I need a little advice...?

Question

Hello everyone. Well, you see, there is this girl I love. Not like,such as a little crush, I mean I LOVE her and I know it. Anyway, I need a little advice on asking her out, I don't really look good but people tell me I'm a great person, but she just has the perfect personality and she is so beautiful, she just seems out of my league. And if it matters we are friends....the last time I asked her out (last year) she said it would ruin our friendship if we started dating, but I'm not that kind of guy who would put my relationship problems with friendship problems. Does anyone have a little adivce?

I guess you could say I didn't put my words right with the love part :/ You all know what i meant by that!

Answer 1

When you're asking her out, make sure to pick the time and place with a little though. Now by that, I don't mean make it a big production, I mean just don't ask her around all your mutual friends, or when she has something she needs to do, or is feeling bad. If she's thinking about something else, or feels pressured, you aren't likely to get a straight answer, much less the one you want. Pick a time when you have her to yourself, and she's thinking about what you're asking, not what she should have been doing an hour ago. And when you do ask her, don't beat around the bush or try to be fancy. Just tell her simply that you've thought about it, and you think that you could balance a relationship and your frienship, or whatever you want to say. But make sure that you don't take the other extreme and make her feel pressured or overwhelmed.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Looks aren't a big deal. Nothing sexier than a guy with a great sense of humour.

If she has the perfect personality, she'll be able to get past any hierarchy in the looks department and go out with you... that is presuming she is 1) looking for a boyfriend and 2) sees you as boyfriend material.

If she isn't looking for a boyfriend, or considers you boyfriend material, then pursuing her could make the situation sticky and she may start acting cold towards you- especially since she's already said no (though that was a while ago!).

I know you say this is love- and not a crush- but sometimes these things feel the same. If she turns around and rejects you point blank- you'll be left loving someone who doesn't love you back... which may cause you to resent her, even if it's just a little.

My advice would be is to stop building this up. Stop thinking you love her, and start thinking you want to get to know her better. Use humour and fun to win her over- get her laughing at your jokes. Get it so that when she sees you, you both know that she knows you'll make her laugh. Why not sit her down and ask her for her own advice on this, i.e.

"Man, you got to help me. I really like this girl and I don't know how to ask her out."

And guage her reaction/response.

Then start talking about her, "So what about you? You going to get yourself a boyfriend?"

And see what she says. Maybe she isn't looking (school work/uni may be more important etc). Just check the situation out, not make a big deal out of this and remember... if she's interested, she's interested, if she aint, she aint. Keep a cool head and you'll be fine either way :-)

If there is a chance, just go ahead ask her out. Be spontaneous. "Lets go catch that ." or find out her favourite food, and say "Lets go out for dinner tonight at that restaurant!"

Good luck, mate.

Answer 3

Well, you don't "LOVE" her until she loves u back, one-sided relationships are crushes in desgiuse. Anyway, you need to ask her out to something SMALL, like to the stockshow or invite her along when u and yer friends go bowling or something. Then, you ask her to something a little bigger, and a little more serious. Then once you go up a few lvls, tell her how you feel about her. And tell her, even if you two date and then dump each other, you won't let it affect the friendship.
me hopes me helped =D

Answer 4

you must be young or something. How can you love someone that you're not in a relationship with. Plus you sound like you have self esteem issues. If you consider yourself as not looking good, then that is going to show in your personality plus you are putting this girl on a pedestal, you should never do that. You should see yourself as the catch instead of her.

Answer 5

aww.. that sounds so cute..
i dont really now.. maybe she doesnt want to go out with u just because she doesnt have the guts right no. make her understand that u really really like her. dont be to pushy, valentines day's coming and bring that subject up and ask her how it would feel if u guys went out, and if she says no, then u have to tell her that u like her. dont say the word love yet, let that be a secret , but u can say that later on, i mean u are friends and i dont think she would mind. let her no that u can both be friends and partners......
soulmates ;)
good luck!
ps. dont worry about your looks!

Answer 6

My advice would be to first ask her if she is ready to become more than just friends. Promise each other that even if your relationship goes wrong, that you'll still be friends, and if it does go wrong, stick to your promise. You can totally manage the whole friends/dating thing. Speaking from personal experience, sometimes a girl's best friend is also their boy friend :)

Answer 7

for a million i might don't forget seeing him two to your phrases three do your resurch (lies have or havent stoped) within the confusuion and frustration of a devorce he probibly didn't wish to permit pass of his first spouse but additionally didn't wish to be by myself however in his indevors met you and built feeling for you after which the lies simply persisted however you can also name his ex spouse n have a females to females dialog to peer if he had many others beside you this can be a very unhealthy trate to not get pulled into or take aspect of in a person

Answer 8

She has no love interest in you whatsoever.
Sorry to burst your bubble.
If a girl like you, she will help you.
You already asked her once. Why do you want to beat a dead horse?
Once you're categorized as her "friend" you're done.
Look elsewhere.

Answer 9

luv pls jus tell her how u feel u can never know with a girl lime dat she just wnts u to tolove her and nothing more pls tell her how u feel coz no one will do it better than u

Answer 10

Are you always wishy-washy? Grow some nuts and go ask her put for pete's sake!