What if your single for the rest of your life? If you don't feel you don't want a partner, if there is no one else you want to be with apart from the person who doesn't want to be with you? What if you want a baby one day but never have a partner? Do you just go on living with out having children just because everyone else says you should be married or in a stable relationship to be a parent??
2007-01-14 10:22:57 · 42 answers · asked by the_questioner 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You just do as you please and balls to what people are or are not going to think.
2007-01-14 10:33:09 · answer #1 · answered by pageys 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think so. As long as you give your child love, support and guidance isn't that all that matters. There are some parents that shouldn't stay together because they are not being good role models for there children. The only setback i can see is the child growing up without a father figure but if he/she has a grandfather, uncle or brother etc then hopefully that will be fine anyways. Me personally i'm with a wonderful b/f we've been together for 6 years have a 2 and a half year old son with another son on the way due may. I grew up with step-fathers and it was not a nice experience. I will be thinking very long and hard about any decisions that might affect the outcomes of my children. One other problem i see with being artificially inseminated by a sperm bank is what if your child grows up falls in love with someone and that person's father happens to be your childs father. I know it's only a small possability but it's still a possability. Tread very lightly in regards to that.
2007-01-14 10:42:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a single parent and I find there is still prejudice out there if you are on your own with children. It wasn't something I planned but I wouldn't change my life either if I could go back and do it all again. I've never met a man who I love more than my children and I don't think this is a bad thing. If I ever meet someone who will love my children even as half as much as I do then I might consider spending the rest of my life with him but until that happens I will remain a single mum.
2007-01-14 10:37:48 · answer #3 · answered by Lost and found 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a single woman--38--no relationship and right now I am pregnant with my first (and possibly only) child. I waited to see if I could find a mate to share my life with and raise a family. As time went on and it didn't happen, I decided that I wanted to be a mom more than anything so I went ahead and tried to make that dream come true. I am currently 16 weeks pregnant. I am excited. It is harder to be a single parent because all the responsibility of raising the child falls on you. Yes, 2 parent families are probably the ideal, but there are plenty of married people with children who are messed up and their life isn't a bed of roses.
You have to do a lot of soul searching. Plenty of people I know have judged me- calling me selfish because I have chosen to bring a child into this world without a father. I do, however, have a great family--including 2 brothers and a father- who are all close to me and support me. I know my child will have plenty of male role models in his/her uncles and grandfather. Maybe someday I will find a wonderful man who will love my child as if he/she were his own.
Everyone is different. If being a parent is something you desire most in this world, and you can't find a partner to share you life with, and you are financially and emotionally stable to raise a child on your own--and you have a good support system--I say go for it. Never condemn yourself nor allow anyone to condemn you for your choices if you know they are right for you.
Good luck!
2007-01-14 11:04:36 · answer #4 · answered by sidnee_marie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not! If you want children and you are a single woman, you shouldn't have to go without a child that you can take care of, because society says, "you have to be married first". A lot of women adopt. And that's just as good as having one of your own. You can also be artificially inseminated, if you are comfortable with having another man's child that you don't know or haven't met, from a sprem bank. There are plenty of options.
My mother was a single parent and there's nothing wrong with being one. Things don't always work out or have to be the way society says it should. As long as it makes you happy and you have the support of your family and friends, then go for it!! You don't even need the support as long as it makes you happy.
2007-01-14 10:29:17 · answer #5 · answered by kaiyas_mom07 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think marriage should be a pre requisite for parenting. However I do feel that IF you choose to remain single and raise children you should be financially as well as emotionally prepared for doing so. There is no reason that you shouldn't have the joys (as well as the PAINS LOL) of parenting just because you are not the "marrying" type. Being married doesn't equal being a good parent, and being a lousy parent doesn't equal being single. My parents were married to each other until my father's death but they were not very good parents.
2007-01-14 12:46:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
children of single parents have proven to be no worse off as adults than kids of two parent households.
as a single parent you will have double the workload and having extended family very clsoe wouldn't be a bad idea.
my mom was a single parent, but my grandparents lived with us and my aunt lived across the street. most of my other family was within driving distance. so even though I had only parent I was never without someone.
I'm sure if you are a good parent, with a good job, felxable hours, ect you'll be jsut fine
2007-01-14 15:32:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a single parent isn't bad. I've seen couples try to raise children together who don't get it right! It's all about the quality of parent - not how many the child has :) Plus single parents tend to rely on friends and family more, which creates a special extended family feeling.
2007-01-14 10:32:53 · answer #8 · answered by Christina W 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be a single parent use a clinic for a sperm donor or look for a surrogate to carry the child. Children need to be wanted and loved and although it might be easier with a partner its deffinatly not essential as long as there are good role models for the child.
2007-01-17 04:32:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a single parent is absolutely fine, as long as you provide the child with a stable and loving home. Why put yourself through the misery of an unsatasfying relationship when you could be happier with just yourself and your child/children?
2007-01-14 10:27:53 · answer #10 · answered by Danru 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i think thats a hard question..
im in that situation-im a 19 yr old single parent becoz my fiancee left me when i was pregnant.
im still in love with him (but he's with someone else), for the moment i really dont wana be with any1 else.
i prey that 1 day i will get married,but i cant see it rite now.
i really dont want 2 have children by different fathers,but i loved being pregnant & would love more children.
I guess time will tell...
every1 is different and entitled to their own individual lives,who cares wot others think.
u just have 2 live ur own life,see wot happens and be as happy as possible..
2007-01-17 09:37:08 · answer #11 · answered by jls_87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋