i broke up with my boyfriend a few days ago on Friday. now every song i hear eeminds me of him and it just makes me cry i broke up with him because he liked another girl but i think about him non-stop night and day even if im watching tv i think about him even listening to music and sleeping hes in my dreams and im trying to move on but HARRISON [my ex bf] is in my mind 24/7 how do i move on?
2007-01-14 10:26:32 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You just have to let it all out now and then try to move on... It will definitely get better with time, my ex broke up with me a month ago and I was a mess then... We were together for about a year and 2 months and now, I can actually care less.
Just surround yourself with good people/friends. You don't have to spill your guts to them, just hang out with them. Trust me, it makes the pain go away faster. I don't think any of them realized how severe the pain was for me.
2007-01-14 10:29:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time. Everyone heals at their own pace. It also depends how you move on or don't move on. This is the choice you need to make. You can sit and feel hurt all the time or you can occupy your time with hobbies, sports, friends, etc. You never know where the other roads lead to, if you don't get on them.
I know it's hard to look at it this way, but you're really blessed to have been in love. And if he does like another girl, then you just have to say, "oh well, he wasn't that into me and that's okay, because if I still was with him, I would of never met ____." Trust me, you'll fill in the blank later. Good luck.
2007-01-14 18:35:04 · answer #2 · answered by Butterfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off stop feeling sorry for what you did yeah it hurts I have been there too but you have to understand that what you did was for your own benefit second try to stop dwelling in the past start thinking about the here and now its no use to keep crying over a boy who you dumped because there are plenty more out there just search for a guy who loves you an only you third stop listening to songs that remind of him you have to forget about him erase him from your mind he was no good for you anyway you have start fresh now and put the whole breakup behind you.
2007-01-14 19:50:12 · answer #3 · answered by Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a huge case of the blues lady. Just stay busy(not by over eating or drinking drugs ect.)
Find things to do , meet others.
A good thing is to visualize meeting him down the road 15 years from now with his hair and most of his teeth all gone, a beer gut hanging over his belt, all wore out from a day at the plant with his 200 lb 3rd wife 4 kids running him crazy.
There you are all sleek and neat, trim, fit, great looking and guess who has the blues next.
What you see now isn't what you see forever.
Just stay busy, and go get a brand new life.
Nothing like getting over an old ex like a brand one, and they are out there.
When anyone asks you about him don;'t wait to get sad just grin hug them and tell em you had a vision of him 15 beers down the road I mean years down the road and wow are you lucky to be out of his life.
2007-01-14 18:37:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i'm in the exact same place.not a few days ago,a feew weeks,but it still hurts all the same.let me tell you something about relationships.when it's over,it hurts bad.stop tormenting yourself with the love songs.the best thing you can do right now is be with your best friends.they help a lot.think about other guys you've had ur eyes on and go for it.soon enough,those love songs will feel good to hear.You'll stop crying on the outside,then you'll stop crying on the inside,and you'll be happy soon.
hope i helped.
2007-01-14 18:33:58 · answer #5 · answered by Afiya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that but I'm not the right person to give you advice as i'm in the same boat and seeking advice myself. I'd say that it's for the best though and you can always hang out with your friends until you meet someone else. Beside if he liked her it was only a matter of time before he started cheating on you.
now if only i could take my own advice.
oh well best of luck to you my dear.
2007-01-14 18:31:48 · answer #6 · answered by angel h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way is to find yourself some kind of activity which should keep you busy, this is one, secondly-if a thought of him comes to your mind... do not focus on it... try to let it pass just like other thoughts... accept it as past... besides, this is only few days after you broke up, and it took me eg. about a month to get over my last ex... I has similar thoughts too... not anymore...
2007-01-14 18:31:59 · answer #7 · answered by kamqx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem, i found out that my ex was cheating on me. i talked to him. talk to your ex. it'll help!! i promise. but i had a diffrent problem..
my ex is in california right now in the national guard. he came up to visit and saw me. it was hard. and i found out that he still cared for me, but not like that anymore. ive been thinking about him 24/7 since we've seen each other.
talk to harrison, and after that, just earse your memories with him, it'll be kind of hard. but talk to him.
hope this helps :D
2007-01-14 18:32:04 · answer #8 · answered by Jules 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be hard at first. We ALL get broken hearts. It's part of life.
But realize that God has a plan for you and will bring you the right one in His time. Just have faith in Him. Pray and ask God for the strength to move on. He's there for you. I promise.
If God brings you to it,
He will bring you through it.
2007-01-14 18:29:46 · answer #9 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well honey you just broke up with. obviously he was very in important in your life that will take some time to get use to life with out him. but you need to remember that you were fine before him and you will be fine after him.
2007-01-14 18:30:49 · answer #10 · answered by OB the Wolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋