Somehow yesterday he just started getting pissed.There was a messy room(not my bedroom) in my house.He yelled and I started to clean it.Then,he threw stuff at me and called me a **** up,and he said when i grow up im gonna become a ********...(wtf i thought).I didnt respond to him.Today,there are contractors and gardeners working peacefully in our garden.My dad marches in it and starts cussing at them for no reason.Whats wrong with my dad...I don't wanna talk to him.
2007-01-14 09:56:04 · 26 answers · asked by Deanna 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hey I like your answer(the guy who said my mum was ....)but i'm kinda serious here.P.S Hes obsessed with cleaning and money issues.
2007-01-14 10:03:47 · update #1
Anyone answer,share your opinion about my dad whos obsessed with the vacuum.
2007-01-14 10:14:00 · update #2
It happens so that the gardeners and contractors quit without paying hahahahahahaha!!!!
2007-01-14 10:19:12 · update #3
it sounds like your father is acting like a spoiled child. something obviously happened, much more serious than a dirty room and he wants everyone around him as miserable as he is. He lashes out at you because he can't lash out at the person or event that really made him angry. He has just shown how much maturity he lacks.
I would avoid all contact if possible. I would respond to anything politely, using as few words as possible and remove myself from wherever he is as often as possible. In time, when he becomes more reasonable (if that ever happens) I'd discuss it with him and ask him to refrain from calling you names and taking his anger out on you. If you are still in school, I'd ask to speak to one of the school psychologists for help in dealing with this. They are better prepared for this.
I'm sorry this has happened to you. I hope it all works out well.
2007-01-14 10:05:48 · answer #1 · answered by J Somethingorother 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't run away and don't confront him. That is your mom's job. You should just do your best to help keep the house clean and not spend or ask for money. Money may be real tight right now and you not even know it. Money issues cause adults to act funny sometimes and they take it out on the people they love without even knowing it. Good luck and hope it all works out.
2007-01-14 18:14:21 · answer #2 · answered by reddog19982000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This probably has nothing to do with you. Talk to your mom if possible. There is probably something behind his mood you may not know about (bad day at work, prob with a friend, etc). Try your best to stay out of his way and don't take his insults to heart. He'll probably come around and apologize when he gets thru what he's dealing with.
2007-01-14 18:00:26 · answer #3 · answered by blhenne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's just having a rough time. If you guys are the close type, you could throw him off and ask him if he needs anything, like a soda or something. Or if he starts cussing you out again, you could simply ask him, (not yelling) why're you yelling at me/calling me names? What did I do?
Sorry you're having a rough time. Heads up though, it'll blow over.
2007-01-14 18:00:12 · answer #4 · answered by chrisser665 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry...that has to be hard. Honestly, i don't know what to say. To start, maybe you should keep on avoiding him and see if it passes over. If it continues, then tell somone. From what you say, this isn't his normal behavior, and something should be done about it. If someone else doesn't help you, then ask him if anything has been going on at work or something.
Good luck, i hope everything gets better!
2007-01-14 18:01:23 · answer #5 · answered by xsayxgoodbyextonightx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything about it. Usually when men get angry it has to do with financial problems. He is probably afraid right now and it's coming off as anger because men don't deal with their emotions the way we do. Avoid him. If you and your dad have a real good relationship were communication is open then try talking to him, otherwise, steer clear and just try to help him around the house.
2007-01-14 18:01:51 · answer #6 · answered by Rock, Paper, Scissors 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Bipolar Disorder? Does it run in the family? Maybe something is going on at work that is messing with his head. There are a whole bunch of reasons for it. Maybe he doesn't realize that what he is saying is hurtful.
2007-01-14 17:59:44 · answer #7 · answered by crodriguez1010 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes! If there's no reason for this behavior, and it's never happened before, I'd stay as much out of the way as possible till it blows over.
If it's happened before, that's a different story.
2007-01-14 18:00:05 · answer #8 · answered by KD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll have to ask him. That actually might calm him down and make him think. Just say "Dad, what's wrong? Why are you so touchy and easily irritated?" Sometimes, that's all someone needs....someone to care enough to ask what is wrong. It's worth a shot, what do you have to loose?
2007-01-14 17:59:40 · answer #9 · answered by C'mon Get Happy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like hes going through a mid life crisis. I'd keep clear of him for a while.
2007-01-14 17:59:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋