If your child got STRAIGHT F's again and..?

Question

If he got straight f's [literally] and got in trouble with the school again.. would you take him to the mall and buy him new pants? Would you take away his new shoes? OR what would you do? Serious situation... 10 points.

Answer 1

Depends on the age. I would take away everything important to him. Then I would enroll him in tutoring. Hopefully he won't like this and prove to you that he doesn't need it. If he is failing because of laziness it might work. If he is failing because he has a problem, they might be able to identify the problem and help him. I WOULD NOT reward him in any way. Good luck....

Answer 2

I would have to figure out why this was happening. Maybe the school work is too hard for him and causes him frustration and that is why he is acting up and failing. Maybe, the school work is too easy and he is bored and that is why he is acting up and failing.
The grade he is in depends a lot too. Little boys especially have a lot of energy and it is hard for them to sit still in a classroom. This is developmental, lately lots of people want to label all children like this as having ADD, but this is not the case. These children simply need a way to expend their excess energy. I would take the money that you were going to use for new shoes and put him in some sports programs, or karate (teaches disipline and self control) Something that will involve him physically. Yet is also structured. I would also use that money to invest in a tutor. This way you can find if everything is just too hard for him and he is not understanding what is going on, or if everything is too easy and he is just not being challenged.

As far as buying him gifts or anything like that, why would you do that? Unless he needs new shoes and new pants, he shouldn't get ANYTHING at all, until the grades and the behavior improves.
What has he done to deserve such nice things? The only things that he should get right now are things that will help him, and a way to make him understand how important it is to have goals and to do well in school, and how the choices he makes right now will affect his future.

Good luck to you.

Answer 3

If my child got straight F's and had poor behavior, he would get nothing but tutoring, and wouldn't see the outside of his room for quite some time. If this is the case, he should be tested for hearing, vision, ADHD, and a variety of other disorders,including reading level and psychological exams. Once the medical stuff all clears, he should go straight into counseling- at least 2x a week. I'd then have him take a paper around to all his teachers and administrators to sign that says that he understands that if his grades are not at least c's by the next quarter, and behavior is not exemplary, that he will be spending another year in the same grade, as well as doing summer school. He would sign it, as well. That way everyone would know the deal. Serious situation, serious answer.

Answer 4

If my child got straight F's, I would blame myself for it for not being a part of my childs life. With that said, I don't have any kids but I do have nieces and cousins. All of them make A's B's and C's. My niece made a D several times because she didn't understand the subject so I took time out of my day to help her (social studies). I not only helped her, but I also explained why each of these subjects are important in life. Why is world history important? Short answer: To make sure the mistakes that happened in the past don't happen in the present/future, Why is Geography important? Short answer: To learn about different cultures and different views from around the world, etc.

When they sense that you like something (especially if they look up to you), they'll follow suit and it'll be that much easier for them to strive to get an education. When they mess up on purpose on the other hand, then a punishment has to be layed down to show them you will not tolerate it. No allowance, no electronics, no sugar, or they can't go over a friends house. My sister actually took my nieces stereo, computer, television, cell phone, and videogames out of her room for a week because she was interrupting classes. Try that.

Answer 5

I feel that he must be disciplined. If it means taking something away that means so much to him do that. Also re-inforce how important it is for him to make good grades. you get involved...don't know how involve you are right now...but get more involved. check his homework every night. go to the school and tell the instructors there to call you directly when they are having problems with him. or you call the school each day to ask the teacher if he has homework.

next, talk to him and see what's really going on with him. he could actually be dealing with some serious issues that you may not be aware of. are you paying attention to him(not to offend you but he may be demanding more of your attention...especially if you are a working mom and most your time is going to work. be active with him. if he has all F's, I'm sure there is something going on that needs immediate attention. he could be having a hard time understanding and don't want to try because for some reason he feels he can't grasp the concept. Just do all that you can to help your son because he can only go through elementary, Jr. and high school once. if he goes through those yrs having a hard time and never gets help, that's just time wasted. and what's after that? he'll be too intimidated to go to college then.

Answer 6

I certainly would not thumbs down on that question. It is obvious you need help. I don't think right now is the time for new clothes unless he is desperate for something to wear. I would take computer, TV, and those things away until he started to prove he wanted to do better. I'd start using that time to sit down with him and find out where his problems are. I'd work with him and see if he couldn't get the work or if he was ADD had other problems. I'd say the school needed to be checking why he was failing. Naturally if he can't get the work he is going to act out to get attention.Gradually give hm back TV and other things as you see
effort. I'm sure there is a reason for that behavior.

Answer 7

I think it really depends on why he's failing. If it's because he's distracted, then take away video games/TV/toys until he starts doing better. If it's because he just doesn't understand, help him with his homework or hire a teacher. If he's just not doing it, have his teacher sign a homework planner or something every day. Also, check his grades online or, if that's not available, ask his teacher for a weekly progress report, and go over every homework assignment he did badly on. However, it's important to use positive reinforcement as well. If he gets an A on a test, give him twenty more minutes of TV time or something similar.

Answer 8

The only way I'd take him to the mall is if there were a child psychologist office there. He needs professional help. I'm not saying he's crazy, but this situation sounds like something you can't fix all by yourself. The school counselor might be able to recommend a reliable professioal and/or programs that would help you pay for such help.

Answer 9

Id take away his life, television, phone friends, money, everything that brought him pleasure, make him do chores, wash the dishes wash the car, do all the laundry, and on the weekends make him do the yard and id take him to work with me, and make him earn his priveleges back, id even take the door off of his bedroom and steal his privacy that really works,and until his next report card came out, this is how it would be, he can watch whatever you are watching, and mandatory homework every night and check it afterwards, do not give in, you are the adult and you make the rules here NOT him, thats whats wrong with these children no one is firm like our parents were,everyone is afraid of dcf well screw that i Will spank my child like my father did with me, and if the little brat says im calling, i will help them pack, and give-em a dose of what crazy looks like, have ya ever seen foster parents, my god what a bunch of retards, good luck my friend i hope that you follow my lead, i had a similar problem but not so severe, my child is in honors everything and let hers slip to d's i did what i told you and wham straight A's

Answer 10

Tell him that getting all F's is unacceptable and take away all his electronics ( TV, Phone, Computer...)
Ask his teachers for work that they did over the whole school year and make him study it over the weekend and summer break.
Get him a tutor if the method above doesn't work.
If he gives attitude, take his door off the hinges. Make sure he knows what he did wrong. Good luck!

Answer 11

Sometimes, school is not for everyone and can be either really easy for some kids or really difficult. Maybe he has a learning problem??? Talk to him-- ask him how he's doing in school etc. (everyday chatter), if he likes his teacher, if he has any friends etc. Go and speak to his teacher and see what he/she has to say. No shopping for him... the next time he gets another F all he'll think about is getting new pants again. GOOD LUCK!! :-)