for more reasons than I can count. He is not a good father or husband and he gossips about us behind our back. I wish he would just go back to iraq and never come back. His attitude got even worse since iraq.
just thought I'd share
I hate him
go ahead leave your mark and collect your points
2007-01-14 10:44:57 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
he got a back a year ago and was bad before but is terrable now
2007-01-14 11:01:55 · update #1
Your dad needs counseling, but that's not your problem. You have a right to be angry and hurt. You wont' be able to change your dad, he is the only one that can do that. Can you talk to a counselor, or another adult about how your feeling? You have got to be so sad. A dad should be the guy who is always s there for you, but it sounds like your dad cant do that. Get some kind of help for yourself, you deserve it. Remember it's not you, it's him. He's not happy with himself and he's taking it out on his family. Maybe when he's having a good moment you can tell him you want him to be happy, and ask him to find someone to talk to.
2007-01-14 11:11:33 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Nezbit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you're really not being fair. Look up "Post Traumatic Syndrome" on the internet and you will find out why he is like that. It will change and things will get back to normal. It happens in every family when the deployment is over. My husband had an attitude when he came back from Afghanistan, but once he finally got settled back into family life again, is was all good. He is in Iraq now and I'm sure he will have to get settled in once again. Cut him some slack. It really messes with a persons head to have to dodge bullets all day for a year.
2007-01-14 18:51:41 · answer #2 · answered by reddog19982000 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Was he a bad father/husband before or after Iraq? Going over there can really change a person. It must be really hard for you to understand all that he is going to upon his return, but just know that it is a party over there, it is a war. Give him time and maybe he is just having a hard time adjusting back to the his life at home. You have to remember that your lives kept on going while he was gone, but his stopped and he had to deal with a really stressful situation.
Hopefully thing will get better for you all.
2007-01-14 18:54:40 · answer #3 · answered by Krista 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Think about what you are saying. Imagine what he saw in Iraq. Imagine what he had to go through. No one who goes over there is going to be the same when he comes back. Perhaps he does not know how to express himself. It sounds like he needs therapy. Don't scream that in his face, but that is what it sounds like. Be a big girl about this and think about the things he's seen and done. Friends he lost in front of him. Children he had to kill. You would be different too.
2007-01-14 19:44:02 · answer #4 · answered by The Pope 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Today is the second-year anniversary of my dad's unexpected death in a house fire. We didn't get along, either, and he was a real jerk sometimes. A lot of the time actually. But I'm still really sad that he's gone forever and that we never had a good relationship. Really, think about how you would feel if he did die. If you think rationally about this, I don't think you really want him to be gone. Just be nice and try to have a relationship with him. You should tell him what you wrote in your question. Tell him that he's a jerk and that he makes you feel bad. Maybe he will change.
2007-01-14 19:04:24 · answer #5 · answered by danika1066 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
please tell us more so we can give you some possible solutions.
Ya know the iraq veterans are really screwed up in the head by the type of war they are fighting. They all need major counseling when they come home cause they are mean, angry, depressed, some even want to kill themselves.
They say and do things to those they love because thier minds are so messed up from the war. They all have PTSD. PTSD is post traumatic stress disorder, my dad has it and he's getting help for it. It's not his or any man's fault they have it.
Instead of hating your dad you should love him, because he's hurt really bad mentally from the war. Have some goddamned respect for him.
2007-01-14 18:54:28 · answer #6 · answered by ash84102 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He just got back from Iraq. Talk to him and tell him how you feel. Don't tell him you hate him. He needs to adjust to life out of a war zone.
2007-01-14 19:01:09 · answer #7 · answered by andy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You know your dad may be a jerk. And for some reason God decided for you to come to this world via your mom and dad. The bible says that we should honor our father and mother. you don't have to like him. But if you think about it by feeling so strongly about him he is still kicking your butt. You probably thought we all would give you a lecture. I don't know your dad. you do. Maybe he will win jerk of the year. Just chill.
2007-01-14 18:53:10 · answer #8 · answered by jan 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
war destroy everything including your dad's mind. be strong, tell all your family to give him as much tlc (tender loving care) as possible. show him how much you care about him.
he need you and the rest of the family more than you know. he love you all. he is just a bit mess up in the head because of the war. don't blame him for it, it's the war that made him like that!!!
world peace!!!
2007-01-14 20:45:14 · answer #9 · answered by daniiisme!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's just going through something but, learn how to let words go over your head. Sometime people say things because they are jealous or just don't know better.
2007-01-14 19:33:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋