What do you think of honeymoon registries?

Question

I have been seeing all of this information on "honeymoon registries." People are choosing to have their honeymoon as one of their registries, along with the normal "stuff we need" registries. Would you help a couple out on this type of registry? Also, if you have used one, how did it work for you?

The registries do not ask for cash but for gift certificates, which go directly to the company and not to the couple.

Answer 1

I know a lot of people condem registries as tacky but I am really happy when someone has one. A lot of times I'd like to contribute, but simply don't know them well enough to know what they'd like. A registry makes things so much easier for those of us who would like to get a gift or help out. It sure beats me just walking up to the bride and groom and saying Hey here's a $20 for you to get smashed with on your Honeymoon. If you don't want to get them anything, then just don't. What's the big deal?

Answer 2

I looked into those as well. I don't think it's a good idea. The place that you go through will get a chunk of the money. If your guests give you money you can use that for your honeymoon. Then you don't have to worry about giving away a percentage of it to the registry place. Also we are doing the 'honeymoon dance' many think it's only the bride dancing, but it's both the bride and groom dancing with their guests.

Our honeymoon is in Hawaii, and instead of a hotel, we looked into getting a condo, which is much more cheaper and then we went online to purchase extra activities. Which is going to be great!! Where ever you decide to go, look into condos instead of hotels.

Answer 3

We had one, bc we paid for the wedding (along with airfare and hotel bc ours was long distance) and honeymoon (airfare, hotel, and food) ourselves and didn't have money for actual activities and souvenirs from the honeymoon. And we spent most of our budget on our guests; not ourselves, bc we wanted to make it fun and exciting for them. Plus we already owned a home together and obvisouly didn't need all the traditional stuff.

Our success was okay. Half the people didn't get us gifts at all; I think we'd have gotten more if we'd gone the traditional route. Sometimes people misinterpret and think you're being greedy and that you just want the money. But, we were so grateful to the ones who contributed and they really made our honeymoon wonderful. It was the best gift we could have asked for.

The ones who got us nothing are judgemental bastards. What is so wrong about not wanting 2 of everything in our home? Who wants someone to spend time and money on a gift we are just going to return? That is just as good as only giving money. Instead, I spent hours upon hours on a honeymoon registry so people could CHOOSE how we used the money, and to get us something memorable and know that they really were part of our special getaway. They were the ones with the bad etiquette; they chose to get us nothing out of SPITE. If they really cared about getting us something meaningful and didn't want to buy off the registry, they still could have gotten us something else. It's the thought that counts, and these people obvioulsy weren't thoughtful. They all proved that they are selfish bc isn't the point of a gift to make the RECEIVER happy?

Answer 4

Personally, I think they're tacky. If the bride and groom want money to help with expenses, it should be spread word of mouth from the parents/attendents, and then only if people ask. To ask for money through a registry is extremely bad etiquette. Check out www.etiquettehell.com for more info (and I am in no way affiliated with the website - I just got a lot of good advice off of it, and from the people in the forums).

Answer 5

It is good b/c Some people want to give you something u really want but don't want to give u just cash,(My aunt is like this and my hubby's gram) So They even said to us we should have dun that b/c people whouls have love to help us out with that more then things we can get everyday like dishes and all that witch is true and if u are going away soon it is always nice to see u got some more money that u thoguht and u don't have to waite for a bank to open to cash everything and u wont have to have it all on you..Unless You do something like my cuz did she opened a bank account with a deb card and said it was a honeymoon funds and she got alot of input on it and she had a free honeymoon + money when she got back and still got alot of gifts,..

But A good thing for not having one is u can plain you'r own honeymoon and not have to book it with a travel place~ (b/c they are more and u can always do it cheaper if u look online and call around)You save yourself money ~ ..
good luck~

Answer 6

Sorry. Tacky. Guests shouldn't have to foot the bill of a honeymoon. Why not use the money you get as wedding gifts towards the honeymoon?

Answer 7

i think they are a good idea, we are having a honeymoon registry for our wedding, only because we have lived together now for 2 years in our own place, so we dont need any more gifts for the house, also we have paid for peoples accommadation who have travelled a long way.

Time and ways are changing, weddings arnt as traditional as they used to be, these days when people by you something they just dont pick up anything, people actually buy things now that you would want.

Your guests wil do what makes you happy on your wedding day.

Good luck and dont listen to everyone saying its tacky.

Answer 8

I think if people want to give you money they will. Anything beyond that is poor taste. No one is responsible for your honeymoon and probably doesn't care much if you have one. Most people wish you well with your marriage.

Answer 9

I hadn't heard of this but it doesn't surprise me in this gimme gimme gimme world. My advise is have a toned down ceremony, spend a little more on reception and go all out on the honeymoon. Don't expect others to buy it for you that is rude, arrogant, tacky, crass, and all those other synonms for nasty. A honeymoon should be PRIVATE, lots of brides and grooms only disclose their destination to parents in case of an emergency. Other than that, why would you want everyone to know where you're going. Blech.

Answer 10

We are having one. We found that most people think its a great Idea. I mean there are only some many plate sets you can use. We found a lot of the older people didn't like it but we made it clear that you didn't have to do it.

I think it's a great Idea. We moved out and have had our engagement party and we don't need much more but because we are renting we don't have a lot of money for a honeymoon.

Ask some family and friends what their opinion is.