I'm so sad and mad about my boyfriend, he doesn't care how I feel anymore, he never takes me anywhere anymore, and all he has time for is his stupid rasiseing chicken hobbie, his job and his school , he never let me meet his family, we been dateing for two years and And I do so much for him , I'm faithful, loveing , and I always help him out ,when ever he needs it, what should I do , should I talk to him or should I cheat on him? I dont want to cheat , but I want him to know , that he should take me for granted, any advice. Thanks and please dont be rude. And we hardly talk on the phone, cause he's always tired , because he works so hard , at least that what he says. He says he loves me , but I dont beilve he does anymore.
2007-01-14 10:23:26 · 25 answers · asked by kitty 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay, well first of all don't cheat. Apart from you not even wanting to cheat on him you'll probably feel very very guilty later and the plan may backfire because he may just end up breaking up with you or even hating you. It sounds like he either doesn't care about you as much as he use to or that you guys are in a slump. The first thing to do is to tell him exactly how you're feeling. He can't fix things if he doesn't know that something is wrong. Tell him exactly what you told us. The whole you not meeting his family after 2 years does send up red flags for me...but then again if they live really far away or something it might not necessarily be that bad. Anyway, he's definitely taking you for granted and you need to know where you two stand. Ask him if he's really truly busy or if he's avoiding you. Ask him how he feels about you. Hopefully things will work out, but if he doesn't start treating you better then you need to remember that there are men out there who will love you exactly as you are and treat you with respect.
2007-01-14 10:30:58 · answer #1 · answered by bashleyf2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Decide if this is all you want out of relationship and if it isn't then maybe you should move on to a man that will actually appreciate you. I don't care how tired a guy is, if he loves a girl and is attracted to her he will be over visiting with her every opportunity he can get. You say that you have yet to meet his family after 2 years? Now there is a big problem there, as obviously he doesn't feel that you are worthy of meeting them so I can't imagine him asking you to marry him.
He is obviously just using you until he finds something better and if I were in your situation as much as it will hurt for a while. you need to move on. For your sake before you waste any more time on a relationship that is clearly going nowhere. I am sorry to be so abrupt but sometimes we need to be shocked into making a move. We get complacent and used to a relationship and because it is comfortable and not that bad we stay in it. Maybe habit I don't know. You need to break free and find out what it is like to be the center of somebody's life rather than an afterthought.
Good luck to you.
2007-01-14 10:31:12 · answer #2 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to really talk to him about this and if he is just not into the relationship anymore then move on. It sounds like you should move on anyways, because if you have been dating him for 2 years and he wont let you meet his family, that is just weird!! Red flags right there. Also, DO NOT cheat on him. That would be completely wrong. Break up with him and then find another guy. You deserve way better!!
2007-01-14 10:30:30 · answer #3 · answered by kristy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Has something happened to him to make him feel sad? It sounds like he is suffering from depression. Ask him about it. Cheating is not the answer - pointless. If you feel like doing that, you should break up.
If you want this to work you need to talk to him. If he won't talk to you, and brushes you off, it might be time to call it a day. You can only do so much. Make sure he knows you will be there for him as a friend, however, if he ever does feel like talking to you. There might be legitimate reasons for not wanting you to meet his family - is he ashamed of them? However, its still strange after 2 years - my boyfriends parents are not to be proud of in any way, but he introduced me to them anyway, after just 2 months.
I would get out before you get depressed. You need to move on and live your life, stop wasting time with someone who doesn't care about you.
2007-01-14 10:30:16 · answer #4 · answered by Frankie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi -
This is a complex answer, but it has more to do with you than him. My answer is that all your problems can be solved with him, if you stop thinking he owes you his attention, affection, and love. The real deal here is that he has lost interest in you. He doesn't want to be with you.
Let me ask you, do you treat the people you love this way? Probably not. And most people dont. Those that do are not nice, and those who let them are not smart. If you continue to seek him for your needs, you are not smart. He owes you nothing. You shouldn't be demanding anything of him. NOTHING.
Your best move is to focus on your own life, move on, and stop initiating any contact with him. You should stop calling, emailing, and communicating. You are a good, decent, worthwhile person. And he thinks of you as a dog that needs to much attention. Needing someone to love you is very normal. We all seek love and connection through relationships. Nothing wrong with that. But insisting that the only love in the world you can ever be happy with is from this guy (your Not-boyfrined) is NOT SMART, in fact its kinda dumb.
Rather than cheat on him, why not recognize that the relationship is OVER, and seek a new love? That way when you have sex, you won't wonder if its worth it, because you will love the person you are sleeping with?
And don't get pregnant either...........use birth control.
2007-01-14 10:39:52 · answer #5 · answered by jasonross1234 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I strongly suggest that YOU get a Hobby. Something that You really like, either to make, or do away from home. Be too busy for him, and too tired to talk on the phone. When you do have some time, be busy again. Try "reverse" psychology. and always remember, man has a "one" track mind, so don't overload his. Good Luck..ps: don't cheat,it only demeans you.
2007-01-14 10:32:18 · answer #6 · answered by peaches 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to flow get clinical help and he has to wish to get help . you isn't waiting to make him get help if he dose not want it ... it type of feels which includes you're staying with him pondering that you experience obligated and this may again hearth on you if he eager to brake up with you and also you've invested all a at the same time as for him . Sounds to me the spark is lengthy previous and he does not recognize the thanks to assist you understand it really is over . So each and each so commonly they push you away so that you go away them . i did not pay interest you say you want him sounds better like a pal . i'm no health care professional in spite of the indisputable fact that for sure like he ought to have bipolar and ought to wish drugs to administration his ailment . Oh and in reality via technique of reality he's depressed dose not grant you the magnificent to administration you undesirable .. that may be a demonstration of a few abuse interior the destiny ..
2016-11-23 18:29:43 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww I know that must feel terrible hun, but trust me he does still love you. I went through a similar thing recently, and I discovered that it was just because he was so comfortable with me that he figured he didnt have to sweep me off my feet anymore, and he kinda got overwhelmed with work that he seemed to take me for granted.
My advice is to talk to him - he probably doesnt even realise he's doing it!! Ask him if he can set aside a special time every week for the two of you (my bf and I see a movie every Sunday, just us), and let him know you love him but you feel like you're the only one in this relationship.
Good luck!!
2007-01-14 10:32:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
How can I not be rude? It appears that you believe he is not cheating but you are considering it as a option. He is in school; and working and is tired when he tried to talk to you. Maybe you should place yourself in his shoes. I am sorry but i sounds as if you are selfish. You believe that all his time belongs to you. May be you should consider finding someone else rather than cheating. I am sure you really don't want that but face it his life appear to have grown away from yours. Be a better person allow him to know how you feel before deciding.....It is very strange you have not met hi family. could he be ashamed of them/you.
2007-01-14 10:35:54 · answer #9 · answered by Wat Da Hell 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would sit down and talk to him and ask him why you have not met his family.
IF he does not show he cares for you, then he may not or just be overworked.
Try and possibly take a week break and see.
Or just have a long talk, Ask him why he does not take the time to take you out. Or line up a certain day to be together just alone time. Movie time, talk time, things you enjoy. Line up 1 day a week.
Stop giving him everything he wants. Don't wait on him, he will miss it, if not he ain't worth it.
Hope this helps Ultimately its up to you
2007-01-14 10:31:16 · answer #10 · answered by boshie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋