Q is for people who know etiquette...
My friend hadn't seen this person in a long time, but left me alone at our table for about 10 min. We're in our 30s and 40s so we should know what to do by now, right? Am I being too hard on my friend? It put a damper on our whole night!!!
2007-01-14 09:26:29 · 14 answers · asked by kluvs2write 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I think your Friend showed great character....wanting to acknowledging an old friend or acquaintance
what if events in your two lives forced one of you to no longer be in contact....and your friend spotted you at the restaurant....you would be personally delighted by the union...and the respect shown for your past relationship
it can be boring or awkward to be at a table alone....not being part of a conversation that interrupts your evening....but well worth it knowing the character of your friend
you have a good person in ur life
2007-01-14 09:36:28 · answer #1 · answered by Jonathan L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a close call because it was "about 10 minutes" and I was actually taught etiquette (that's almost a lost art!). Yes, it's rude in general. Your friend should have set up another time to meet with the other person, but all that would take about 10 minutes. In this instance, give your friend a 2nd chance. It wasn't anything she planned. It just happened and she may have used poor judgment, but I keep thinking 10 minutes really isn't long enough to be rude. She didn't abandon you for the whole evening.
2007-01-14 09:33:34 · answer #2 · answered by David M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, yes, it was a bit rude. But, she's your friend, and in her excitement over seeing this person, she probably got a bit carried away. It would have been better if she had arranged to meet up with them later in the evening, or the next day, but that might not have been possible given her friend's schedule, so she spent 10 minutes with him/her instead. Forgive and forget. It isn't worth losing your friendship over something like this is it? Go to your friend, make up and go shopping. Life's too short to be upset over minor breeches in etiquette.
2007-01-14 09:40:10 · answer #3 · answered by teacupn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter if they hadn't seen each other in a century. It was rude on your friend's part.
If she wanted to catch up with her other friend, she could have quickly made arrangements for them to get together at another time. ...a few minutes tops and she should have been back at your table.
I don't think you were too hard on her, but it's a new day so I suggest you forget about it now and hopefully she learned never to do that to you again.
2007-01-14 09:41:00 · answer #4 · answered by castle h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your being a little bit hard on her, while it was rude, she has not seen the person for a long time, at the end of the day does it really matter?
2007-01-14 09:30:06 · answer #5 · answered by pepsiolic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is rude to leave for that amount of time. What your friend should have done was go over to the person they have not seen in a long time and then invite them over to your table to introduce you to their old friend. You should never abandon the one you are with to talk to someone else for long perionds of time.
2007-01-14 09:32:48 · answer #6 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rude
2007-01-14 10:19:06 · answer #7 · answered by yuuhhuhuh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my books very rude. Too ask somebody to join your table for a few mins. & introduce you would have been different. Still don't hang on to your tiff. Sometimes people do things foolish with out meaning too.
2007-01-14 09:49:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're being hard on her......especially if she hasn't seen the person in a really long time. She see's you all the time right! Don't hog her............
2007-01-14 09:31:11 · answer #9 · answered by oohLa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she definetly was rude, but her friend might have gently said something like this "gosh I felt so foolish sitting here alone, wish you had introduced us"
2007-01-14 09:37:46 · answer #10 · answered by nancy c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋