My boyfriend is mad at me because I said that I've gone back to going to church and that I'm not having sex with him cause I'm not doing it until I'm married. He asked for a bj I said no, he said "hand job?" I said no then he said I'm a bad girlfriend... I also told him he shouldn't masturbate because it's not right and it makes me uneasy (he does it while I'm around -.-) and I feel useless it's like he's saying "Well your boring I think I'll jack off". Is this what men are like? Is all they want sex?
2007-01-14 09:57:45 · 15 answers · asked by Swim+Cheerleading RULE! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Keep doing what you are, he's just a phase. Work on your life and leave him he's a useless *******...
2007-01-14 10:10:47 · answer #1 · answered by κύριος κτίστης 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've made a terrible error. You can't tell a guy not to jack off- it's NONE of your business. On the other hand, if he's doing it in front of you, that's WAY out of bounds and you have a right to say "that's REALLY annoying/that bothers me, etc".
But don't forget, we're all humans, we're all animals, we all have a sex drive. He made a mistake telling you that you're a bad girlfriend, and if he really loved you, he would understand. But you can't suppress a person's sex drive cold turkey. You have to understand that, quite literally, people have "needs". You do too. I'm sorry that you think that it's wrong to do until you get married, but it is your life and your decision. Just don't forget, he may want sex, and it sounds like you won't give it to him. You or he may break this off because of this reason. Just be prepared.
2007-01-14 18:04:10 · answer #2 · answered by chrisser665 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No! Not all men are like this! MOST men are.
You don't deserve trash like that.
It sounds like you are being mentally abused.
I respect you for your decision. You are truly strong for not giving in. He has no right to be mad at you. Keep up your strength. God has a plan for you and will bring you the right one.
I have a boyfriend of almost a year that I am completely in love with. We talk about marriage and how I want to wait till our wedding day to have sex. He truly does love me... he respects me. That's when you KNOW you have a great guy. That's when you KNOW he's in love with you... when he has absolutely no problem in waiting. Actions speak louder than words...
THAT is the kind of person you deserve.
2007-01-14 18:02:11 · answer #3 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Guys want sex. That's true. Guys also get really pissed off when women tell them what to do and not to do because of religion. Especially when they don't believe in religion. Just keep that out of your relationship and things should be okay. What I mean is don't tell him how to live his life. Now about him wanting sex and you not giving it, that's your choice and you should respect him. But yeah let him masturbate at least. Maybe not around you but don't tell him not to.
2007-01-14 18:05:31 · answer #4 · answered by Dido 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is weird that he does that right in front of you, but you aren't leaving him much of a choice, are you? Just jacking him off isn't an abomination to God, you could be saving him from finding another girlfriend and having premarital sex with her.
2007-01-14 19:22:20 · answer #5 · answered by Sir Alex Awesome Valentine, Esq. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sex is an integral part of most (esp adult) romantic relationships. If your partner isn't on the same page as you sexually, then perhaps it's time to go your separate ways. There's nothing wrong with him wanting it (that's natural) and nothing wrong with you choosing to abstain...but you don't make a well matched pair with such opposing viewpoints on the subject.
2007-01-14 18:02:43 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he respected you, he wouldn't want you to do anything you are uncomfortable with. He sounds immature. And...I might add...that once he gets what he wants, he will probably move on. You're better off on your own than with somebody who makes you feel bad. In answering your question...yes, most guys are like that.
2007-01-14 18:12:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Save yourself for marraige and your on the right track with churched. Gdo will provide the right person for you. Make the decision with God and He will let you know what to do with the BF you have now.
2007-01-14 18:02:58 · answer #8 · answered by Notta 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
some do but many dont --- he really is only with you for the sex --- so i think you need to reevaluate and if he does not change his attitude look for someone else
im sorry and you have my best wishes
2007-01-14 18:05:48 · answer #9 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah but this guy seems to be excessive. You sure you still like him.? I hate guys who think with their male parts, no imagination and it shows me they have no control over their urges. I'd think twice about staying with this guy, he sounds too self centered for my taste.
2007-01-14 18:05:14 · answer #10 · answered by Erica R 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋