how do you get a 14 month old tot to stop crying and go sleep?

Question

she just fights her tiredness and wants to be up

Answer 1

My son is 14 months too, and still fights it and wakes up at LEAST 3-4 times a night! I would play...play...play, then a noce warm bath, then cuddle time. Unfortunately this is the age where they do that he most. I would NOT let her CIO like someone else said. That can actually be dangerous - it will raise her heart rate can lead to low 02 levels, which and cause problems. It also gives them a feeling of abandonment and thinking you will not come when she needs you=( Studies have shown CIO has negative effects on children.She will come around eventualy.

Answer 2

About an hour or so leading to bed time should be quiet and calm. No television or sugar based foods or snacks. Some snacks also have MSG and E numbered additives that can send kids loopy. Let them know your getting them ready for bed. Place them in comfortable clothing and dim the lighting. While giving a bottle or cuddling in your arms you can do one of two things, either stroke their hands or their forehead slowly. If they go to sleep, great, but if the crying starts, don't close the door and walk away. Give a kiss and a cuddle, and then do what I call the proximity exercise. Sit close to their crib, but no talking and no eye contact after you say good night. Slowly move a half foot away from the crib or cot. Every five minutes move further until after half an hour you should be leaving the room and to your sanity. Any eye contact or talking and your game is over. After your out the door and the crying has started or has continued for five minutes, return, console without words or eye contact and repeat. Eventually they get it. I hope it works for you, there is no rhyme or reason for every child. With my little girl I can stroke the inside of her hand and she will pass out while having a bottle. Something important to note: If your child is left to scream inconsolably, they may heave so much it leads to vomiting. Not a pretty sight to sleep in. Then your back to square one for sure.

Answer 3

babies thrive on routines. they need to know what to expect. it may not always be your ideal routine that suits your own lifestyle, but they need that certainty, as part of their process of getting to know the world.
If an emergency, and only for one night, dark room, perhaps soothing music (my little one loved Mozart); you put it on really very quietly, so that they can barely hear it. that will calm them and give them the impression that there is someone with them. they will cry for a bit, maybe even 30 minutes. be strong. go to another room and leave them. listen out to see if they are choking WITHOUT GOING INTO THEIR ROOM!
as a standard procedure, start their bedtime routine at about 4.30. some babies prefer a bath before dinner, others after it. whatever it is, lower the volume of the whole environment - soothing music, talk to her in a lower voice, even use dimmer lights. then a leisurely bath, with a couple of toys, some bubbles. lots of cuddles. If you've already given her her meal, do not take her out into the house again, get her unto her pyjamas in her room, and straight into her cot. say some comforting words (just whispering), soothing music on, and leave the room - go out.
Remember... babies are EXTREMELY perceptive of the mood of the people closest to them, so if you stress out, she will too!
Hope you find a routine soon that works for you both!

Answer 4

Had the same problem with two of ours, and were at our wits end until a neighbour gave us this tip.

Put her to bed and let her cry for five minutes. Then go and give her a cuddle for a couple of minutes only. Then put her back to bed and leave her for ten minutes this time, then fifteen, then twenty, etc.

You may have one sleepless night, but this system worked for both of ours within no more than TWO nights.

Answer 5

That is the ULTIMATE question that all parents ask.
The only thing that I have seen work, besides the mother have to hold the baby until he/she falls asleep is music.
I use nature music.
I find that water and soft piano or violin is the most effective with my son.
When he wants to stay up and play, he will say, "Don't play the water CD, daddy!" This is because it will always make him fall asleep.
If you want to try some samples of the Internet, try Yahoo or Dogpile.

Answer 6

It's a battle of wills and you need to win it!! Put her to bed, lie her down, kiss her goodnight then walk away. She'll cry, she'll probably scream but soon enough she will learn that no-one will come and she'll fall asleep. It will take time, maybe nights on end, but if you're strong enough not to give in she will eventually learn. Obviously as her parent you know the difference between her cries - if she's really distressed go to her and settle her again.

Answer 7

What katieplatie said - you can deal better with toddlers during the day if you have had a good night's sleep so allow them to sleep during the night without going in every few minutes to settle them.
My daughter has a fleece blanket with a band of ribbon along the top - which helps her, my son I have to threaten with withdrawal of treats!

Answer 8

Get her into a routine. A nice warm bath, then a warm milky drink, get her up to her bed, dim the lights and read her a bed time story. If you have a quiet atmosphere, she will start to relax and wind down rather than get all hyped up. Good Luck.

Answer 9

How long do you let her nap during the day. My son is two he gets a two hour nap and goes to bed between 8 and 9.

Answer 10

dip a dummy in some gripe water,also get some teething gell from the chemist,tell them its for a 14 month baby,thats providing the baby is teething.