend, or just using you, but from the sounds of it you've never put her to the test of not being there for her for absolutely everything she needs.
Do you ever tell her no? Does she do things for you? You could be set to destroy one of the best friendships you'll ever have due to your inability to move on romantically, while still keeping her as a "sister".
And who knows....maybe when you step back a little bit and move on, she'll realize what she's missing. Many woman don't want a needy man, and seek instead a challenge. You don't pose any challenge to her.
Good luck, and I hope everything works out for you.

Answer 5

this girl is just using you for sure and you know it, just dont want to admit it. she is obviously just leading you on with a little tease and touch to keep you hooked thinking you will get a piece of that. it is working, the girl sounds like a pro and you sound like a sucker. she has no intention of a "relationship" with you or anyone else for that matter right now. what "im not ready" means is she wants to play the field and have some fun. try to distance yourself from her and stop catering to her. you sound like a nice guy, go find yourself a deserving girl, even if she has small ****, thats not whats important.

Answer 6

wow. ok. I read the novel..

honey she is using you. I knwo it hurts. Maybe she do liek you, but I think that she is secure knowing that if anything goes wrong, you will always be right there.

Not ready?!? hell it is taking her long enough, is she waiting for the world to end?!

Its your decision,m but my advice to you is to move on...and fast. If she sees this and gets jealous, tell her to make her decision (yet dont hurt the other girl prospect in the process). If she says shes just not ready, walk away. you're wasting your life on someone who wont commit,when possibility could be in front of you.

Good luck, I feel for ya.

Answer 7

I am sorry to break this to you but.... She is so using you. You stroke her ego with your eagerness to please her. She uses you for your time, car, house, etc.... You seem like a good guy and could probably find someone better who appreciates you and treats you like you should be treated. This girl sounds like a c*ck tease.
She will throw down with a guy who treats her like s**t, but walks all over you. Tell her if she wants to be used to find someone else or go beg at that dudes feet, since that seems to be what she likes. If you really want her, treat her like crap, and then maybe she will put out. I know it is harsh but I know girls who are like that.
If you want my opinion, I would end the friendship or at least stop letting her control you emotions or your time. You really do deserve better.

Answer 8

I agree that she is using you. I would suggest moving on--if possible. It may be hard, but she will continue to keep you in a state of confusion and keep using you. Good luck

Answer 9

luv with all your simatily level am not feel u am really soorry but all i think u need to do is pull ur sefell togerther pls we all feel pain do not try to mmmmmmmmmmmake u all that

Answer 10

Yes, I actually did read all of this. What are you doing??? Get rid of her. She is using you.