Why is my dad so annoying? Help?

Question

I dont get on at all well with my dad, he dont say please or
thanks-you, he eats with his mouth wide open and makes a really bad noise but this only happens when me and my sister are in the room not my mum too. There are 3 ladies in the house and he leaves pee all over the seat for us to wipe off and says its not him when all 3 of us knows it is. He slaps my dog bout 4 time round the head and mouth when he was jumping up at the tv ok the dog has got to be stopped from doin it but not like that, he thinks that me and my sister are slaves, he dont show any love or respect for us, he says we only come to him when we want something but we never ask him for anything but he only speaks to us when he wants something, I.E, tv, cooker, microwave, help all with out a thank you. he goes mad over the smallest thing. he hate my dog cause he dont come when he calls him but does for us. He is 65 and im 14, Is there any1 who can help me or any dads with teenagers???

hes not 1 for talking 2 or if my mum trys 2 talk 2 him, me and my sister try 2 stick together but its hard, theres no 1 i can talk 2, i find it hard saying all this, The only person i feel like i could talk 2 is a dog trainer but wats he gonna be bothered he so nice and respectful

Answer 1

You need to talk to him, if this does not work then I would confide in one of your teachers or someone in authority you trust.

Sorry to tell you this but your being abused, this needs to stop NOW.

tell him this, he probably wont agree with you, cause when he was a kid his behaviour was acceptable, but not any more.


Good luck.
You could also try childline if your in the uk

Answer 2

he's male.....




lol... actually sounds a lot like my late father. he was an older dad too. maybe that has something to do with it... the generation gap. he probably comes from a generation where strictness and austereness/austerity?? towards your children was the norm.

Advice? CALMLY Talk to him about your concerns. Tell him that you feel that he doesnt treat you and your sister with respect. Take it from there. My guess is he will be so shocked my your mature response, he will at least try to behave better (some please and thank yous here and there). But dont expect a miracle, you cant teach an old dog new tricks.

Good luck

edited to add, i am sorry you are unable to chat with him. I assume a letter would be just as useless then? If so, I amfraid there is no easy answer to this, unfortunately it appears that you are just gonna have to find some kid of coping mechanism. That might mean ignoring his bad behaviour until you are old enough to get your own place if living with him becomes too unbearable. Or maybe speak to your mum and see if she will broach (sp) the subject with him on your behalf. other than that I cant see what else can be done.

Answer 3

I would write him a letter and leave it for him to find at a time when you know he's as relaxed as HE can be. Preferably when he's going to be in the house on his own for a while.

Don't make it an accusing letter, just say what he does and how it makes you feel.

Because you will have left him alone for a while to read the letter he will have had time to think about it and whether he admits it or not, what you have written will sink in.

If after a day or so, he hasn't raised the subject with you, you could ask him, again when the two of you are alone, what he thought of the letter.

As for the dog, ask him if you can be the one who disciplines him, then you can do it in a kinder way.

At the age of 65, he is probably well set in his habits and maybe not aware of just how bad he comes across.

I hope this helps you a little, best wishes.

Answer 4

Your Dad is a little old to be raising a 14 year old. This is not your fault but it is a fact. He is from that old era where the women did all the household chores and the men went to work and brought home the pay check. I am a lot younger than your Dad and I have 4 kids all grown, married and on their own. I could not imagine raising a teenager at my age. I know it can't be easy. It sounds like your Dad was not raised around women. I think you, your Mom and your sister need to get together and talk to him about some of the problems you mentioned. Try and see if you can't have a family meeting once a month. Do it at the same time each month. Just keep a list of things you would like to talk about. Try to do it after dinner. When everyone is together, has just eaten and is not to tired yet. Try to keep the dog out of his sight. Good luck with the pee on the toilet seat, I raised 3 boys and tried to teach them right but none of them ever seemed to catch on. But if you can come to some type of agreement on just a few things it can help a lot. Each month you might get one thing accomplished.

Answer 5

You need to speak to your mum about this and see if she will be with you when you speak to you dad - which needs to be done!! he needs to learn some respect for you all and in return he will get respect back - although you do seem to respect him and have good manners so far. he is from the "old generation" and they do things differently to us but all the same he needs to be aware of the 21st century and your feelings too. Is there anyone you can talk too if not your parents? If he becomes violent then he needs to be reported. Hope all goes well for you.

Answer 6

All i can say is be grateful you have a dad, whether he is a fat slob or not , but treasure the time you have together, he wont be around forever .I grew up without a dad and would have given anything to have one ,try to talk to him or if the communication isnt great , try writing him a letter about your feelings and how you would like things to change.
Good luck.

Answer 7

Sorry about your troubles, but he was probably raised that "children are seen and not heard." He still lives by the old rules, that the man can do whatever he wants and a women has no place talking to him. That's just his way. Cheer up though, at least you have your sister to talk to.

Answer 8

hi hun, its a tough one, you have to respect your parents, but they have to show and earn that respect to you.. He sounds like a typical old dad, i married a man 20 years my senior and we have children, thankfully he is a gentle man but the age diff does show. He has to learn to treat you with respect too if he is to get that, also sounds afraid of your mum, or not want the rows with her. Have you told her about this and how he embarrases you? my advice would be to talk to him, if he is difficult to talk to write a note to him, leave it on his pillow, as long as he is not violent if he is call childline!!!!! but nothing will get sorted out without you explaining your feelings, they are not mind readers. Tell them he embarasses you more than a normal dad should. He prob hates being that age with teenagers for children as he should be in the garden now with his pipe and shed lol As for the dog, thats verging on crulty if he does not stop that report him to the rspca!! good luck hun.

Answer 9

Sorry he is very old fashioned some men of that age are like that won't your mum pull him up on the things he does or is it that she is scared of him he seems like a control freak

Answer 10

He needs help. Give him a B*tch slap. This should help.