how do you cope with losing loved ones, By them dying?

Answer 1

My dad died last year. I let myself cry as much and as often as I needed to. And still do. I would cry in the shower so I could sob and not be heard. Some people need to talk with someone else who has lost a loved one, some people write in a journal about their loved ones, and write down everything they're feeling.
There are lots of support groups for people who have lost someone. Grief counseling from your Pastor, school, or Family Counseling. I like to take walks and "talk" to my dad. I'm sorry you have to go through this. Let me know if you need to talk .
I'll do what I can to help you.

Answer 2

It's really hard.
There's no other way to say it.

I lost my grandfather the day before this past Thanksgiving. He had been undergoing chemotherapy and radiation treatment for colon cancer.
He experienced some side effects from his treatment and ended up developing a horrible infection in his left lung.
He was in critical care for a month before it became clear that he was going to die and my family made the decision to take him off of life support.

This was an especially difficult time for us because every few days he would recover and then a few days later he would be close to death.

Getting through the wake and the funeral is the hardest part, but the most important. It will give you closure.
If you're religious, take solace in the fact that they're going to a better place-- or whatever you happen to believe.
If you aren't religious (or even if you are), just... remember them. Remember the good times that you had, the funny moments where you both laughed, keep a picture of them close by, take the time each day to reflect on how much you love them.

It's upsetting and you're going to cry. Don't try to hold it in. Crying is an amazing cathartic experience that you can't really substitute with anything else.

The first week is the most difficult. You'll be doing something, preoccupied, and then you'll remember...
It's hard.

But time helps, staying busy helps, and just remembering them fondly is the best way to cope with losing a loved one.

Answer 3

There are common stages an individual may experience during grief. There is no right way or wrong way to grieve.

The most well-known book is by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross' book, "On Death and Dying." In it, she identified five stages of grief:

* Denial (this isn't happening to me!)
* Anger (why is this happening to me?)
* Bargaining (I promise I'll be a better person if...)
* Depression (I don't care anymore)
* Acceptance (I'm ready for whatever comes)

-Take time. Don’t let others rush you into “getting over” your feelings.

-Don’t make major decisions. The time of grief is a time of instability.

-Avoid the temptation to use alcohol or drugs to numb the painful feelings.

-Cry. Tears are the healthiest expression of grief. Don’t try to hold back crying for the sake of others.

-Know that there will be good days and bad days. Pangs of intense grief can surface during holidays, significant events such as birthdays or anniversaries.

-Remember the loved one often and as much as you need to. Look at photographs, read old letters and retell your memories to friends and other members of the family.

-Seek people who will understand your need to talk about what happened. Seek out people who will really listen to your remembrances.

-Allow yourself time to heal. Pay attention to your health. Make sure you are getting enough sleep. Eat a healthy diet. Get outside in the sunshine for exercise or a mild walk.

-Ask for what you need from others. Accept what help they offer. Now is not the time to try to do everything by yourself.

-Seek out grief counseling if you feel you cannot cope alone. Grief counseling is available through community resources, churches and licensed therapists. Join a grief support group. Local community papers will usually have listings. Use the Internet and join an electronic bulletin board dedicated to supporting individuals who have lost loved ones.

-Remember your grief is individual to you. Not everyone’s grief is identical to yours. You will share some similarities with others, but grieving is a very personal and very individual process.

Answer 4

Well honey,the most recent person who has died in my family has been my aunt on my mother's side. I mean I seen her smile, heard her talk, watched her move, I watched her live. When she first died I didn't believe it, when it finally hit me I just broke down. It's hard losing someone you love you don't cope, you go on. I know my aunt was a Christian and I know I'll see her again, that's the only thing that keeps me going after someone I loves dies. One of my associates died early last year by pneumonia and I still shed tears whenever I think of her. You just have to think of it as if their going on to a better place. Best of all remember them in your hearts and no matter how happy you get, don't forget them that way they can truly stay alive. You'll be in prayers sweetie. Don't give up. If you ever need to talk and you feel you can't to anyone email me anytime.

Answer 5

It is very difficult coping with someone's death. I know, i work with hospice(people that r dying). We try not to get attached to them, but it's hard not to. Everybody deals with it differently. I guess the best thing is just remeber all the fun times you had together with them, and that they r in a better place. Just take it one day at a time, and it will get easier as time goes bye.

Answer 6

everyone copes differently, but one site I have come to admire is memory-of.com where there are forums to talk to others that have suffered the loss of a loved one and even establish a memorial to them. I will list the site for a loved one I know and you can see what her husband has done and search the forums from there, and perhaps you may want to establsh a memorial to your loved one yourself there - it is free by the way!!

Answer 7

Just remember all the good times the 2 of you shared together. And also, they are in a better place. No more pain or worries. But they are always watching over you. My brother died at 27 years of age and it was hard. But he left 2 beautiful children behind to remind us of him. My Dad also died a few months back. He was in a lot of pain most of his life and now he feels no more pain. Keep your chin up and remember that they are always there for you to talk to and they ARE listening. I'm sorry for your loss.

Answer 8

Well I FIRMLY believe in God, so it helps to have faith in that there's a wonderful and better place we'll go. I think my coping would just be knowing that the person's always with me and talking to my heart. It helped me when I lost my uncle very much.

Answer 9

What I do is I wait until it is time to sleep and I go far into my head and I meet the loved one there and I picture all the things we did and things we do now - in my head....I quickly fall asleep and it helps me always keep them close.

Answer 10

You never get over the loss, some days are better than others.
It's hard, I know.
Just think of all the loving memories you have, They will live in your heart forever.