My son was taken from my home when he was 2 weeks old ( born a month premi) He was 2 oz. shy his birth weight. And now the DSS and nurse that comes to your house is giving me a hard time. He is my first son and it kills me everyday/everynight when he's not with Me. Now I have to go to a shrink because they said I'm depressed. ( of corse your gonna be depressed when your child is taken from you when you had a dramatic delevory.) But I dont feel/seem depressed and I also have to go to parenting classes. Which is a slap-in-the-face when all the other mom's have their kids and I'm sitting there watching 'em all have fun together and my son's in a foster home with a little boy that likes to smack my son in the face. And he's only 10 months old so he can't defend him self. And if I say anything to the foster mom my case-worker will ***** at Me about it. Then they let the 'father' not sure if he is,let him see him when he abandoned him when he was a couple months old. I need help with this!!!
2007-01-14 11:06:49 · 8 answers · asked by debjayson2006 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i am sorry to hear that. what did they say they took the child for??
need more info.
2007-01-14 11:19:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Babies dont go to foster care for non weight gain/weight loss unless they think you are not feeding them(failure to thrive) and dss has to go before a judge and prove the case to keep the child in foster care and if the child has been in FC for 91/2 months I am guessing you have been to court more than once.They also need drs to back their case since failure to thrive can be a medical condition. I am also sure you were appointed a public defender because every one is. You must have agreed (or your attny did) to the parenting classes and the therapy, what did you think they would just hand the baby back over without attempting to "correct" whatever has been proven in court that you did wrong. As for your son being smacked by the other child how would you know this? Did the baby tell you? Or did he just give you a name after hours of questioning. DSS has to give the father his rights and I am guessing you put his name on the birth certifcate otherwise he wouldnt be involved w/out a paternity test.
PS how did the father abandoned
him when he has been in FC since he was 2 weeks old?
Former caseworker
2007-01-14 11:32:18 · answer #2 · answered by jillmarie2000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, it appears that you are not ready to admit your role in this situation. DSS does not remove children from the parental home unless other attempts to support the family have failed. If your child has been removed, this means that allegations of abuse/neglect were substantiated and that you did nothing to fix the situation in your home/family.
I hate to sound harsh, but it's time to "get real" about what's going on in your life. Having parents attend counseling, psychiatric evaluations, and parenting classes is pretty standard stuff for people with kids in foster care. Your caseworker referred you to these services to help you be the best parent you can be so that your child can get returned to you as soon as possible.
I would advise you to work with DSS to remediate the problems in your family. And.. if your son has been in foster care for ten months, be aware the judge may be inclined to terminate your parental rights soon if you have not made any progress towards reunification.
I wish you the best of luck!
2007-01-14 16:39:25 · answer #3 · answered by stazi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The DSS don't just come and take a baby for no reason. If you have to take parenting classes you must need to learn how to care for a child. Plus you don't even know for sure who the father to your child is. I think your child might be in the right place for now. I don't think you need a child right now if you are not able to care for him properly. Take the parenting classes and try to make the best out of the situation. Let them know that you are serious about getting your child back and that you are willing to do anything they say to prove to them that you want to be a good mother. Good Luck.
2007-01-14 11:38:18 · answer #4 · answered by hollywood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems you might be a little short on funds. See if you have a public defenders office in your town. I think a lawyer is going to be your only resource in this matter. A good lawyer might take this case on a contingency basis, it is not uncommon for a child to loose a little weight after birth. However after a month he should have gained some weight. But a Lawyer is your only help here.
2007-01-14 11:19:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I miscarried my first pregnancy but I got pregnant right away so I didn't cancel my medicaid. The only problem I had was that it took them about 2 1/2 months to issue me a card in the first place. I had miscarrried and was 7 weeks pregnant again before I even recieved a card.
2016-03-28 21:47:37 · answer #6 · answered by Virginia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did your doctor put you on anti-depressants? My son was almost 3 months early and in the hospital for 10 weeks. They would not take a baby from his mother for Post-partum depression unless you were a danger to him. I have a feeling that you are not being 100% truthful in what you are telling us.
2007-01-14 11:19:21 · answer #7 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is so sad,im so sorry i know this hard , i wish i could just give you a hug...i would email or call your governor, get an attorney, and by all means dont say anything to those foster parents, it will get you in worse crap...
2007-01-14 12:39:01 · answer #8 · answered by frogtoes74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋