I've been with my man for 2 yrs. Me & his mother & sister don't get along. When I came around in the beginning the mother would say things like, "When are you guys getting married, because you can't live in sin forever." So immediately I was uncomfortable. His sister has a problem with me because I didn't want My fiance's 15 y/o brother to come stay the weekend at our house EVERY weekend. I let her know that every other weekend was okay but not EVERY weekend. So she was done with me then. My side of the family knows about the engagement & the wedding. My man has been afraid to let his mom know so we haven't told her. He calls her today and breaks the news. The mom goes on & on about how I disrespect & what I need to change about myself. My man just sits & listen's in awe not saying anything. So I call back & tell her why I've been uncomfortable & she blows up at me calls my fiance back & tell him she doesn't want to be apart of his life but he can call her if he needs anything. HELP
2007-01-14 10:13:34 · 6 answers · asked by Tashua 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Family is so important to me. That's why this has always been such a HUGE problem.
2007-01-14 10:26:40 · update #1
Sorry to hear about this. Your soon to be mother in law may never change her feeling towards you and before you marry him make sure that's something you can live with.
Some day she may have a change of heart, maybe when something tragic happens in her life, or you guys have a baby?
My advise is to go on with the wedding and Do Not Live near your in-laws. It's not so bad having horrible in-laws if your not by them, having them in your business 24/7.
Try not to say anything else to her, because as I have learned with people like that it will never do any good to try to talk some reason into them. Their minds have been set and talking is only going to start another fight. My solution to this problem (people being rude to me when I've been nothing but nice and loving to them) is to disconnect them from my life. I don't talk to them or look at them. I give the silent treatment and try to be happy in other area's of my life.
It stresses me out to much anymore trying to figure people out where there is no resolution in sight. Good luck, I feel your pain!
2007-01-14 10:26:37 · answer #1 · answered by pearl28 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with family being important. You don't have his family's respect, he apparently doesn't respect you either. If respect was part of the equation then you wouldn't be here with the problem you are being faced with. Getting married, having children and having everything else that comes with marriage is not going to solve anything, but just make the web even more tangled. It sounds to me that he has made his choice, not to respect or "love you as his own body." Now it's your turn to take a stand for what you feel is right. It's not about being in love anymore... this will only bring you unhappiness on a rocky foundation for a relationship.
I wish you well and hope the decision you make is the best for you.
2007-01-14 18:35:58 · answer #2 · answered by LC850 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you guys plan your wedding make sure to inform his Mom and the rest of the family even if they don't care or don't want to hear.
Then you go about making your day as beautiful as you can and share it with your family.
You can't make people behave the way you want....they're adults and they have to be responsible for themselves.
So that your husband has a relationship with his family you may want to keep away when he visits. Go see your family when he visits his.
It would be nice to have a good relationship with them....but somethings just aren't possible.
2007-01-14 21:01:22 · answer #3 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Answer me this! Are you marring his mom or him? You shouldnt be worried about what she says about you! and his sister has some issues! you dont have to love them the only person you have to love is your fiance! dont stress over them!
BEST OF LUCKâ¥
2007-01-14 18:40:14 · answer #4 · answered by ♥la chica♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't marry him! If he can't stand up for you now he never will and it will only get worse the older he gets and the longer it goes on. If you do marry him...you don't have to like them and they don't have to like you...You stick by your values and don't worry about them...it's their loss.
2007-01-14 18:23:22 · answer #5 · answered by shaede_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just stay away from your future mother in law and sister in law.
2007-01-14 18:48:16 · answer #6 · answered by T razz 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋